All parents should pay to support their children
For over ten years I have brought up my two children single-handedly. I, like many other single parents have struggled to provide my children with a normal childhood.
A normal childhood I feel is one where the children are happy, safe and provided for financially. We have a relatively good life now, I work full time to provide us with a decent income which in turn pays the mortgage and provides for us as a family.
For eight of these ten years the children’s father has evaded his parental responsibility at a ratio of 99.9%. The children receive a phone call on their birthday and a card with £20 in it. Usually there are a couple of empty promises for instance “hope to see you soon” or “tried to contact you on Facebook but it didn’t work” or “we’ll catch up at Christmas”. They saw him for four hours one Christmas in 2008, his new wife kept ringing him to see when he would be back because she wanted to order them a take-away (his third wife). Both children have had their own phones for eight years as-well as a home phone, one child has been rung three times, the other at least twice.
They have learnt to detach themselves from the endless empty promises over the years and surrounded themselves with fantastic male role models. They are both very sociable and enjoy many team sports, none which their Father has seen, he refers to a sport which they did seven years ago when he phones on their birthday. They tell him every year which sports they do now but he never listens.
For the past five years I have been writing to my M.P. in the hope that he might take an interest in my case. It isn’t just my case either. This situation affects millions of families throughout the UK. If an absent parent (male or female) does not want to contribute towards the children they have created they do not have to. I’m sure many of your readers believe that there is a court system or an agency to deal with this sort of thing. There is absolutely no governing body in this country for children who are abandoned by a parent.
If a parent does not want to see or finance a child all they have to do is sign into the UK benefit system. It doesn’t really matter which benefit but as long as they put their name to it, it is an instant protection against any legal action or Government power. If you believe the absent parent is working cash in hand then do not waste your time telling the Inland Revenue or the Department of Work and Pensions they are not interested. These people are small fry to them, you could tell them the time the absent parent leaves for work every morning or you could phone their home and be told by family members that they’re at work. None of it matters to our Government. They would rather ignore all the twaddle and just pay you the odd £5.00 a week out of their benefit system, if you are lucky enough. It’s a sort of “That’ll keep him/her quiet” attitude. “At least you are getting something” I was once told.
When your absent parent signs into the benefit system at their local Job Centre there is no immediate alert that this parent is evading Child Support. The Child Support Agency is part of the Department of Work and Pensions which amazingly directs the Job Centre. They will completely deny the connection over the phone however their letters to myself are headed with two of these titles as recently as two months ago. It currently takes around 6 weeks to process a benefit claim which results in back pay for the claimant. When this back payment is made by cheque to the absent parent it has no deduction of Child support. For recent claimants you will be aware that after 12 weeks your payments may cease, if you haven’t actively sought work. This means that your children may receive £30.00 for the last 6 weeks of your claim. The Government are therefore rewarding the evasive parent with six weeks grace of their benefit claim. Any parent that can raise two children for six !
weeks on £30.00 step forward! I’d be in awe.
There is of course a much easier route, make all parents support their children! Our benefit system was designed as an income support for the short term unemployed and for people that were genuinely suffering hardship. Not for people to build their lives around it. I do not want my children to receive any handouts from the state. I would like their Father to be made to work legally and meet his financial responsibilities.
Should evasive parents find that they cannot work legally or through persistent laziness, then perhaps paid Community Service with a direct weekly deduction to support their children’s upbringing! Why are these evasive parents being completely ignored by the state and protected? There are many absent parents that start new families, or two new families, do you think this would be an option if they had to pay for all these children they create?
The enforcement measures that the Government put in place to tackle persistent non-payers has absolutely no power against our benefit system. Confiscating their passports will reduce their right to seek work outside of England, take their Driving Licence and you reduce the type of work they can look for, send the bailiffs in, you might as well they can’t take anything whilst they’re in receipt of benefit. Put them in prison-you can’t do that either, not while they are job-seeking. They can job seek for how ever many years they like. After a while your benefit payments are stopped, that doesn’t really matter if you are working cash in hand. You are still signed into the system and protected even though you are not directly receiving payment.
Millions of families are facing this cruel fate brought on by the most selfish act of one person. Our government are protecting these people and aiding them in their preferred lifestyle. There are many single parents who have chosen to provide and protect their children from the fate that another parent has decided, mainly because we would like our children to play a decent future role in society. Does the government recognise these children or their parents?
