I have nothing, Ex has a speed boat
My children’s father is lying to the CSA about his earnings stating he is earning less than the minimum wage, which I pointed out that they should be reporting this fact only to be ‘oh we don’t!’
I recently looked on Google street to find that whilst the children are living below the poverty line he is sitting with around £25,000 worth of assets (purchased when he said he was unemployed) on his drive alone, including a decent sized speed boat. Hardly the life style of some who professes to be living on a low income!
There is no point in contacting the CSA for them to investigate because they won’t, all they say is ‘he has probably taken out a loan’. When I try to tell them ‘yes he may well of taken out a loan but loans need to be paid back as well as his mortgage, council tax, fuel bills etc’ they just won’t listen…they have some money and they are happy.
They know and have admitted in the CSA my ex is hiding money but they will do nothing to find it! He gave his factious wages slips and that is all they want.
Despite the changes they are still useless and ineffective at least with the old courts system the circumstances on both sides where looked into properly and any absent parents earnings were found, even if they were hiding money as my ex is!
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You do have two options 1) Tell the CSA you want his earnings checked with the Inland Revenue. They can do it and resukts back in 10 days trouble is they dont want to cos it costs them money. 2) Tell CSA your taking dad to Court for payment to be increased and that you are calling on the CSA as a witness . Anyone has the right to call the CSA into a court under these circs. Good luck no wot its like. Got 2 kids, below poverty line, dad lives a lavish lifestyle beyound his means. He gets away with it cos of wife num 3 he says everythins hers
I suspect that wife no 2 (or partner) has it all in her name too or the rest of his wage is paid in cash, off the books.
I have called the CSA in the past regarding the pitiful wage he claims he is getting that won’t even cover the mortgage he has let alone any things else, including a months holiday down under…unless I can show the actual plane ticket they aren’t interested and even then they just said ‘he has probably taken out a loan for it’….I pointed that loans NEED to be paid back and if he doesn’t earn enough to pay his mortgage or bills he won’t earn enough to pay a loan back or even gset a loan. But they can’t see that. Like I say they have their money and that’s fine by them.
Personally I could do without the stress and hassle, but it’s the children I get annoyed about. It’s THEIR money he is living in luxury on. Still at the end of the day children aren’t stupid and they are fully aware of the ‘love’ it shows.
I hear of other split parents where the absent parent, male or female, pays a good maintence and buys extra’s for the children as a treat. Mine wouldn’t even buy a £1 pair socks on one over night visit because they got left out of the bag by accident, the child went without in winter. I feel quiet envious of decent absent parents at times.
“Tell CSA your taking dad to Court for payment to be increased and that you are calling on the CSA as a witness . ”
That would be a complete and utter waste of time and money because the courts only have juresdiction where the CSA do not, which is not the case here.
fair play to him if he can get away with it! lol
What about fair play to the children who are going without, who are wearing second hand clothes and miss out on school activities?
The ‘system’ is unfair for both sides becasue of the failure by the CSA to properly investigate the absent parents earnings and life styles.
Are you happy YOUR taxes are paying for HIS children? In other words YOU are paying to feed, clothe and house his children whilst he is ‘getting away with it!’
Not so funny now is it!
question
does he see his kids
is he able to see them when ever he wants
do you work
why is everyone missing the real point
if he sees his kids and spends over 50 percent of his time a month with his children
you cant ask for no bloody money as he is taking responsabilty for them
if he works and got a speed boat so be it he worked for it and earned it
IF HE DOES NOT TAKE NO RESPONABILTY FOR HIS CHILDREN THEN ITS SHOULD BE DONE BY THE UNLAWFUL CSA CALCULATOR
YOU ARE ONLY FORCING THE CSA TO GET A DEO ON HIS WAGES TO GET THE HIGHER RATE OF MONEY
IF YOU ARE ONE OF THESE PEOPLE WHO LIMIT THERE CONTACT TIME WITH THERE FATHER LIKE MY DEAD BEAT XWIFE WHY SHOULD HE PAY ANYTHING .
LETS HAVE THE WHOLE STORY AND NOT JUST THE BITS YOU CHOOSE
THE WHOLE ARTICLE WHICH HAS BEEN POSTED IS ONLY ONE SIDED OF THE STORY LET GET THE OTHER SIDE IN AND SEE WHAT HE PUT HIS CASE FORWARD
Your answer is based on your own bitter experiences and we only have one side of that!
However I shall indulge your bias rant with a very brief outline.
I am disabled, one child is disabled and needs full time care…so no I can’t work even if I were fit enough.
No he doesn’t see his children, and please don’t shout it is unnecessary. This is the children’s choice (with legal back up) after we all, except him, tried to accommodate his rages, tantrums and changing his mind on when and IF he wanted to see the children. This mind changing also included if he wanted to pay maintenance or not if he had a better offer of lets say a holiday for himself, or a few beers down the pub or indeed if he just took a flakely and things weren’t going as HE wanted regardless of what I or the children had planned on days that were not ‘HIS days’ but he decided they were because the week before he had a date or something and couldn’t see the children!
As for responsibility for them..there’s a laugh. One of my children as I have already said is disabled and needs things which he made no contribution toward, even when my solicitor asked him to help out on certain items, and goes to see a consultant regularly. I used to inform the child’s father when this was happening, expecting him to ask how things were on our return or even when the children spoke to him next. He did not, not even once. He never asked about the children’s health or well being or about their schooling, ever! In end I gave up telling him because there was no point, he just wasn’t interested.
On access days I had no contact details of how to get hold of him in an emergency and had to sneak mobile phones in the children’s pockets as he would return the children at a time that suited him and not the time we arranged so I never knew when they were coming back and added to this I was never allowed to know where they were going to..none of my business is what he would tell me. If the children hurt themselves or fell during these visits he would not get the children treated or return before he was ready to
If we went on holiday, thanks to a charity for disabled children, we would be bombarded with unsocial phone calls with him ranting and trying to stop us going away for a few days.
To answer your unasked question, yes the children are free to contact him when ever they want to or even see him. The non disabled child spoke to him on the phone years ago after I consulted to my solicitor regarding the constant harassment phone calls at unsocial hours from him and I had to put a block on his calls. The results of this phone call was the child was questioned very heavily on what I was doing and came off the phone saying ‘I NEVER WANT TO DO THAT AGAIN’.
But you have missed the point too. This man was earning £19+ an HOUR as a company director and stated to the CSA via fictitious wage slips he was earning minimum wage. This man also took a month long holiday to New Zealand last year then claimed he was unemployed when he returned and claimed benefits.
im not bitter i did say if he does not take ressonabitly for he children then i agree he should pay for them
it is people like that what give us a bad rep and destroys it for fathers who want to take responabitly for there children
by what your saying he make no effort what so ever and that a epic fail because it sound like a cold heart git (something i could never do to my kids its not there fault )
if you let talk or let them see the dad there should be more mums like who could learn of you .
take him to court yourself and good luck
There would be no point with taking him to court because I daresay all his stuff is not in his name, he knows how to play the benefit game very well (but I didn’t allow it when we were together)
Children are not stupid, they know actions speak louder than words!