Why would the CSA listen to bitter and twisted exes?

I have read most off your stories on here and can relate to most of them,to start with I was married had 3 kids it did,nt work out so we seperated after 9 yrs.

At the start my ex was paying me a few pounds each week until he moved away then there was nothing.I knew he did,nt have that much anyway so i just got extra hours at work because i thought going after him for money I,d get it in one hand and lose it in another so it was,nt worth while.

Then i meet my now husband about two years later who had being married,divorced and has two kids.everything was fine the kids all got on great which was a bonus.after two years of us staying with him and the kids and vice versa we decided to sell both our homes and buy a house for us all to live in.

Finally we bought a house(mortage)and our 1st week of moving in together the letters started coming yes from the c.s.a. they had being informed that my husband had a new partner and bought a new house and how could he afford this house and also wanted to know my income details ect ect.

We replyed giving them the information so his csa payments went up because of my earnings.which i thought was so unfair as i had my 3 kids to look after we found it a bit tough at the beginning but struggled on i forgot to mention that my husband had his kids for 3 nights every week.then i took ill and had to come out of work contacted csa let them know the changes so payments went down next thing we got a letter from them stating we were to go to a triburial on the grounds that we had this lifestyle of buying new furniture,new cars,motorbikes,3 hoildays a year,parties in our home if i did,nt laugh i,d have cried.

My husband,s ex stated all this to them she got their attention so we went showed bank statements payslips you name it we showed it reciept for our 2nd hand car.what i cant understand is why the c.s.a listen to ex,s most of them are bitter and twisted and use their kids as a money weapon.out come off triburial we had,nt enough income to pay c.s.a.so then comes the your not seeing your kids.

Three times we have being to court to get order to see the kids and she has broken everyone off them,we,ve spent £4000 in court fees.the best of it all is she knows how to work the system we did,nt.and the c.s.a contuines 10 years later my husband recieved a letter last week saying he owes £12000 you talk about a shock we were sick.so we phone and cant get talking to anyone because the case is a sensitive one and the person that deals with these cases is off.

So we go to our solictor and she sends them a letter to say that we would like a meeting and how did we come to owe £12000.and stated that we had the children 3 nights a week.got a reply today asking since when did we have kids 3 days a week hello since we sent you,s the court order back in 2007.i dont think they realise the damage and stress they cause families they should listen to all parties concerned not just one side.