Why won’t my ex look at it from our child’s viewpoint?
May 13, 2014
Hi there, my ex-partner moved out since January 12th from the house that I now rent (I am the sole tenant). I have my child four nights and he has her 3 nights per week.
We are due to go back to court on June 4th as we disagree on the time we want her. As she is starting school in September in my catchment area and for “structure and routine” reasons as well as disagreement on his way of looking after her, I would like to have her all week days and one every two weekends.
My ex-partner is self-employed and I do not know where he lives. He hasn’t paid the last three months of the nursery fees and refuses to do so as I have increased nursery time due to my work commitment.
He also has never given me money to support me financially regarding our child’s needs since he has moved out.
Many thanks.
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Why would you want her to see less of her father? Me and my ex husband split just as our daughter was starting school, we had her 3 and 4 nights each too – that was 10years ago and it hasn’t hurt her at all. Further more I don’t expect a penny of her father for our daughters upkeep as I know he has always paid his way when she has been at his house – and vise versa! Because of our grown up responsible arrangement, we all get along just fine and there have never been any money talks or arguements in the past 10 years – surely this way benefits the child more than the mother looking like the evil vilian again wanting more money and the father not having a say? …always the same story, makes me sick!
1 u need to see from you child point of view NOT him . Let him see his kids the way he is and stop thinking of your self . He also need that money to live and may not even have it to pay for the school fees if it not being payed maybe you should . He their for her that want matter most end of
Laura Hudson, what a briliant and nicely put answer. People who commented previously should take example from you.
You can’t get to court these days without first trying mediation Laura, I know this as I went to mediation and my ex refused, although we have never been to court as it would be pointless in trying to force him to maintain regular contact with our children when he doesn’t want to ! Marie unfortunately not all circumstances are amicable and can work as well as yours does. My ex moved 300 miles away after we split ! Our arguments used to focus on how little he sees our 3 children and how much they miss him ! I want what’s best for our children and they want to see him so I often travel half way when he does decide he wants to see them. It really does annoy me that women are portrayed as greedy and spiteful when not all are ! Don’t tar all NRP with the same brush – I could say all men are irresponsible and selfish for not supporting their children financially and refusing to be a part of their life ! BUT I know that isn’t true and won’t be so utterly stupid as think that of all men !!!! It is NOT ALWAYS the same story !!
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Marie Owen that is the ideal and it is what the government is really trying to promote. In the majority of cases ex-partners are embittered toward each other and therefore refuse to cooperate with one another. The CSA will and do take advantage of this. They often inflate NRP’s liability and in many cases PWC do not get paid what they are owed if at all. It is better for the parties to agree between themselves. This is better for the children and the parties themselves. That is why we at Selwyns Law offer a mediation service – as well as dealing with all aspect of CSA problems – and this works well in the majority of cases.
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Yes but Christine, this woman is saying SHE wants to change the child’s visiting routine (probably to suit her and her finances) so therefore she is taking control and leaving the father – who clearly wants to keep having his child in his life as much as he is doing – without any option! To me she sounds a greedy selfish bitch!
@ David Joesph
Nice piece of advertising there, would be interesting to see some free advice though while you are on here??