Can my partner get help?

September 30, 2019

Hi I wonder if any of you could help me with my enquiry. My partner split with his ex wife 12 years ago, in 2011 a judge ordered him to pay a regular maintenance amount and he has paid it fully and every month via standing order to her bank account He also pays for school shoes, school trips (£1000 for his son to go to Valencia and the football ground in April) and other things she says they need etc.He has his children from Friday after they finish school until sunday evening every other weekend like what was arranged in court,he has done this without exception unless due to illness, his dads death or an accident/emergency with his elderly mother.

 

He has done both pick ups and drop offs for the past 10 years she has done maybe 2 or three drop offs. He didn’t mind doing this because at the time of agreement she wasn’t driving and he was only living 20 mins down the road from her and only an hour and 20 mins drive from work every other Friday to hers to pick them up. So that was all good and it has worked amicably for all this time. She now drives and has done for past 2 years, is remarried, with 2 new children (toddler age), well about 5 months ago they moved roughly half an hour away from where they were living (due to cheaper rent cost and more work for him) this wasn’t a problem (more a bit of a pain in the bum) for my other half as them moving now added on the extra half hour drive to the hour and 20 min drive he already doing from work every other Friday to collect them. He continued to do the driving as normal, any how it came about that we got opportunity to move closer to my disabled daughters (not his child) special needs school plus bigger house but downside higher rent, never mind.

 

This however meant that my partner also had to change jobs due to needing to earn more to pay towards the cost of the rent, this job however is a 2 hour 50 mins drive away from her house (and that’s on a good Dartford tunnel Friday!!). He decided to call her (because they have been able to talk amicably about the kids welfare etc) and explain that now the ‘his driving to pick up’ every Friday situation has changed quite dramatically would she come and collect the children from our new house one Sunday a month. He will still do the 5+ hour return journey from hers to ours but can she help out and return the favour (one Sunday a month isn’t even asking to split it fairly halfway) Her reply was a complete NO. No thought, no fairness just a No I’m not driving that far

CMS wiped my savings even though I proved I had been paying

July 29, 2019

I was told a year ago that i was in arrears by £5900, i fortunately had proof of bank satements clearly showing monies that had been paid, and provided this evidence.
today i have had my savings cleared out by CMS without any warnings and really do not know what to do.

this money was my money and not for my child support which i have also been paying weekly

what can i do ?

How much CSA should I be paying?

November 26, 2018

I’m 18 years old with a 3 month old little girl but also a 1 month old little boy both with different mothers I am in a relationship with my little boys mother we live in a 2 bedroom house so have rent and bills to pay for , the mother of my little girl has only just started to let me see her properly and is demanding money even tho I never get to see her.

I just wondered how much csa I would pay for her monthly as I have an income of approximately £1,300 a month but I of course have lots of bills going out every month also which I’m not sure if that is taken into consideration when it comes to how much I would have to give the mother?

How to beat CSA’s fraudulent arrears!

November 2, 2018

IMPORTANT – CSA ARREARS – Csa are currently transferring all their fictitious arrears to Cms for collection. Csa is being closed down due to false accounting, the big factor being that they were inventing arrears on father’s accounts, and as many are now experiencing, they failed to close accounts properly on their computers. There have been thousands of cases like this, so you are not alone. Csa spent years inventing billions of pounds of fictitious arrears on father’s accounts and now they are trying to collect. Even if you have a case closure letter from Csa which confirm that there were no arrears outstanding, you are still liable to receive letters from Csa or Cms demanding payment of arrears. You need send a copy of the case closure letter and state that as there are no arrears on your account when your case was closed, then these arrears have been invented by Csa and that there demand for payment is a fraudulent one and and any attempt to take this money will be treated as theft. Demand that they send an immediate letter of apology for harassing and threatening you and that you confirm that there are no arrears outstanding. If they believe that there are, then they need to supply a full account audit, all transactions, full details of all assessment calculations and proof of any arrears within 14 days. Send this headed Formal Complaint to [email protected] head of Cms with a copy to your MP and the National Audit Office, clearly marked, and get an urgent meeting with your MP. You can add that you are fully aware of the Fictitious Arrears Scandal and that Csa has been closed down due to fraudulent accounting. Confirm your email 14 days later, that as they have been unable to provide any evidence of these arrears, as they were invented by Csa, you confirm that there are no arrears and the matter is now closed. This should also be copied to your MP, NAO and [email protected] For further information read my post Fictitious Arrears. Just type Fictitious Arrears into the Search box on here.

Be warned, once you receive the arrears letter from Cms, Cms are acting promptly to either do a DEO on your salary, or to seize money from your bank accounts.

