CSA want me to pay my rich ex
Hi can anyone give me some decent advise…Im a women not man lol….
I had very nasty divource wish bastard was dead sorry guys but its true….he and my mother took my 3 babies off me Im still left with 2 daugters that they couldnt get there hands on thx god….
Im on low income 205 week plus i get working and child tax credits the csa are taking from my wages and my tax credits….
I dont claim for the other 3 the goverment top my wages up by giving me my tax credits so why is it allowed that the csa can help them selfs to this aswell…
my rent is 425 and you can say its a shoe box….in block off flats..my two child eat noodles and noodles smart price Lm constanly in debt with bank…i cant afford pay my council tax im now in arrears Im not eatin proberly…ive had to work overtime to get myself out off debt im tired now mth off doin it but im still 700 pounds overdrawn still I wrote to csa tellin them not to take twice the amount out my acc i sent them details off my incoming and outgoings from debt councillor I guess they dont give a shit my two kids are hungry then and are depressed cause mum is always at work to feed them…and pay my ex for there sisters keep…
i dont mind paying them some money after all l gave birth to them…wat can I do to make my two daughters lives better now i wounder wat a takeaway tastes like? and to take my kids the pictures or even buy them a present is not happening right now xmas they got nothing my ex called me even called me with kids asking to see me ….he said i should take them out to the wackey when they come wtf is he a dick head or what???? l dont have anymoney to feed myself let alone take wat he calls his kids out to the fin wackey….
so hope himself and his girlfriend who moved in with him to have my kids off me are happy nice for him 30k plus job new girlfriend 2 incomes plus my csa money so thats nice life for him….
I wanna knw how i can make my life easier for me and my 2 gurls i wanna go shop and not worry about buyin bloody milk and bread???
I wanna knw how i can apply to court and have everythin looked at now and get a payment maintaince order drawn up from court not csa….
if not then theres only one option for me i cant get married cause they take ur partners wage into acc aswell is this true???
when my 2 daughters are able to look after them selfs go uni pay that themselfs Im off out off this fin country???? and go live outside the e u …….fuk ur self nigel and my mother…..lifes a bitch but i will be one back one day…..so if i go l ll be getting my own back on the other side off the world…..in small fuked up land just so i can eat and be left the fuk alone……..and have children with someone else and not meet another dick like you who take ur babies away …..yes im very angry right now…
or i can drop my 30 hrs off work to look after my poor daughters who i still have…and drop my wages below 100 which will do my head in sit at home basically on dole not me but hey…how many mothers do you knw work when they had 5 kids all girls and ages 14,12,5,twins are 4 seroiusly i need some free adivise now…if csa find out im workin my arse off on overtime they will take that too…so im surposed to starve all 3 off us….this is all because my ex hates me and is racist pig….and doesnt believe in god…..at all….
I found out im mixed race after i had my twins he said what i didnt wanna marry anyone other than white girl???? and im now muslim it has helped me and it pissed him off….emmm i dnt care its same god ive believed in my whole life…just different look at it…it saved my life he took my girls its stoped my toppin myself so many times….
i hate him…that will neva stop but hes forgien for what hes done now….but i need to knw how i can make better life for what i have left before i loose anythin more…
if i have to give up my job just so i can pay my rent and bills and to be able to get food on table then i will..all my respect will be gone then….doley shame off it….
goverment will pAY MY RENT AND BILLS…DOLE MONEY WILL PAY MY FOOD ELEC ETC…this is another option for me at min???
please can anyone give me some adivise can i take them to court to apply for a maintance order what should i do where can i start….i tried sending them lettes with all info they asked for so they can review my payments but they havent done thing????
i need help ??????