In a fair United Kingdom any parent who chooses to create a child then abandon them financially and emotionally would be brought to justice. After all it is a form of abuse. As for our ever accepting benefit system, if you are signed into the system but are no longer receiving payments then we should be questioning how you are living. Living off a spouse and his/her benefits is not financially possible on the amounts the Government are publicising, or is it? I wouldn’t know I work to support my children.
If anyone from the legal profession can offer a solution to this situation that affects so many families then please let us know.
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Whilst I would sympathise based on your position as stated, unfortunately the system starts from an unequal position. What a minority of people do is taken as the basis for creating policy. I've no problem with what you suggest IF and it is a BIG IF, all things start equal and there are no access restrictions and EQUAL liability for maintenance.
I know how hard it is to raise one child without any/much support from an evasive absent parent. I can only imagine how hard it may be to raise two or more.
Back in the days I used to think – very naively – that CSA is an agency that makes evasive absent parents (both male and female) contribute financially towards the upbringing of their children, the ones they created.
But in reality CSA is full of crap and parents like me don't really get help while the evasive parent is out there having fun, spending his/her money on clubbing, new car, protein powder to pump up muscles etc….yet the child needs nappies, clothes and other expenditures to be covered.
here here!!!!
You really want to know how hard it is to raise children on one wage and support your partner out of it. Go back 20yrs to when the average mother /wife didn't bring in any money.Sylvia Dunai Back in the days I used to think! think again.and who actually wrote that message? a CSA troll probably.
And what about the fathers (majority) that the CSA have forced into benefits because the ex was unwilling to come to an agreeable amount which would mean he could live, and then in-turn support his families (note i said families)
Why is it the PWC keeps talking about money… there is more to raising children than just money!!!!!!Money is the currency of greed!!!!!!
I have a message for the original poster….Unfortunately, your situation, however comendable on your part, represents a very small minority of PWC.The reason the CSA is failing mothers like you is because it is busy sorting out the mess caused by other PWC who use the CSA to their advantage such as withholding contact to ensure maximum maintenance, causing emotional distress to the NRP and his or her new family and the bullying tactics that the CSA use towards these NRP's who are fighting to see their children.You are right – every parent should support their children but if that be the case – why do PWC have the right to stop access when the NRP WANTS to be part of their children's life? Until NRP are recognised as equal parents – there will always be NRP's who resent the system and fight against it.By the way – my husband died and I supported our 3 children (one of which has special needs) by myself, with no maintenance. I am remarried and my new partner has 3 children with his ex. Not only do the CSA take 25% of my partner's wages, but also my child tax credits and the money I receive for my disabled child.Where's the fairness in that???
Well you get my vote!
Please join facebook groups child support agencies failings and others, there are many others on there in similar positions, there is support and advice also. Ive had many contact me, to say great things about the advice that has helped them, so it works and Im glad it does.
Good luck,
Well said Juliet-Amber! Both the Government, Solicitors, and the Courts, support the idea that when a family breaks up the father should clear off, have NO RESPONSIBILITY for his children, and should just pay 50% ADDITIONAL TAXATION to the DSS (CSA) to contribute to the fact that his ex refuses to get a job and wants benefit and a house for life! Even Blair, when he gave fathers RESPONSIBILITY for their children if their name was on their birth certificate, decided this would only apply if the child was born after Dec 2003! And look at Ed Milliband, has he even bothered to put his name on his children's birth certificate? Says it all!Both Parents are responsible for BOTH looking after and providing for their children, the State should only be stepping in to assist, where necessary, because at the time of any split, there is never enough money to go to providing two homes, two sets of gas, electricity, phones, council tax etc, while paying the legal profession to destroy the family. How many PWC, have suddenly discovered years later when they come to sell their home, that there is a massive legal aid charge on the property that has to be paid. They were given legal aid to fight their corner, using their own children as a weapon denying them contact with their father, while meanwhile unbeknown to them, the solicitors were knocking up bill after bill after bill and just charging it against the property.
well said!!!! It takes both parents to support a child…. PWC's should learn to accept the NRP wants to financially support the child….. not financially support the PWC!!!PWC's are expecting NRP to support PWC financially!!!!!!!WHY??????