So play safe, warn your employer that Cms may attempt to fraudulently take money from your salary. Similarly, move any money in bank accounts to other accounts not in your name, and get a letter off to your bank immediately that you do not accept liability for any money taken from your account without your authorisation or for any overdraft charges incurred and that you hold the bank fully responsible for returning any money taken from your account without your written authorisation.

No-one will tell me if daughter is still in college and whether I still need to pay CSA

September 7, 2018

My daughter is 19 and told me she was not going back to college. She has failed GCSE English for 3 years in a row. She told me she was not allowed to finish her course. She is on a 2 year level 3 Health and Social care course. She repeated the first year and led me to believe she failed again. I do not know if she did, she won’t show or discuss any results with me. So I stopped my CSA payments.

Then the CSA contacted me saying she is still at College. They said her mother says she is doing another year at College. I have paid up due to charges/fines etc. They said it is up to me to prove she is not in college. That I need to continue to pay. However if I over pay they will not refund me any over payment and I would need to approach my ex wife. However my daughter and ex wife won’t communicate with me over the matter. I have contacted the College who will not tell me whether she is registered with them on a course due to data protection. I do not know what to do. I can’t find out the truth and on the word of one woman (whom I know well when it comes to money, I overpaid for 18 months with my son. She told me I had to pay whilst he was on an apprenticeship and I believed her at the time – money is very tight for me on minimum wage.

Do my payments alter if son is sent to a private school?

July 31, 2018

I pay child maintenance every month for my soon to be 15 yr old son I haven’t seen for six years. CAFCASS were utterly useless as I have taken my ex to court twice to gain access but they decided they didn’t want to coerce my son to see me. I have moved house to be closer to him in the vain hope I may see him, but she moved nearly fifty miles away to disrupt any attempts to reconnect with my son. After sending letters to gauge how he is doing I finally received a limited response. She informed me that she had opted not to send my son to school after the move citing he was being assessed for autism which i find difficult to believe. Reference the continuation of payments must I still pay if he has been removed from state schooling?

Daughter is moving in with her boyfriend’s family so who do I pay now?

June 19, 2018

My 16 yr old daughter (still in full-time education) who lives with her mother is stating that she is going to live with her boyfriends family. My question is how does this work with regards to maintenance. I am assuming that both myself and my ex wife will have to pay maintenance to her BF family? Would the child benefit also need to be moved over to the BF family? My ex is telling my daughter that she will not have to pay anything and she still gets to keep the child beneft too, which I am sure is incorrect. Any advice/guidance would be really appreciated.

My advice to combat the CSA after a 20 year battle

April 20, 2018

I was going to put my sorry case on this site. I’ve read countless stories on here that all amount to the same thing.

I’ve been fighting with the CSA for around twenty years and at times ive used a solicitor.

Here’s my advice:

Whatever the CSA state that you owe, do the very best deal that you can with them and just pay it.

With all the will and knowledge in the world, you will not beat them. It doesnt matter how honest you are.

You need to understand this:

The CSA have free rein to do as they please. Nobody you know can touch them. The most you can hope for is to come on these sites and vent.

Here’s the clincher; If you do get the chance to appear in front of a tribunal. The Judge will F**k you over anyway. He/She will dismiss your evidence, bully you, double count, basically anything they want to do, they’ll do. If you appeal, the same judge will reject it . If you appeal to the upper tribunal, you will be F***ed over again.

Solicitors: forget them, They’ll wring you for a few grand and in the end, they’ll shrug and tell you that you have a case but theres nothing more they can do.

I’m in talks with a paper, not about the CSA but the tribunal judge that acted illegally in his own court.

Failing that i’ll be donning a batman costume and climbing onto a motorway bridge.

While we all sit moaning on here, nothing will ever change.

Can my husband claim back historical CSA payments back due to age?

March 6, 2018

My husband was 15 when he fathered a child with a 21yr old woman. My husband was hounded by the CSA to pay for this child. Surely upon reading prehistoric cases, this woman groomed and had sex with a minor? There have been statements written and proof that she started having sex with a 14 year old boy! We are thinking about seeking legal advice, could we get our money back which we paid, my husband is 51 now and the child is in his 30’s. No contact has been made.

What are my rights against abusive CSA?

February 6, 2018

I pay direct to my daughters mother her maintainence weekly by standing order but mother is denying I am paying and I have to show bank statements to prove I am paying. CSA are now threatening me with court action, seizure of my belongings and driving license and i feel stressed and intimidated by it. What are my options as I regard this as abusive from both her and them. Do I have any rights ?

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