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So sorry to hear you’re having such a crap time. Thankfully you are at least blessed with two babies that keep you grounded. Just a thought but why doesn’t he pay CSA for the two you have? He’s legally bound to do so. If there isn’t a claim outstanding I’d start one immediately. For the record, do not tell the CSA about any overtime or tax credits as they will add that as your income (trust me, I’m speaking from experience!) They cannot take your partners income into account unless you tell them about it. It’s how we are managing at the moment as my hubby has the CSA after him for a child he’s denied access to and I refuse to pay a penny on his behalf. Everything is in my name including income. I couldn’t sit at home all day either – unlike his ex who’s a benefit scrounger who smokes drugs and watches Jeremy Kyle all day….lol. Joking aside, I really wish you all the best and truly believe what goes around comes around…x
To echo the above poster.
If your ex is father to your two daughters that live with you, have you claim child maintenance from him?
I cant make claim for my 2 children living with me as there farther is unknown just say that its safer option for them as there dad tried to do somethink to me and I had lucky escape!!! the police have said if he contacts me or finds me here were I live then they will bang him up for good….
the dad off the 3 girls took us all on years ago let them call him dad…soon as he left that all changed he broughtthem up from baby too..sad for them really…now i just think if i ever find someone else itll be a friend that will be role model but not dad…better that way they wont feel let down by dad figure again….
as for the csa they already knw im claiming tax credits? so what do i do now……
if I meet someone then I wont tell them and he can claim tax credits on my behalf then one way out offt his mess….
as for overtime ? how can i not tell them they phe work to find out my wages in it????
it ll be on my wage slips???
new tax year starts soon??? april so my wage slips start again then Ive just start payin so do bit overtime after they have assessed it then after 6 mths they do it again then they leave it another 6mth to year……..
so ill be doin overtime now til end march then im stopping?
as for my tax credits im not goin to claim it for few mths then Ill claim it at later date…thatll reduce his money lol I hate my ex hes money mad…I just wanna pay my way not get greedy…like some poeple……
hes probly goin down bookies again… with my money he likes horses he wasted 4000 off our money I caught him tryin to win it back tried to stop him but he went behind my back doin it? shame really just finished relationship off even more than his racist comments about colour off my skin…..
his new girlfriend is his best mate mans wifes twin sister too…and his best mate like dogs so Im thinkin yeah my money aint goin on the kids….
when they did visit they were always in the clothes i gave him when they had to be handed over in end they had holes in etc etc….when i had to pay him money then he did manage to get them new coats so it made me feel better……
as for presents i gave them he throw them at me in street and said he didnt want pack*** cloths in his house? wtf*** I bought them from bloody peacocks they were so nice I got them skinny legging and long woolie bright stylish jumpers that covered them up they had little dolly shoes too..they picked them out…
so that upset my kids i told the eldest off the 3 to tell daddy you want them and you can wear them coz you choice them and mummy bought them us for present for eid….
so wat do I do stop claimin tax credits for few mths…then reclaim not tell them wont they find out im claiming it?
my new name Ive changed to sl
they knw me as my old english name and my husbands sirname? ha
as for if i get married Im not tellin them shit or about him or my new married name either so how do i hide my over time then
so I need to knw can i take them to court? over rule them in court with maintaince order
how do I hide my overtime coz Im now 800 pounds overdrawn and need to work my arse off to catch up or Im in more debt than ever
how do I get out off them not knwin about tax credits etc?
I might give up my job soon Lm better off on dole at this rate….Ive been told by job center Im better off not working at min? joke or wat?
I dont like been sit at home mum on dole never eva..boring like my daughters to learn that you have to work to keep ur kids not be pram pusher ya knw wat I mean…but all Im teachin them at min is working and havin ex like that is your husband takes urs kids off you coz he didnt like you managin without him and keepin you job with five kids….
he only got kids coz police told me to change the locks on my house that I used to own but becoz I did that they arrested me anyway? the world is fuk up coz his name was on the bloody mortage he had rights ????? wtf!!!!!! the police new wat was goin on but the co said he felt sorry for me but had to do wat he had to do…B*********d
any ideas people ????
18 Mar 2008 No Arrears plus letter from CSa confirming same
11 Nov 2008 £1161 arrears!
18 Nov 2008 £1227.61 arrears!!
29 Apr 2009 £3151.03 arrears!!!
Feb 2005
Case began Feb 2005, agreement between both solicitors at time was I would pay £400 per month to ex wife for child maintenance until CSA got their assessment completed, dealt with in Court.