@allan – a small snippet from my email to my MP – ill let you know the response :Law and LegislationThe current law and legislation is heavily in favour of PWC's (Parents with Care). Most NRP's (Non Resident Parents) do want to see there children and do want to pay for there children. I am now in the position in that not only am I paying maintenance (in fact I always have but now via the CSA), but now affected with court costs and legal costs, neither of which I can afford. Whilst the parent with care may receive legal aid and be purposefully obstructive whilst the non resident parent is faced with maintenance payments, high legal fees and no access, where is the justice ?The current law and legislation sees a separation between maintenance and contact, however surely there should be a fusion between maintenance and contact. If maintenance was penalised to parents whom refused access to a child, which in most cases this is done without good reason this surely would inhibit any parent with care using children as means to financial ends without having to do anything in favour for the benefit of the children themselves.Evidence suggests that children will benefit from both parents being involved, however under the current system what incentive are we providing parents with care to really provide access to a non-resident parent. Most people would like to assume that parents are doing the best for there 'child', this may be the case for some but certainly not all. Just as some people abuse the benefit system there are parents with care whom are also abusing the CSA and legal system and unfortunately it is too easy for them to do so.It seems that there is plenty a carrot for a parent with care under the current law and CSA jurisdiction, I feel that there also needs to be a stick to balance the weight of power that is currently in the hands of the PWC.I never understood the reasoning behind fathers4justice, however I do now (its not just fathers in this position i might add), there are parents being unfairly treated by the current system. There has to be some changes in the way the current system works. I plead with you to at least investigate.I am on the start of my challenge, I now face a constant communication with the CSA for the next 19 years. I also am now faced with lengthy legal battles to get access to my child.This system is not fair and it is not right. I ask you to please raise this to make changes to both the CSA and to the legislation.
I agree with every point raised in this post, it really isn't fair that "some" father's do not contribute to their child's upbringing. I have also experienced 1st hand my ex entering the benefit system to evade having to pay maintenance and for almost a year i received £1.25 per week as there were 4 children in the case so the £5.00 was split between 4 children and my son's share was £1.25. My ex then returned to employment in June of this year and it took the CSA until October to put an assessment in place. That is a total of 4 months full wage packets he took home and not a penny of it was seen by my son. You're right, it's not all about the money but when your ex refuses to have any contact with his own flesh and blood and try's to deny that he created this life then it bloody does come down to money in an attempt to remind him every month for the next 19 years that he does have a son and if he can't be "arsed" to be there physically for him then i'll make sure he does financially.
David…lol…. I know… my point was… why are PWC's not spending the payments on child?? this is direected at the greedy selfish Arrogant PWC's……… It is a directive for PWC's to stop spending the payments on themselves and allowing NRP's to take child shopping for Clothes and footwear!!!! QUALITY TIME!!!!!It aint just about finances… PWC should allow the child shopping time and financially supported by NRP during that quality time that several PWC's deny NRP and child!!!!!!watch arguments were I make comments that provoked the different reactions from Greedy selfish arrogant PWC's in many posts on this forum….lol….
Annika, If you want him to have contact with his son then dont use the CSA as a tool, your son has grandparents, uncles, ants and family friends who should be involved in his life as well as his father so start with them. Talk to them and tell them what a a***h**e he is and how he need to step up and be a dad.I'm not having a go at you cause i think he should be supporting his child but i was forced on the dole indirectly by the CSA and that is the only reason i managed to keep our family home.At the moment i need to get a job that pay's about 30k a year so i can pay CSA and my bills.Our family home will probably be repossessed although i'm trying my hardest for that not to happen, i need somewhere for our girls to stay when the court rules that i can have proper contact.
Kevin has a good idea there Annika!!!!! I also agree that the NRP should provide for the child……. I dont agree that NRP should finance the PWC though!!! The child should have both parents and both parents should have quality time with the child…Let's face it……..Shopping is quality time!!!!!!!! especially so that the child can see the NRP is providing!!!!!! the child has the right to know were the funding is coming from for the sake of all involved!!!!
Nrp's, my son recieves £1.25 per week. Tell me, what exactly that will cover for a 21 month old?
Laura…..Well if the CSA believe that £1.25 per week,is all you are entitled to… how much more are you expecting to recieve from your NRP????????Clearly, he has not been assessed for anything more than the £1.25 you recieve!!!!!!learly you are not entitled to more than £1.25…. but at least you are getting something…… Again… an issue of expecting more tax free MONEY at the NRP's expence!!!!!!!
