How to stop payment to ex wife due to neglect of my son

June 15, 2011

On 3rd June 2011 I rang CSA at Duddley and spoke to Emma Turley line manager regards to maintenance I pay to x-wife; which I want to stop.
Emma instructed me to write to DWP and to CSA outlining my reasons. I wrote to DWP and the copy of that letter was sent to CSA with the letter I wrote to CSA.I instructed DWP to stop paying CSA as instructed by them.CSA stated that they cannot stop payment being taken out but the DWP can. I received a call from DWP Manager Mr George stating that he cannot stop payment from my Income Support as CSA will not let them. I have read CSA bookelt and there is nothing based on stopping payment if you wish to challenge this at Court or Tribunal. It seems to me that CSA have one rule only and that is for them take payment out.

I beleive that DWP and CSA are in breach of my Human Rights and I should have the right to challenge CSA and my x-wife; why I should pay maintenance when my son is not been taken care of and he is at risk. My son is Read more

Being called a liar by the CSA despite doing my best

June 15, 2011

Ok, lets keep this short.

Daughter now 13. Thrown out of own home when she was born, took ages to recover house to sell it – obviously making ex partner and daughter homeless in the process.

Seen her once a fortnight for a few hours ever since (at best) New case from CSA apparently (not to my knowledge) brought to bear in 2007. They started contacting me again last year about it. Things have escalated and we had to go to our MP to get them to take me seriously.

They are now wanting 37% of my miniscule salary. Wife’s wages have gone down as Read more

CSA keeps telling lies

June 14, 2011

This is my first visit to this site but I thought that I would just share the latest lies with you all that the CSA are now telling.

For the past 4 years I have been a mature student and even though I have had to work to help finance my life everything seemed to run as smoothly as could be expected with the CSA then out of the blue this past Jan 2011 They decided that they would reassess me again Even though being a student and on a maintenance loan and grant of less than £8000 per academic year (9 months) and where I can I work part time and even with my highest wage slip of just less than £400 per month they manage to come Read more

Arrears and the Child Support Agency

June 14, 2011

I am having lots of problems with the csa.

My daughter is 17 and i am on a low income with my wife and 2 other children to look after. The csa have said i do not earn enough to pay child maintenence but i have to pay the arrears off, which i agree with and which i am doing at £25 a week out of my wages. Only they want it paying off in 2 years, which is impossible cause that works out at over £100 a week.

So they said they would take me to court over and could face prison. I said that was fine and to do it as i want an end to this now, but instead they have referred it back to the bailiffs for the 2nd time who add more money on (dont know how they expect you to pay it off this way) have no credit cards or noone we can borrow the money off and now the bailiffs are threatening to come around next week even though we have told them we dont earn enough and have nothing to sell what do these people want blood?

We are going to citizens advice next week but not holding out much hope as solicitors dont want to kno.

CSA is very one sided

June 13, 2011

Hello, i am a 39 year old father of 3, i was married for 15 years, i suffered mental, physical and financial domestic violence for 5 years, when i finally left my ex partner she would not allow contact, i have only seen my kids 5 times in 3 years, she has lied to the CSA saying she looks after them 7 days a week, yet i have recently found out she has been leaving the kids with my mum friday to sunday whilst she spends my £500 a month going away at weekends with her new man. none of the money is being spent on them, my mum even had to buy my 14yr old son new pants because all his are full of holes, the house i left her in has become a total bombsite as i used to do all the housework, she left me with £38,000 worth of debt, and i cant afford legal representation to fight her in a divorce, the CSA only ever take one side and are unsympahetic, i can understand why some fathers have taken there own lives. The system is one sided.

When she did not let me see them i was posting £500 per month through the door as im not a person who neglects my responsibilities, i see enough of that in my job as a police officer. i am honestly at the moment paying for her lifestyle, she has a £160,000 house with £130,000 of equity, she earns £2600 per month net, and is claiming an additional £600 per month child tax credit. i am heavily in debt and get nothing. please please please somebody out there have some fairness and common sense to review and change the system.

CSA demands twenty thousand pounds, payable in seven days

June 13, 2011

I married my husband and had 4 children before we met. He had 2. We then had one between us.

We have been supporting 5 kids and had demands for 90pw in 2001. My husband was the only one working and after a meeting it was all sorted and the csa decided it was all ok and we were actually in credit GREAT. Until 10 years later they decide to send us a demand for 20,000 out of the blue (please forward a cheque within the next 7 days, yeh right).

Aanyway he was taken to court and an attachment of earnings slapped on him for £60pw, despite requesting a meeting they refused to attend. The judge said he had his hands tied and the attachment had to be made. This was Read more

Ex refuses DNA test, not sure if I am the father

June 12, 2011

I split with my girlfriend in september. We have a 2 year old son. She has always refused to have me on the birth certificate and has told me on several occasions whilst drunk that i am not the dad. But when sobar denies this.

She wants payment off of me for our boy which i have agreed to, but she is denying me access or a dna test which i have asked for countless times.

She is on incapaicty benefit and has 2 other children which are not mine for certain.

If i do this through the csa, which she be made to do a dna test and then will i have more rights in court for access. Also how much money will she directly recieve considering she is on benefits. I’m roughly earning 550 pound every two weeks.. I just want to know what she will recieve as i know some of the money she will not get due to being on benefits?

Will i have more rights to access and what if she refuses a dna test? I have not paid anything so far as i am unsure i am the dad and she is refusing to prove other wise. If i could have email regarding some advice on this, that would be great.

Many thanks, Kevin.

CSA claims I have three children when I do not

June 12, 2011

I am a Canadian who now lives in the United Kingdom, apparently I have a child here, which is impossible. I have sent the CSA everything and requested DNA tests which I am willing to do, this will end all of it. I also asked for a data protecting Act so I could have the info they have.

They never complied and they stopped sending me anything. They did start taking money from my salary without any proof I was the father. I changed jobs, and the stopped sending letters. I have now received a demand for 21k, lowered to 7k.

How can they get away with it? They did not even comply with the Read more

Need advice about CSA payments please

June 11, 2011

What I’m writing about is this. Is there a way for the CSA or any other body to audit or make an enquiry as to how the csa payments being collected from me are being spent by my child’s mother.

Just as quickly as the CSA starts demanding payments from the NRP, I do feel though as there must be a responsibility somewhere for the government to get the payment-receiving parent to justify what she spends the NRP’s hard earned earnings on. If we have the right to demand answers on how our tax money is being spent on from our elected representatives, then what would be the challenge with asking what our earnings are being spent on.

I would appreciate any advice, thoughts, comments, suggestions on this. Bravo to this website for its excellent work.

All the best
Tauseef Tariq

‘You cannot be the parent in care if you do not claim child benefit’ says CSA

June 11, 2011

I am just going through CSA hell and my ex wife abusing the system to extract as much money from me as she can – including huge great fraudulent lies – which unfortunately the CSA have no interest to investigate. As an example, I “cannot have been looking after my son because I was not claiming child benefit” explanation below :-

My ex-wife drove my son out of her house just before christmas. I work out of the country so I arranged that he could live at my UK house (he is 18) and paid him a living allowance while he was there. Unfortunately her emotional blackmail got to him and he moved back to hers after three months. Now get this :-

I sent a letter to the CSA explaining the situation so I could get back the maintenance I had paid to her during the three months, so they phoned her and asked if it was true – she said there had just been a misunderstanding for a Read more

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