CSA threats force me to give up
Curious as to the workings of CSA, as I was previously employed by the DWP processing income Support claims a few years ago, so had an idea of what to expect. 15% of net income, reguardless of my mortgage I need to pay for my child to say at, & reguardless of the £300+ pcm for £15000 loan to take my ex partner to court for contact to take place. Despite offering to pay for my childs clothes & anything he requires (granted some time back, however the offer still stands), despite my ex partners understanding that because she is in reciept of benefits she will not see any more of my money than £20 pw (which I would gladly top up without the dwp’s knowledge if she was amicable).
So the threat of CSA as with many bitter mothers is often purely to spite the absent parent & cripple them financially. While I now struggle & worry at paying these bills in order to keep my house, she reaps rewards in benefits, legal aid, & has free accomodation. Nice.
So far she has had no consequences in falsely diagnosing me with Bi polar & falsely accusing me of abuse to her & our child, amongst other accusations, reducing my contact to 1hour pw supervised by her family who hate me, then reduced to nothing! where the hell is the justice in our legal system? I continue to recieve nasty text messages describing how bad a parent I am, despite proffesional investigations proving otherwise.
I have struggled to see my son for one 24 hour period pw, & in all honesty I am on the brink of giving up. I love my time with him, but she taints it so badly afterwards I’m not sure I can cope with any more of her torture. I have lost all faith in human compassion.
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this Simon. Please try and enjoy the time you do have and ignore the ignorant bitch trying to make your life hell. My husband and I would desperately love to see his son even for a short time but despite court orders etc his ex still refuses and gets in no trouble for it. She too made false accusations against me in particular but all because she is bitter and jealous. Don’t let her grind you down, be the bigger person and try to show her you’re not interested in her just your child. Before long your lad (and ours) will be old enough to make his own decisions and God help these women then. Take care and don’t give her the satisfaction of giving up.