Laura, talk to your ex and then listen to what his circumstances are and then tell him that you'll tell the CSA to f**k off if he gets a job and supports his child financially and emotionally to the best of his ability's and talk to friend's and family, name and shame him to step up.Remember though he has to live to support his child and when you involve the CSA then it's the beginning of the end for him
Kevin, i have no option but to use the CSA as i have no contact details for my ex and this is what he requested me to do. The grandparents and aunt are a waste of time, they live 20 mins away yet rarely make the journey to see my son. My ex's mother accepts that he is in the wrong by not stepping up to his responsibilites. What am i to do? My son is 5 and it breaks my heart that he has never seen his dad, hes now at an age where he asks questions and why he cant see his dad. All i can say is 'daddy lives far away' which is untrue, he's half an hour away but i cant say much else. And all you men think we are money grabbing cows. No thanks for all the work we put in 24/7 raising YOUR children! I would never wish for anyone to loose their home as a result of having to pay maintenance, thats not right and shouldnt happen but we all have to accept these children need financial support from the nrp as well as pwc.
Annika…. All us men??????? Your approaching the bombardment of questions were you comment all men think you women are money grabbing cows……Firstly I will say to all arrogant selfish greedy PWC's that they are money grabbing cows if they choose to use any Child maintenance payments from NRP on themselves rather than the child… And why should NRP's thank PWC's for providing for the child… do PWC's thank NRP's for child maintenance payments????? I think not!!!!!!!PWC's take those payments for granted and often take advantage of those payments for their retail therapy because of the last dispute with the NRP because PWC whinges to NRP that she needs some more money to cover a certain bill…..etc…. many more examples are available!!!!!
Oh yeah!!!! retail therapy because NRP says to PWC… you'v ad ya payment since CSA took DEO!!!!! Ya not avin any more out of me!!!!!NRP has their own bills to pay after CSA took a huge chunk!!!!!!!!
I dont make child maintenance payments to my PWC…Laura… am I an irresponsible NRP?????????
Annika i really feel for you and wish i could support my girls more and think your ex is a fool if he doesn't want to support his children.The CSA is wrong wrong wrong and until the government look into the positions they are putting people in then they will never work.Believe me when i say that i want and expect to pay for my children and i did with my ex ex and gave her £30 per week whick she was happy with.Then when i split with my ex she wanted £30 per week aswell which would have been fine but we had twins which meant she wanted £60 and thought she was entitled to it. she would not come to any agreement she just wanted more … As allan and many more say much wants more.I really hope you get this p***k to realize just what he's missing cause our children need us to guide them and we need to show them that life is not about money but about love for one another.Before anyone say's PWC need the money to pay for rent, bills for the child, etc, remember that you will always be supported by the government and what you get from the NRP is CREAM and i don't care as long as i can pay my bills and see my beautiful little girls but that will take some time … Although i hate the contact center it's a starting point
At what point did we say we use maintenance for retail therapy for OURSELVES? Surely thats just a dig at the pwc. So say we do, i know i certainly dont but say i did, who would be clothing the child, feeding the child, housing the child, entertaining the child, paying for sports activities for the child?? Oh yeah it would be the pwc, the child wouldnt have these things if we used maintenance on ourselves so i dont think your remarks about us spending the maintenance on ourselves stands. Whos buying the xmas presents this year? Oh yeah its me the pwc as the nrp despite working 5 months earning £300 a week has only made one payment!
My ex is a benefit cheat. He's on benefit so he can dodge council tax and csa. He has 3 other children from a previous relationship and is in thousands of pounds of arrears. He doesn't tell the csa about a change in circumstances and even i dont have his new address. He's moved in with his new gf and her 2 children and says he's a great dad and tells myself and the mum of his other children that he'll never pay any sort of support to the kids because why should he when some mugs (taxpayers) do it now.
Anikka… I constantly refer to the arrogant selfish greedy PWC's as PWC's… The fact I comment as such on numerous occasions and fail to understand why you reacted to my comments which are always directed at the selfish greedy arrogant PWC's who use the NRP's payments for retail therapy…Why Anikka do you react to that comment with such anger if you dont use the NRP's payments for retail therapy for yourself but for the child???????
