Not allowed to see my daughter but still paying CSA
I am 24 and currently serving in Afghanistan in the British Army.
My ex will not let me see my daughter, i am on the birth cirtificate and dont even know the address where she lives as she has moved with her new boyfriend and also had another child with him..
I am married now with a little boy to my wife however still want to see my daughter and it kills me that i pay £200 per month for a child i cant even see..
As i am the only bread winner in my relationship this amount makes it very difficult to keep on top with all the bills and supporting my new born son..
It angers me that my ex has not worked for over four years and gets all benefits along with rent, and csa payments from me and i live on my own wage supporting three mouths..
Surely there must be some law that can help me.
Surely this goverment can’t see this as fair!
Yours hopfully
Lee Cooke
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Lee,
On CS2 you should receive a 15% reduction from your net income, before the 15% for the qualifying child is calculated.
Your family may also be entitled to working and child Tax credits, which could help. Check out entitledto.co.uk
Also, there are some members in the forum at afairercsaforall.co.uk that could offer advise regarding trying to gain access to you child.
I’m sorry to read that you are being denied a relationship with your daughter. The only way to try to force your ex to allow contact is to make an application to court. That is a tortuous path, can be expensive if you employ legal advisers, and has no real guarantee of success. Even if you get a contact order your ex may not comply with it, and the courts will do very little if anything to make her.
I spent 3 years in and out of the courts and got absolutely nowhere. My ex never managed more than a month without breaching the court orders. She even acused me of being a paedophile to thwart contact, which it did very well while I was arrested and investigated!!!
no ho you feel we are in exactly the same position we had a month relationship she lied to me got pregnant even though she told me she was on the pil once pregnant i was dumped and told me she got what she needed she had no intrest in me or the child and its her plan to get benifiits and not work. ten years on i am now happily married with two children and kills me that i have never seen my son and crippled in paying these outrages amounts my chldren have nothing an dont have £200 spent on them each csa is unfair
i no how u feel there, i av a daughter who i seen at 1st well the 1st 2 wks, i was even at the birth, then we fell out she went on to live with anuva lad, i have fought thro the court for 2 years, she tried every thing 2 stop my contact, but persistance payed of, and believe me she is stubborn, ur ex might want to deny u contact, but she can hold old back and fight so much eventually she will give in, dnt give up n keep the fight goin, oh n as 4 being represented, dnt bother represent ur self this is wat iv done and i got further then wen i ad a solicitor, solicitors just want ur muni there crooks n robbers, oh as 4 csa i dnt pay it, iv agreed an amount wiv daughters mum.
as i said keep the fight up n iv u need go court go, n also u can aply 4 perental guidence this way she has tel u wer she lives wat doctors n school shes in then u can go wiv ur court form along to her school n get fed back from then.
good luck
i am in a new relationship my girl has 2 great kids and i intend to marry in the future,but my ex will not let me see my daughter at all because she is insanely jealous of my my new relationship. i dont know what to do.i have tried to talk to her. she promised she would not do this if i met someone. but she has.she is telling lies to my daughter and i cant stop her.I will never give up on my daughter my new family love her to bits. and she likes being with them.
I am in a similar situation,
I am NOT on my daughter’s birth certificate, but I have proven my paternity by means of a CSA sanctioned DNA test. I have been told I have no rights.
My daughter’s mother has expressly forbade me from seeing my daughter. This is not because I am a bad person, abusive, unemployed or incompetent; I am employed in a good job, full time!
Her [my daughters mother] gave me an ultimatum, which was: “if you refuse to be my boyfriend, you will not see your daughter again”. Since this, I have not seen my daughter, I’m heart broken.
Does anyone have any advice?
Thanks.
fme and my ex had been together 2years and have a nine month old daughter we broke up about a month ago as she said she could not cope i dont work but have benafits and never refused to fund my daughter
shes now getting intouch with a solicitor and takeing me to court she hasnt totaly stopped me seeing my daughter but she only wants me to have her once a month
tell me if i am wrong but been her dad i dont see why i should have to only see my little girl when the law states and i should sertinly get to see her more than once a month
i aparently go out and spend money but dont give her anything but i havnt baught anything atall since we separated and the reason i havnt given her ALOT is simply becvause iv had to move towns and am curently waiting for my new claim to go through