Jun 2005
A dispute developed between CSA and I when they suggested that I had amassed arrears in the region of £1500. After many lengthy conversations between my ex wife and CSA and including letters from both parties solicitors at the time the CSA then removed this amount from the account, I was told! (Michelle CSA). Payments were set at £414 per month
Jun 2006
After many months of telephone conversation ‘Shared Care’ kicked in and my payments were reduced by CSA to £360.
Mar 2008
All was content for many months until my ex during a financial settlement was seeking financial support from me and she made a claim in Court that I wasn’t paying her full CSA. I contacted the CSA on the 14 Mar 2008 to clarify the situation and according to their records, I was fully paid up to date, paying the correct amount and there were no arrears.
Within the next few months of this, I don’t know when, my ex had denied receiving £400 per month from me that I was initially paying before the CSA got their calculations completed, I was contacted by CSA again saying I owed them £1227. I forwarded the letter I had received from the CSA dated 18 Mar 2008 and I was told by CSA that the letter was incorrect and I should not have received it and they also said that I should have been paying £414.
I pointed out the fact that I had paid the amount requested by CSA after they had done their ‘Shared Care’ calculation. Again I was told by the CSA I was incorrect. I stuck to what I was told to pay by the CSA which included ‘Shared Care’ and they stuck by their story that every thing I received from they prior they said was incorrect and denied that anyone within CSA had ever told me to pay £360 based on ‘Shared Care’.
Sep2008
The CSA applied a DOE for their amount to come from my wages including the arrears they added.
Nov 2008
One of my sons moved in with me on a full time basis, I contacted the CSA and they completed a further DOE with a reduction for my son living with me.
However the dispute over the arrears continued and I was going round in circles, never getting the same person twice.
Apr2009
I decided to go the small claims court and a date was set on the 29 Apr 2009. I met up with representatives of the CSA, they assured me that ‘no way did I owe any arrears and that they would personally see that this would be sorted out. I took them at their word and the case didn’t go ahead.
29 Apr 2010
Upon my return home from the court in my house was a letter from the CSA saying I owed them £3151. I made contact with Allen Mills and he assured me it was all a mistake that it was now in their Scotland office and he would sort it out and don’t worry about it.
From that day to now I’ve going round in circles with the CSA.
Data Protection Act 1998
May 2009
In the mean time I got all my information from the CSA under the Data Protection Act and its clear from the information within those documents that they knew the initials payments of £400 per month had been paid as my ex had actually told them they were being paid monthly on May 2005.
Also it was well documented that I had been told to pay £360 per month based on ‘Shared Care’. I know this started on the 17th May 2006 as I’ve written this at work however despite a second request for information under the Data Protection Act, I haven’t received this notification I received by phone from Phyllis Watson at CSA. Further to this, I requested a Direct Debit form and they posted this out to me with the value on it of £360.
I paid the CSA what I was told to pay, because of someone’s mess I got stung with arrears from somewhere.
During all this wrangling, I’ve received 2 separate payments (May 2009, £100 & 2 Dec 2009 £75) from CSA for ‘maladministration’ but in no way would this compensate for being treated as a liar, having a DOE imposed on me, the time and expense in dealing with the CSA which seems to be a bottomless pit of individuals and the stress and strain.
I beleive they do their upmost to put people out of work or kill them.
I would just like to say how disappointed i am in the csa. Yes, the child is entitled to maintanance but what is said for the parent that has no rights to see the child for no reason other than the bitterness from the ex that they are no longer together? Why is there not a law that says if the ex is happy to receive 280 pound a month why is she then not happy for the fathers child to see his son and give him the love and bond that a father should give his son. It breaks my heart that my partner is not allowed to see his son as i know how much it hurts him. His son is now five, he has been allowed contact on and off on her terms…..now nothing!!! WHY is there nothing put in place for fathers rights???? Its such a long process as we are saving the money to go through the courts and get solicitors ect. It should be her being penolised for keeping a son away from his father!!!!