Why should we pay for a child we cannot see?
My partner has a 15 year old daughter, I will not bore u with all of wot has happend.
His ex has always played games letting him have her 1 week then not seeing her 4 years. We moved from the house they new of, and was happy, We was at my mothers house last year and she turned up again looking for him, After 4 years of no contact again.
Then hiss ex started being a bitch on facebook To me saying stuff. And then she got the csa on him. He now has 2 pay £5 pounds a week out of our jobseekers which leaves us with about £97 pound a fornight to live on its hard.
I do not see why fathers should pay for kids they are not allowed to see because of the ex. Her husband has taken the kid on as she loves telling him. Her husband should pay if thats the case.
My partners daughter has been told lots of lies from her mother and now has said she hates her own father. I think the csa should look into how they work things because we live in hardship because of them and we can not even work because she will take it all.
THE CSA R C**TS
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It shouldnt be about (and it isnt about) paying for a child you dont see, you support that child as you are the parent of that child.
Does your husband want to see his children? If so, he has rights to, he can go through the family courts to see them and get a contacy order, the courts want both parents to see their children.
Im a PWC and my children’s father would see the children if and when he wanted so I tried to get an arrangement through the court but he still didnt keep to that, so it was changed but again he still didnt keep to it. So I asked for supervised visits and told not because he was their father but he was a father who kept letting his children down and upsetting them.
That doesnt mean to say I know all PWC are honest, etc like some NRP’s, we all suffer due to some of both of them, who ‘play the system’ and let the CSA ‘ work for them’
I agree that if you are denied a relationship with your child then you should not be required to provide CM.
The trouble with the current system is that it actually rewards the resident parent with more CM if they obstruct contact. They also know that the courts will do nothing to punish them if they refuse to comply with a Contact Order.
It’s a win win situation for the resident parent (usually the mother), and a loose loose situation for the non resident parent (usually the father).
@ Karen Unfortunatly the father won’t be able to see his daughter, even if he does go to court. The child is old enough to make their own decision and does not want to see the father. The fact that the daughters decision has been made based on lies will not infulence the court one bit!
I hope this works out for you and your partner as I am in a very similar situation with my daughter.CAFCAS are useless and, yes the CSA R C**NTS!!!
Why should the NRP pay towards a child when the PWC is being vindictive and not allowing access to the children? It is the PWC’s decision not to allow access the case should be no access to child no money. Indeed well said Rich the CSA are C*NTS
I think it is absoultly disgusting they expect the 2nd family to do without to pay another child. my hubby dont see his kids 22 and 19 he is just a wallet there was a court order in place she has obstructed it for 20 years he has not seen the 19 since birth but is expected to pay to keep him. the csa have told ME to sell my kids stuff to pay for him ERRR HE AINT MINE OR MY KIDS?????? the fact he is being persecuted and told that our household bills are not improtant is impinging on our human rights to a family life … denied by csa…. also the family credit we get is used to calculate money to this 19 year old that incidently is at college as a child but yet works as a man so which is he????? we should not be supporting a person who is working at that age but yet he can still get family allowance as a child. so does that mean then if my hubby goes back to college for 12 hours he dont have to pay him hahaha NO IT DONT apparantly only works one way. the LAW says we need to be topped up with family credit coz WE DONT HAVE ENOUGH TO LIVE ON…. thats LAW….. so how the hell then with this in miond can we support ANOTHER FAMILY IF WE AINT GOT ENOUGH TO LIVE ON????? either the law is an ass or the csa and government is taking money off families ILLEGALLY……. leaving many in poverty but you try and get ANYONE to challenge from the mp down wards nooooo no no nooooo your shown the door fathers in this country are being discriminated against which should be rightfully challenged i cannot find one case where the mother is being tagged attatched earnings have their house reposseesd etc for abandoning their kids csa dont chase them so y then are dads being criminalised have their house driving licence passprt etc removed from them right down to tagging and prison for non payment. if they dow see em they should not pay end of. mothers choice to prevent a relationship with their child so the decision should carry no money aswell…… csa needs to be disbanded and stop destroying families