Why won’t our dad support us?

June 10, 2015

My mom has full custody of me (17) and my 11 year old sister, about 5 years ago we stopped seeing him altogether.

He payed csa, but last year my mom got a random phone call saying that my dad had gone self employed in 2009 and they have overpaid him and now she owed him a 4,000 debt. They gave her no choice to appeal and this was the first we’d heard of any of it.

Over the passed year we thought we had came close to resolving this but a phone call today from the csa has said that we have to pay it again. My dad has a new wife and family and they are wealthy, where as we struggle just to get the basics as it is and now we are expected to pay him, when me and my sister dont see him and he didnt tell us that he was going self employed and the csa gave us no notice.

What are we supposed to do, im worried that we’ll loose everything.

Comments

  • Rohan H. says:

    At 17, you shouldn’t be a parasite living off your father. What to do ? find a job and help out your father financially, just like he did it for you for all those years.

  • jo says:

    Why should nrps have to go to court in the first place? that’s what angers me, if you say 2 adults should be responsible then that includes the resident parent not withholding access just because they can at the end of the day, they hold the ace cards to begin with. How many resident parents, usually mother’s have been made contempt of court and how many times should the nrp have to keep going back to court to get his voice heard? It’s not fair, children are not property.

    Also, I do not discuss maintenance or financial issues with my children, my son 13 and he’s never ever asked why daddy doesn’t pay, that’s adult stuff and in my opinion causes a wedge. My children have no contact with their dad, his choice nor does he provide for them not even a birthday or Christmas card but that’s for him to live with. We’re doing okay and I’d sooner he be in their lives providing emotionally if I had the choice.

  • Lisa says:

    Maybe your mother should stop.burdening you with her problems and let you be kids! If the csa have said your mum has been overpaid that’s her problem not yours! What sort of decent mother puts all this on her kids shoulders

  • Cazza says:

    Some fathers pretend it’s the mothers fault…. And some fathers hide behind the new girlfriend/family and can’t actually own up to their own faults, like not providing for the children…

    Unfortunately my children have no relationship with their fathers side of the family…. No fault of theirs or mine…. But as the saying goes… Actions always speak louder than words…. You can have more than one dad but you will only ever have one mum x

  • MrWhitey says:

    @Cazza…

    “You can have more than one dad but you will only ever have one mum…”

    lol…what a fcking muppet you are…

  • Cazza says:

    @MrWhitey

    Well for you to call me a muppet for stating what most mothers will say, you must be one of those fathers who reproduce with more than one woman and your only willing to be there for the ones your currently living with…. Word of advice…. Get the snip done!! It’s not fair on the children!!

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