CSA is taking my sick children’s tax credits and giving to husband’s ex

March 31, 2010

we have paid weekly money £50 to my husbands ex for 5 years, agreed privatly and with no problems. Now the jealous cow has been told she can get more!!! My god she can do the CSA have got involved.

On my husbands wages she is entitled to £32 a week. Fine we will pay that, no worries. CSA then discover he is the highest earner in our house and so they can have 15% of our weekly tax credits. In a normal situation our tax credits would only be £40 or so but we have 2 children on Disability Living Allowance so our tax credits go up by £100 a week. I can’t work more than 12hrs a week (i get carers allowance)so can’t increase our family income, I have to be home for hospital appoints, therapists etc. They are taking money I get for 2 sick children and giving it to a very healthy 17 year old who refuses to visit us cos her mum might get less money from the CSA. I now have a 3rd child being assessed for aspergers syndrome and to be honest if I get more money for her it won’t improve her life as I have to pass it straight on to the ex. NICE.

And as for variation because of disabilities, well apparently even though they get Disability Living Allowance, they aren’t sick enough to warrant any allowances to be given.

I am now considering leaving my husband just so my children can have what they are entitled FOOD!!!!

The ex and her current partner well as is the norm, in a council house that my husband gave up for her, so pay half our rent, earn between them 3x our combined wage and have 1 child.

Comments

  • mark hambleton says:

    I feel so sorry for you both, I am going through the same thing, and no have cam to the conclusion you do not get anywhere being an honest person, so my advice for you too is do not let the woman win, the only way to save money for you and your partner is say you have split up and claim csa yourself, that way his ex will only be entitled to half and you both will keep the other half of your money, you may still be together but what is wrong with lying and saying you have split up so you two can live life worry free and not split up because of CSA, plus having 3 kids you will get more of your partners money from CSA than the ex, this is just advice and believe if csa can lie then so can other people.

  • Donna says:

    It’s disgusting, we have the same thing, we have 3 children together and we work hard on low income and claimed working tax and child tax credits with disability element and child care element and they took this into account, including the child care element, as a result we couldn’t pay childcare and i had to stop working, we have now had to go bankrupt and i’m ashamed to say a of this week are claiming job seekers allowance until we can get sorted, i have never had to do that!! His ex has claimed benefits for 15 years, never worked a day in her life, goes out clubbing every weekend and getting hair/nails done and going on sunbed, while we have given her my children’s money!! The CSA STILL want £200 pw (£50pw is arrears apparently) I too have considered leaving my husband many times because of the whole situation!!

  • effed off! says:

    Donna, i think that your fellas ex and my fellas ex are the same person!!!!

    can anyone advise on what to put on my CSA variations form?

    i too am trying to protect the disability element i get for my son

    ive worked hard on a low wage all my life and have 2 kids, ill be stuffed if i have to hand over my sons disability element to her!
    wouldnt be so bad if any of it went on my fellas kids but theres no chance!

    Thanks in anticipation

  • j says:

    I’m waiting for someone to try a test case under human rights law in the echr against the csa. I mean children on disability, tax credits to boost low income, thoughts of separation as a result of the oppresive intevention of a government agency, whatever happened to ‘the quiet enjoyment of family life’? Its interesting to note that your family are happy to pay a ‘reasonable’ amount. (i’m sure reasonable can be worked out and agreed upon) The csa just take more and more and more, the more you earn the more they take and i’m sure you could make an argument that isnt reaonable. Disgusting organisation, i’m reminded of 1940’s europe.

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