Laura… ur better off without an NRP who is unwilling to provide… of cause if your comments are true…. but many PWC's are preventing the NRP having contact with the child and thus preventing NRP having a supportive role in the child's life!!!!!!!!!!He should provide……….. even if he takes the kids shopping during contact arrangements, then you could fund your bills easier while NRP provides clothing and footwear!! that should help the budgeting skills improve!!!!!!!!!!!!
however! maybe he is unemployable….. maybe he was sacked….. if however assessed for payment of nil via CSA…. then you'll have to deal with that….. did you recieve payments untill his unemployment period????????Could he afford his living costs after DEO's?????If PWC's became NRP's…. maybe they would understand what the NRP has to go through!!!!! Maybe you could just impose the custody of the children on him for a few months so that he'll realise how much it costs????????
I think she doth protest too much……. sire!!!!!!!!!!
Allan i think you have a reply and excuse for everything and obviously don't feel that you should contribute your pennies to assist with the upbringing of your children. At no stage have i got "angry" as you state. I just asked why you feel us PWC all seem to spend the maintenance payments on ourselves and asked where you stumbled upon this theory? If anyone is to sound bitter about having to pay for your child it is you, you have had a go at me, have bombarded Laura with several questions as she stated that her ex is on benefit and does not pay a penny. You have already stated that you don't pay for your children so where do you feel you have the right to make an assumption that the PWC spends your money on herself, erm i think it is us, the taxpayers that are paying for your children as you feel you are exempt from this rule! Sound a bit like my ex, don't give a shit but have every excuse in the book why you can't pay. Oh let's hear it again…. it's not all about money, so lets ask then, do you have regular contact with your kids? so you don't support them financially, what about physically and emotionally. You there for parents evenings, sports days, to pick them up when they have hurt themselves? It isn't about the money, you're right and i would drop the CSA tmrw if my ex would just be involved in my son's life. What get's me is the people that are on here to try and make us PWC to be the bad one's when we actually are doing our very best. I could easily go into the benefit system and have the government pay for my son but i don't and i won't, i work to provide for my child. I've no doubt though that you will find something to come back and have a go at me for…………….?
all i can say is a lot of pwc's sound very bitter towards the nrp, surely it's better for your own sanity & that of your child/children to let go of irresponsible nrp's & be thankful that you have a life & a child, my poor mum is at the hands of a violent husband, my best friends dad died last week……my point is live your life with your children & think yourself lucky & if you have an nrp who wants to be involved don't go asking for more than he can afford & appreciate the help you do get.
Absolutelu …..Annika .!!!!!!.. for your information sweeety!!!! 1) You comment: that I obviously don't feel that I should contribute my pennies to assist with the upbringing of my children. I never said I dont….. or….. should not provide financially for my child,….. I said I dont provide child maintenance payments for PWC….. !!!!2) I never said I do not support my child emotionally or financially… I have shared care…. I take him shopping for clothes and footwear!!!!!I have my child every weekend and throughout holidays… I also drive to pick him up and back on each occasion…. I also take him camping, fishing, walking…….3) as for being bitter…… So you are you claiming to have professional qualifacations in psychiatry now to understand my state of mind?????4) As for being on benefits and not working… I was working while I made child maintenance payments via CSA DEO's……5)As for sounding like your ex on benefits… sweetheart… I have been disabled for the past 17 months…..6) as for parents evening… ask yourself why my son preferres me to attend rather than the PWC!!!!!7) I suggest before you make your assault that you plan your attack more effectively.. You comment: erm i think it is us, the taxpayers that are paying for your children as you feel you are exempt from this rule! Sound a bit like my ex, don't give a shit but have every excuse in the book why you can't pay. Oh let's hear it again…. it's not all about money, so lets ask then, do you have regular contact with your kids? so you don't support them financially, what about physically and emotionally. You there for parents evenings, sports days, to pick them up when they have hurt themselves? It isn't about the money, All your questions have been answered….. I take my son shopping during shared care, I pay nothing to the PWC… my child benefits from all household amenities when with me and I have no extra provisions for child support financially but my child is provided with clothes and footwear and the PWC gets nothing…. I would say that is very fair provision financially and emotionally to my child… DO YOU NOT AGREE!!!!! ANNIKA??????????! Gather your facts first if you want to argue with me…. that's if you think you should attempt to argue ME down……. sweetheart!!!!!!!!When the PWC loses out and the child Gains… I will never need to be angry with any selfish arrogant greedy PWC who wants NRP to finance their RETAIL THERAPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So Annika… your move!!!!!!!
