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CSA payment finally after ten years

10 January 2011 by lioness72

After nearly Ten years of countless letters and follow-up phone calls from me to The CSA in pursuit of a laughingly ridiculous ammount of £5 per week to be deducted from the work-shy, benefit-frauding layabout of an Ex’s State unemployment handout, I had all but given up.

Can you now imagine my complete shock and total amazement when out of the blue,a cheque for £10 dropped through my letterbox, indicating that FINALLY, someone at the CSA had managed to put two and two together, read the blatantly obvious benefit information held about the Ex for almost a Decade, and ACT on it!

I have always worked to support our Son and shall continue to do so as it is, in my opinion,the right and proper thing to do. I was raised in the belief that if you decide to have children, you move heaven and earth to PROVIDE FINANCIALLY for those children.

I am under no illusion whatsoever that any future payments will appear as i’m convinced the cheque was a “freak” administrative blunder, but after so many years of getting fobbed off with empty promises from the CSA, i am taking comfort in the fact that although £5 a week barely even covers a couple of meals for my son, it’s £5 that the Ex won’t have to spend on his Cigarettes and Beer!

So, I will finish with a hearty “thanks for nothing” to the CSA and all those supposedly working in our interests to bring the responsibility-sherking parasites to financial justice. It’s just too little too late i’m afraid……

Coincidently, i have framed the insult of a cheque and hung it on the back of my toilet door – it seemed the most apt location for it – always guarenteed an emergency sheet of loo roll should i ever run right out!

233 thoughts on “CSA payment finally after ten years”

  1. I continue to await your reply respectively regards to comments involving issues of child maintenance rather than the selfrighteous comments regarding yaself being in employment while I sit at home fb'n it!!!!! lol…xx

  2. this person with care is not after revenge on nrp ,financially,couldnt give a danm wot he does with his money qite frankly.as 4 csa id be writin this all day if i had 2 write wot i think of them.the only people i hav 2 justify myself 2 is my children,they no exactly wot i provide 4 them.i have theyre love nd there respect so that means more 2 me.nd i stand by my opinions ,so do my kids.

  5. Maybe your comment in regards to you have their love could have been presented with less selfishness and more to the point that your children have your love rather than you have theirs????? After all… it aint bout the NRP or PWC, it's about the children!!!

  6. neither is it about the love (or owt else for that matter) you recieve but more to the love you provide, You clearly present your attitude of recieving rather than giving!!!!I understand that love is about giving, being charitable, appreciating, being understanding…… basically you present a desire for what you can GET out of life, rather than what you can GIVE out of life!!!!!

  8. i dont need 2 tell you that my kids no exactly how much i love n adore them.they no id happily die 2 protect them.so wot u mite think of me,2 be honest cudn,t give a shit,bcos ur of no importance 2 me.where as my kids are.

  9. My eldest son appreciates all that I do to provide for him…. I aint gonna brag about my sons love for me but he knows that I love him very much and I'll do whatever I can, to meet his requirements!!!!

  10. well thats all that matters then.why shud u give a toss wot anyone else thinks.wot a lot of people must realise is we all make mistakes,a lot we all do regret.but we can only do our best.nd im sure ur son is very proud of u.x

  11. I have no opinion about you and I didnt comment that I think you are selfish, I commented about how you display your attitude via the comments you make, I also comment on my impressions based on the comments that you present to me…I comment and make opinions in regards to your comments, based on your comments that you provide rather than provide my own personal opinion about you!!!!you provided the opinions for others to assess!!!!! I'm sure you would die to protect your children…I never doubted it, I just assess your comments as you present them…. and respond accordingly!!!!!

  12. Ultimately, you chose to engage in communication directly by use of my name with questions and comments, I did not start the engagements, you approached me for my opinions while assuming you know my thoughts in regards to luxuries and/or essentials for the child and PWC!!!!! this clearly indicated that you felt I should justify my thoughts accordingly, I however have been compliant to your request yet I have not requested you to justify yourself for such actions… I present comments which you can either answer or ignore… the choice remains yours to either call upon your rights to remain silenct or not!!!!

  13. the only reason you respond is to save face… I know this… I know too much about the mind and how the person presents the ideals of their own mind!!!

  14. this is how I knew when my ex's were taking me for granted and using me, I had to gather my self respect and make decisions on my next COA!!! so I left with my self respect so I was no longer used and emotionally abused and in a couple of cases where I was physically abused!!!

