My ex left and married someone else – why does she automatically get a third of my wages now?

October 30, 2013

I have had £115 per week taken from my wages by the CSA. The amount is £ 60 for child maintenance plus £55 arrears. Backdated to last year. Even though I have never been asked for money before.

The result is I am overdrawn at the bank and behind with my rent. I can’t believe they have the power to do this . I might have to leave my job and claim benefits or move abroad. My ex left me, married somebody else and changed my child’s name. She Has never made any attempt to call me about my child’s welfare but the CSA are giving her a third of my wages every week , leaving me in dire straights, how can this be allowed to happen?


33 Responses to “My ex left and married someone else – why does she automatically get a third of my wages now?”

  1. Del Miller on October 30th, 2013 12:09 pm

    how many children? £115 sounds two much. I think there may be an administration error here

  2. Jolene Jennifer Richardson on October 30th, 2013 12:10 pm

    The CSA told me the payments start fron the first day you contact them

  3. Del Miller on October 30th, 2013 12:19 pm
    try this link and return the results

  4. Sally Rogers on October 30th, 2013 12:27 pm

    Join csa rip offs and follow step by step guide. The will help you sort this

  5. Nicola Burstow-Goff on October 30th, 2013 12:50 pm

    Sally how do you join?

  6. Lisa on October 30th, 2013 1:52 pm

    Have you contacted CSA to let them know of your circumstances and told them the hardships you now face, they can reduce your assessment if this is the case, have you also questioned the arrears?? These sometimes an be because of the CSA maladministration through not contacting the non resident parent allowing arrears to accrue through no fault of your own, question everything, usually making a complaint shows these errors up, if you can try to come to an arrangement with your ex, cut out the CSA completely they are the biggest corrupt organisation that makes mistakes and ruins people’s lives good luck with it all

  7. Jill Betterton on October 30th, 2013 2:14 pm

    This is all so unfair. All of you that do pay CSA seem to get ripped off then there are people like my ex who refuses to pay and gets away with it 🙁

  8. Paul Akroyd on October 30th, 2013 4:40 pm

    Yes the CSA are cruel + unfair but why wouldn’t you want to pay for your children ?

  9. David Yeomans on October 30th, 2013 5:31 pm

    I pay £260 a month

  10. chall on October 30th, 2013 6:36 pm

    Hi Joseph,

    Although you ‘have never been asked for money before’, had the CSA previously made contact with you?

    Did you already have a child maintenance arrangement in place with your child’s mother?

  11. terry norris on October 30th, 2013 9:09 pm

    omg…the chall is back….you want get any sympathy from the chall or help only what he/she is telling you now that aint gonna help.
    listen to sally.
    Chall you think your input gonna help this bloke lol

  12. terry norris on October 30th, 2013 9:11 pm

    lisa I mean sorry

  13. Sally on October 30th, 2013 10:33 pm

    Ha ha terry… I’m laughing away here… Chall has been waiting for his/her moment to return… I’m sure Alice will resurrect him/herself soon too ….

    You can’t keep a good stalker down… Or should that be troll…

    I hope you are well.. I’m liking your posts and comments… Right on all accounts 🙂


  14. chall on October 31st, 2013 7:40 am

    Hi Sally & Terry (gonk)

    Off-topic messages with the deliberate intent of disrupting normal on-topic discussion as per usual from you both ;o) lol

  15. Tony on October 31st, 2013 9:39 am

    This is only my experience with the CSA, 20 years ago when they started, I agreed with my Ex to pay £30 PW towards my childs keep , then she had to claim benefits, so this had to go through court, and £30 a week was the amount agreed again, 6 months later, along comes the CSA who decided that I should pay £67 PW, this would have put me £20 a week in debt, when appealing, I was told to sell my car and to get a P/T job, I worked 70 hours a week and lived in an extremely rural area 20 miles from my place of work, started work at 6am and with no public transport, after months of letters to them,they still would not listen.
    My only course of action was to fake an accident at work so that I could get made redundant, I was then able to claim benefits myself, this is something that I would not recommend as it totally ruined my life, after a short period of time, I found out that the CSA have a really hard job to enforce payments if you are self-employed, so this is the path that I took.
    Seven years ago, I received the letter from the CSA stating that my liability was now over due to my daughter being 19 YO.
    This April whilst on holiday, I received a telephone call from the CSA on my mobile!!! (I never gave them the number!!!) telling me that I owed them £351 from 1993? I said, don’t be so stupid, I was sent a letter to tell me my liability had ended 7 years ago?. Anyway I asked for proof of the debt, told them repeatedly not to call my mobile (they still did several times a day) and to write to a C/O address which I gave them. they could provide NO proof, threatened to take me to court, take payments from my wages through employer (Still self-employed!!), send me to prison for up to 6 months, take my driving licence or passport from me.
    I wrote them letters every week asking for proof, they wrote to me every week not providing any, I asked them to take me to court, they did’nt. I wrote to the Parlimentary Ombudsman, within 1 week, I received a letter of apology from the CSA telling me that my case was now closed, I did not owe them any money and I would not hear from them again. WOW.