I await your response………Annika… My comment was:.I dont make child maintenance payments to my PWC…… am I an irresponsible NRP?????????…
Annika, please feel free to approach me with more of your arrogance…. I will happily provide you with answers to any of your questions and rebuke you for any of your attempts to incorrectly condemn me for not funding my PWC's retail therapy!!!!!!
whatever! i wouldn't give you the satisfaction!
Annika, you choose to react to my comments as if you were offended, I would suggest a hint of anger towards my comments are the cause for your attempt to condemn me as an irresponsible father/NRP!!!!!Your questions clearly indicate questions based on assumptions rather than facts… you clearly have not been a member of this forum for very long…..otherwise U would know that I do provide financially and emotionally towards my child without providing pennies to the PWC for her retail therapy!!!!!!!!!!!!!PWC's expect money some for PWC's retail therapy and some PWC's expect money for the child and not the emotional support that the children require more than the money!!!!!!!!So Annika… which type of PWC are you….Also…. we all know what type of woman recieves or expects to recieve monetory payments from a man for results of a sex act!!!!What would you call a woman who recieves or expects to recieve monetory payments for the result of a sex act?????????
Annika, you have no more comments other than whatever???? I'm satisfied enough that you had an EPIC FAIL in your argument!!!!!
Still Annika is unable to provide an answer to my fair and reasonable question…!!
Any more PWC's who wish to raise an argument because they disagree with my opinions
You really are a rude obnoxious man aren't you, you are actually getting very dull to read as all your responses are the same time after time after time, yes we know you don't like the 'greedy, arrogant PWC's' who spend maintenance on 'RETAIL THERAPY' we also get you know how to use the ! key and the ? key. Women who receive money as a result of a sex act are prostitutes yes but you don't think men shag about for money? For goodness sake every would be comedian needs to keep his act current….. go sharpen your wit a bit and get some new material coz you are getting boring! You just spoil for an argument every time someone has an opinion on here that you don't agree with or because they don't agree with your opinion, I am fairly sure there are many who find you humorous and very sure you are one of them but I am also sure there are an equal number of people who find you to be a bit like a laxitive, sometimes it would be nice to read other peoples responses without having to find them amongst all your rantings! Now, i will sit back and see how you choose to be abusive towards me because no doubt you will….
Abusive Melanie…. this fishing lark is good when using the correct Bait, but as for the question… I must say I like your response….Clearly I use the correct bait for the roaches to bite!!!!!Yes I do know how to use the ! & ? buttons… well done Mel…. Congratulations!!!!!!!!Rude and obnoxious…. I thank you for the compliments Clearly!!!!!Yes ! I used to shag around for money……Nicely paid I was too!!!!! Top fresh material all round lol!!!!!! But each woman was happy to pay… must have been the point that I gave satisfaction I suppose!!If you watch most comedy acts especially on the Appolo… U'll find several comedians use material they'v used at other acts!!!!!!!I do believe however, that I have repeated questions… the entertaining parts for my show are the ones who choose to respond!!!Do you not realise that you become a part of the act, each response is the material… not my obnoxious provocations!!!!!! You are clearly misguided as to the material I use as entertainment my dear Melanie!!!I dont use wit…… sarcasm is what I prefer to use!!!!!!!! Its entertaining arguments that are the material I use!!!! but it is yourselves the PWC, and preferably the greedy selfish arrogant PWC who responds….. is provision of useful material!!!!!!I dont spoil for an argument… I lead with a comment so that any PWC who chooses to spoil for an argument… can do…. for which I will entertain the PWC with such argument as she chooses to provoke!!!I do not care if you choose to not accept or agree with my opinion… You clearly choose to respond with dislike or in disagreement with my comments and opinions… you choose to provoke an argument… As I clearly asked… any other PWC who chooses/wants to argue with me??You choose to respond because you wished to make your point else you choose to want to argue with me!!!!By the way my dear… Laxitive???? did you mean Laxative?????? Clearly the argumentative PWC who chooses to make response as a result of a laxative…..the fluid faecal matter runs off at your finger tips again is evidence??????? I would say that it appears the PWC in this instace has clearly taken her own laxative… and responds with such matter in return!!!Rantings???? lol….. Comments and opinions I choose to present are Rantings????? Is