  15. the thing is wot iv noticed when i came on this site is.if ur a pwc most nrp,s on this site automatically assume oh another greedy cow,tryin 2 destroy her ex.,im sick of hearin all the nasty comments bein thrown about,nd im not sayin its u.it always seems 2 be them n us.im beginning 2 see why theres so many problem kids out there.yes i have chosen 2 engage in communication with u cos sometimes i dissagree with wot u say 2 others.uv made me laugh on quite a few,i quite like u,but but we definatly dont seem 2 hav same oppinions.lol.x

  16. Such scenarios therfore led to causing me to become the NRP!!!!!! I however do not believe the PWC should benefit from any provision I make, only the child should benefit, I am no longer with those PWC's of which I have 3… but only my children should benefit as my ex's are with new partners… surely those partners will provide for my ex's to benefit financially and I should only need to provide fo my children… would you not agree??????

  17. yes i do agree with u on that 1,if they have a new partner u shud only b payin 4 ur kids.i no this doesnt affect u,but i also do not believe that another man shud provide 4 other peoples chilren either.

  18. By all means PWC's and NRP's are entitled to share their incomes with the child! I dont agree the child should share their entitled provisions with either parent, why give and then take away with the other?Surely if the PWC was financially more well off in respect to NRP's financial status, surely a compromise of affordability should be assessed for whether NRP makes provision financially or by direct purchase of items for the child during shared care arrangements?????In respect to those (and that I have also made myself) comments in reference to the greedy arrogant selfish PWC, are due to experiences of certain females after a split from males, comment to the male, " I'm gonna take you for everything you've got, I'm gonna turn the kids against you"…etc…. are the (very and often being the female) PWC types that are using CSA in revenge and also because she (the female PWC) does not want to accept the NRP is unable to afford to live after making financial provisions by DEOor that he is unable to afford a certain amount for a certain week, especially with inclusion of arrears and often fictitious arrears at that.These guys are gonna see comments where there are often female PWC's who complain they'v not recieved what they wanted from an NRP on a low/lower income compared to the PWC's income..PWC's who comment about the NRP losing his job and on benefits and expecting large sums to fund her finances with and in several and many cases the NRP has found a new partner or are having new child/children with NRP's new partner!!!! then the anger comes out, blokes see this…. You and I both know women know how to read men regarding likeable or not… women like a man who is unpredictable and confident, which leads me to your comment that you quite like me, but more the point, I believe you like some of my comments as you are intrigued as to what I might say next, and I always surprise you, rather than the point that you quite like me!!!!!I also know how to read a women and her changes in attitude…. it's summat I learnt in my teens observing everyone else at school in my teens…. there are several issues in my life at that time that taught me to read people rather than pay attention, I got wise about people way too early in my life!!! probably coz I used to read a book of wisdoms from quite a young age!!!! It's like I learnt to profile people and able to profile myself, which is were I comment on my own arrogance and overinflated ego, being honest with myself, knowing who I am!!!!!That's why I know.. I am unpredictable!!!!Back to them and us, I comment about the selfish arrogant greedy PWC who displays herself that way, I also question if the comment does not directly describe you, dont enter a cause of conflict other than justify yourself in respect to provisions for child rather than bills…PWC's have to show willing in compromise so NRP is financially ok and so is the child and with shared care arrangements kept to, there are NRP's who have had to suffer of PWC denying NRP access, so that the PWC can gain more in maintenance, when these very NRP's want to share time and provide for their children directly either by provision of purchase and pocket money or by PAYE-DEO's.or donation.Agreed compromise in the interests of the child are more important than disagreements between PWC and NRP!!!!!Too many NRP's are suffering financial and emotional breakdown due to PWC greed for financial and emotional revenge!!! that is why it appears to be them and us… however! the CSA are supporting these very types of PWC….. thats the problem that NRP's are at the end of!!!! CSA supporting the selfish greedy arrogant PWC who is unwilling to meet a financial agreement because the PWC wants more and usually more than he can afford… PWC's making false allegations from cash in hand jobs to rape/domestic violence in order to cut contact betwen child and NRP reducing chances of shared care, ultimately the CSA help these type of PWC and there becomes conflict between NRP and PWC!!!! And the CSA support this… this is not supporting the child and therefore the CSA are incorrectly named the CSA!!!!!

  19. Child Support Agency is a joke but at the expense of all involved but the CSA profit from this, they will try to deny it but the evidence is on the forum!!!!