    My advice, never ever speak to them on the telephone, always write letters to them keeping copies, never give them any information that you do not have to, and question everything that they ask you, over and over.

    Unfortunately the CSA really did my head in the 1st time, this time was even worse, because I knew that I did’nt owe anything.

    These people are Leaches, the Lowest of the Low.

  16. Sally on October 31st, 2013 11:34 am

    Not at all chall, you have a short memory… you were forced to stop using this website because so many people were contradicting what you said (because you, like Alice were supplying incorrect, limited and bias (towards the PWC) information) and when people questioned you, you got nasty, stalked them and posted personal information about them…

    i’m assuming you have attended anger management classes while having a ‘break’ lol lol

  17. Gonk on October 31st, 2013 1:38 pm

    You can refer to me as terry or gonk,you don’t need to remind me of who I am or anyone else for that matter since I start my comment with terry and sign off with gonk, or are you just reminding us all of what a tit you really are?
    Well it’s good to have you back and I will be reading your useless offers of help very carefully and pouncing on you with great enthusiasm.
    Little tip for you, people don’t need you offering to educate them how this unfair system works or you showing them how to read and understand the rules of it in order the CSA can bleed them quickly and efficiently ,or you spouting legislation. How does your input here on this posting help this guy, if they contacted him or not? Do you really think that matters? They will still take his money. Let’s assume he did have CM arrangements in place with the mother. Now you tell me PLEASE , You have asked me 2 questions for the sake of my wanting a reply from you. If I answered either yes or no to either question, will it take my problem away and stop these vultures picking the flesh from my bones. Simple answer will suffice please…yes or no ? Will they take his circumstances into account here and try and come to an arrangement with him where he can still live? Lol….I think not.
    On another note, what brings you back ? Was it the sharp first frost this yr a few nights ago that woke you from under your stone ?

  18. Gonk on October 31st, 2013 2:04 pm

    @ chall on October 31st, 2013 7:40 am
    Hi Sally & Terry (gonk)
    Off-topic messages with the deliberate intent of disrupting normal on-topic discussion as per usual from you both ;o) lol

    On the contrary chall. These are not off- topic messages. They are designed to warn posters of you and your one sided biased ( normally in favour of the pwc ) replies.
    You are just a well oiled mouth piece that represents the CSA…..a guide book that you spell out to us in order we comply effectively and efficiently

  19. Gonk on October 31st, 2013 2:21 pm

    @ Sally
    Love reading your comments too Sally…I find them educating and well worded and I learn more each week about this vermin and some of its grim reapers that follow behind its devastation to clean up remains of NRP’s and some P’sWC that they have had the misfortune to come into contact with.
    The CSA is like the plague, it infects your mind and soul and turns us into dogs fighting for scraps at the expense of the kids. Lots of times sadly this plague kills people as well.

  20. chall on October 31st, 2013 3:37 pm

    – what a load of tosh….

    It’s such a shame the pair of you are obviously unable to offer any attempt at a solution to the OP query – never mind, all your inane carping is bound to make all the difference 🙂

    Back to the OP….

  21. Sally on October 31st, 2013 4:56 pm

    @ chall…. what’s worse – no information or intentionally misleading information…

    which one can (and does) have a detrimental effect on the OP…. I rest my case!!

  22. terry on October 31st, 2013 6:55 pm

    @ Chall we go here we go…the chall I sense is beginning to get rattled…go on fool!! make a bigger one of yourself.
    Why wont you tell me how your comment to this poster is going to help him….TELL ME…TELL US ALL. Maybe just explain why you asked those 2 questions….what did you mean by them ? whats your SOLUTION Chall ?