that the Kettle their talking….?????It is to my view that most PWC's here who are so hellbent on obtaining tax free income from NRP for their selfish greedy arrogant need for RETAIL THERAPY are the ones that choose to rant due to disagreement with my comments and opinions!!!! Clearly and evidently So!!!I unlike yourself accept the entertainment value of your rantings and choose to respond in the manner where I comment appreciation and respond with such appreciation…..I could say that I find you rude and obnoxious… but as such… your comments to me present entertainment value!!!!!By the way!!! may I ask if you are recieving or expect to recieving monetory payments from a man for results of a sex act????? Of cause I mean are you expecting CSA to take money from your NRP????Are you spending or going to spend that money on childs clothing and footwear or on ya own footwear and clothing, or maybe some of your household bills that you would still have to pay if you had no child to support?????Of cause that is being nosey and not really my concern….. but just humour me for a moment…. the question is… Are you a selfish greedy arrogant PWC who is bent on revenge towards your NRP or are you prepared to tell your child that the NRP is funding you for their clothing and footwear or do you prefer to allow your child to believe you are the only parent to show such care and you are the only parent prepared to provide the child clothing and footwear?????Your answer will present an opinion to whether you are a PWC who is selfish greedy and arrogant…. or preferably for the childs sake being NOT!!!!!
Any further PWC's wishing to argue with me??????
Most of the arguments the PWC starts up with me is in retaliation and such retaliation is motivated by PWC's disagreeing with my comments or opinions… of which you are entitled.I must say to the relevant PWC's.. of cause!!!!It is clearly the view that PWC's wish to retaliate to my opinions and clearly display their anxieties in reference to my comments and opinions!!! I happy to respond and happier to recieve such comments!!Please feel free to satisfy me!!!! ROFLMFAOOL!!!!!!!!!
I appreciate all man hating PWC's who enjoy arguing with me!!!!I appreciate all greedy selfish arrogant PWC's who enjoy commenting about my comments and opinions!!!!I also appreciate the responses I make to responses and provocations made by PWC's in reference to my comments and opnions!!!!I am not bored by any PWC who comments I am getting to be boring…They may aswell comment as to why they feel the need to respond to my comments….. especially if they are so bored with my comments and opinions… why the need and intense desire to respond????Please feel free to comment!!!!
As for getting dull to read…. maybe my opinions and comments are viewed in such light by many PWC's… however! Again…. My opinion is that the NRP provides by taking the child shopping for clothing and footwear essentials….. That way the PWC is able to budget effectively so she can pay her household bills… she will not have to purchase clothing and footwear for the Child while NRP makes such provision of such items for the child rather than NRP funding PWC's retail therapy!!!!Such funding is made for provision of child… not PWC!!!!! I make sure due to the fact my PWC has 3 to 4 working incomes to her household!! Tax credits.. are additional also while I the NRP am disabled and unable to continue in the line of work I am accustomed to!!! but still… I am nil assessed yet my child benefits financially and emotionaly from the miniscule income I have… Am I being selfish and greedy… I clearly accept I am arrogant… and I'm happy to say that!!!!I am more than willing to comment I have faults… however! any PWC's are prepared to state they are faultless… yet unfortunatlely for those PWC's…. such comments are clearly flawed…. the evidence presents itself in the above testimonials presented in retaliation because of dislike to my comments, opinions and questions which I raise here!!!!PWC's appear to believe NRP's payments are for PWC maintenance rather than CHILD maintenance!!!!How many more PWC's want to condemn me as an irresponsible NRP because I do not provide child maintenance to PWC because I am nil assessed by CSA due to being on benefits and that I have shared care arrangements in place????Yet still I am able to maintain my childs needs!!!!!! So PWC's are prepared to rebuke me for making provisions for my child and not the PWC???????!!!!!!!Hmmmmmmmmmm! Evidently a serious dilemma for many PWC's who are out for tax free income at the expenses of child and NRP!!!!So long as my child knows that his NRP is providing… surely that is the most important issue here!!!?????
Any more PWC epic fails to be hilighted here??????
Amazing though how I have a lot of female friends who find my argumentative retaliation to comments exciting and joyfull….So many women I know find me entertaining and intrigueing!!!!Clearly….also, there are many PWC's that dislike the way I provide for my child and not the PWC!!!!!!