  20. yes i agree with you.thre r a lot of women like thatnd that disgusts me 2.but as iv said before not all r like that.yes it does sound like uv had shit ex,s,nd i agree why u felt u had 2 leave.in an ideal world there wud be more compromise betwee parents,thats the way it shud be,but unfortunatly we arnt in an an ideal world.i wud hav loved 2 of come 2 an ammicable compromise.i wud never want my childrens father 2 be without financially,hell ieven paidhis bills 4 him,which often left me short,but i cudnt nd wudnt even now see him destitute.

  21. So now you understand why NRP's comment on selfish greedy arrogant PWC's but if it doesnt describe you, then it's best to let it by, these guys need to vent off their frustations, understanding is the key to indifference or difference in opinion!!!Clearly the comments are directed… else explain your point but the truth within yourself will reveal itself for others to see for cause to base their opinion upon, respectively!!!

  22. iv always understood why theyre frustrated,but as i saied there frustrated with there ex,s nd there situations,but not everyones the same.i mean i cud say all nrps are the same as mine,but i dont cos i know theres good n bad in everyone.the csa is a load of crap,never has worked,never will.

  24. then you have to allow for their frustrations but dont think they are tarring all the same way, dont allow yaself to be drawn into conflict…I however dont mind conflict…. as I'v learnt to deal with it and so I do…. as you can see by those who choose to engage due to the fact they know I enjoy it!!!! but they dislike the fact that I never back down!!!!

  25. compromise means the 2 discuss the issue…. the parent who is concerned as to making the child has provision will come forward first respectively…. however, it should be met on equal terms… I say… child allowed contact and parent who has child during contact makes provision by purchase, all household should be set suitable for child's living arangements respectively… heating, lighting, furniture, food….. clothing and footwer should be provided as a childs essentials as parent will already have the sense to provide general living….Look back to hunter-gatherer… first essentials,warmth and water and food…. hunter goes for skins and meats…. bushcraft emphasises this… first essentials, shelter and warmth!!!!!!I will always provide shelter warmth and food as general… clothing and footwear are purchased to his requirement…

  26. yer i agree with wot u say,but wot it nrp stopped seein kids n refused any correspondance with pwc.even if pwc had tried reasonable form of correspondance.

  27. then ur best off without the NRP….clearly he needs to pay up summat but is he on benefits or working, how many children involved or how many maintenance cases has he got open…..are you sayin u'v no idea where he is???

  29. I'm unsure as to how if you know where he is that he feels unable to make any type of provision or does his current partner not want to know and threatens departure… no excuse but tryin to see his predicament to make assessment, I aint judgin him either….Just trying 2 see his reasons….!!!!

  30. would it not possibly be amicable for at least issues of contact, have you told ya kids he dont care???? how do they feel about their father??? several issues that might cause him to close down, do you argue together in front o the kids????sometings, some guys might consider where confrontation is too stressfull and doesnt want to impose?????

  31. hes workin.4 children involved,only these children.regardin my kids,iv had 2 sit listenin 2 there cryin every nite,askin when they were able 2 see there dad.i triried phonin n txtin him but he ignored all.i never wanted it 2 come 2 this.im not bothered about money allan,i want my kids 2 actually think there dad loves them above everythink else.at least with u nd ur lad u can at leasst provide him wioth things he needs when he,s with u.good on u 4 that.

  36. regardin csa,i had 2 job 4 them,still cudnt do it rite.the ex seen his arse said i wos tryin 2 bleed him dry,funny how he wanted 2 speak when csa contacted him.but reality is as i said thats not wot i wanted,nd thats the truth.the csa told me few interestin things,but thats another story.still didnt do much,iv given up with em now.as 4 arrears i told them i wasnt interested in any arrears,i just needed some help at time cos i wos put on short hours in work.thats trouble with csa they make up loads of arrears just 2 rake in extra money.why do they say u owe nd how much.?

  37. well on the 30/12/10 i asked about arrears as they stand, they told me £3,860.00 I was shocked, rang again 31/12/10 asked again, they told me £2,580.00 so within 24hours the arrears had changed!!! I'v asked wher the extra £,k's had come from, still awaiting their breakdown gone 2 weeks since and still no info…That's the reason for my continued protesting noisy attacks over the phone!!!!!!!

  45. Mmmmmm! wondering whether thats complimentary or not…. lol….especially after re reading my comment, such a comment could be taken either as an intimate comment or regarding argueing…PMSL!!

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