  23. chall on October 31st, 2013 9:40 pm

    Awww, you two just don’t seem able to help yourselves…–csa-is-taking-too-much-17165.html
    … at least seem to amuse each other – sweet eh lol

  24. terry norris on October 31st, 2013 9:52 pm

    why do you evade the question I ask?? its simple answer it please.

  25. terry norris on October 31st, 2013 9:56 pm

    so you think Chall that pb is right in suggesting that this guy put his ex’s kids before his new partners dis abled child ? you think he is not allowed to move on and have a life with a new partner and provide for them ?? you are sicker than I thought you sad cow

  26. terry norris on October 31st, 2013 10:04 pm

    @chall…you can only come back with sarcasm which is the lowest form of whit…you are your old self again and I smile because the more you reply the more fuel you throw on my fire…wasn’t it you that said myself and sally only send “off-topic” messages…lol….like you lol NOW ANSWER MY QUESTION, WHERE DOES YOUR 2 QUESTIONS HELP THIS GUY??/ It aint a complicated question my dear

  27. terry norris on October 31st, 2013 10:17 pm

    ok let me explain if you can be bothered to understand? You ask 2 questions to this guy, now if he had answered them. what help would you have offered him that would solve his problem? Please educate me, I am here to listen and maybe cut you some slack if you give a answer that is going to help him. I cant help him because I am not as clever as you lead people to believe you are, so help me understand, help him, help us all.

  28. terry norris on October 31st, 2013 10:26 pm

    well said Tony…maybe the Chall here could offer her input on this one……doubt it

  29. chall on October 31st, 2013 11:11 pm

    I think Terry, you are an impossible, abusive individual who needs have a go at anybody regardless that they have no control over laws and legislation, because your bloody annoyed with an ex that has crapped on you from a great height and your frustrated with system that has rubbed salt into the wounds and isn’t fit for purpose , either for your kids or you.

    ‘if you can be bothered to understand’ ….

    Most parents on here and other forums are in the same boat as you, and not everybody has to think the same as you.

    We all (NPR&PWC) have our own experiences.
    Im currently challenging the CSA on behalf of my OH – PWC claimed ChB long after 2 QC ceased to qualify. ChB didn’t feel the need to notify the CSA & Im lobbing my MP in an attempt make it law that ChB should notify CSA.

    We don’t ALL have to like each other, but we are in a minority, it would perhaps make more sense to be a bit more grown up and stick to the fact that its the CSA we’r fighting.

  30. Gonk on November 1st, 2013 8:33 am

    Your first paragraph is very correct and sums me up to a T arpart from the part that I need to have a go at everyone, not true, only those that appear to be or come across as being on the side of this unfair unjust system. There is no excuse for this shit house organisation and none either for anyone that sides with them.
    It’s very frustrating that this woman craps on me and takes my child away and then expects me to pay for the privilege. What’s worse is this shithouse organisation taking advantage of an already difficult situation and exploiting it. I DON’T need the CSA telling me I need to support my child and sure as hell recent being forced to hand money over to an ex ,knowing it is just lining her and her new partners pockets. Says a lot about the CSA and their so called commitment to bringing children out of poverty when they don’t care where the money goes once the mother receives it.
    And notice how I calm down and cut you slack when you talk to me like human being and not just reply with sarcastic remarks.
    I appreciate you seeing me the way you explain. There, I even learned and respect what you are fighting for since you taken the time to explain.


  31. Gonk on November 1st, 2013 8:40 am

    @ chall
    Forgot to mention that adds to my anger and frustration, my ex never bothers to contact me on school hols etc, never bothered taking my daughter out to buy her dad a birthday card or fathers day card.
    I have not seen my daughter since last June and that was for just 1 day.
    Why the hell should a father pay for a daughter who’s mother won’t let him see?

  32. Lisa on November 2nd, 2013 12:24 pm

    Terry, chall is right were all here for the same reason, we have all been conned or robbed by CSA and the ex either by money or the children, fighting back against them we need to collectively not on our own, we have a voice we need to be heard, otherwise they will carry on taking people’s lives and playing games with them, we are not pawns anymore as you know only to well,

  33. Charlotte Rosevear on November 11th, 2013 5:51 am

    I have always been told that with any over payment due to mother is to be paid… however the csa still have to leave the NRP with a % of money to live from.
    Check the amount you pay is correct

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