Why should I pay for someone else’s lifestyle?
I’m a single dad with a 6 year old son. His mother left us a few years back and I’ve been doing this on my own. She pays me NOTHING in child support. It’s all on my income and very little help from Centrelink.
So, a year or so ago, I got onto an Internet dating site. I met a female who made it clear she was on the pill. I used a condom.
After two dates, it was immediately apparent to me that this woman was only quizzing me about my income and my net wealth. She wasn’t interested in me and had no interest in my son. She just wanted to know if I was a ‘good candidate’. I stopped seeing her or contacting her at once.
Six weeks later, she called me and said she was pregnant. I offered to pay for an abortion, as I had no desire to bring another child into this world to live the way my son lives, with no real family or mother around him.
She took the money and said “it’s done”. I didn’t hear from her for 9 months. Last week I got a phone call from her, saying I now have a son and I have to pay child support. She refuses to allow me or my family to see the boy, and she doesn’t want me to be a part of his life at all. She just wants the money.
CSA says that’s fair.
How the F%*K is that FAIR?? I’m going to take this whore to court and fight for 100% custody of her child. I will not pay her for something she planned and aimed at. I will not line her pockets because she refused to work a day in her life before aiming at someone to get her knocked up.
Sometimes women should really be held accountable for their OWN choices.
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Well unless you prove ur not the dad via dna you will have to pay
I was about to suggest that you get a DNA test. If she refuses (can she?) then I’d point out to all the relevant services that you’re not convinced that the child is yours. You need to investigate getting an access order.
Also, I’m dubious about having to pay for an abortion.. aren’t they free on the NHS?
Lessons here:
1) Don’t sleep with people until you actually know them. Yeah, yeah, easy to say, been there myself. But I’m beginning to think a life of celibacy is probably a good idea. 😉
2) If you ever hand over money, get a receipt. Or pay the abortion clinic directly. Whatever, don’t hand over cash for these things. I pay my ex via a bank transfer so that NO-ONE (not even the CSA!) can deny that the money got transferred. I keep my bank statements too.
this women has lied about having an abortion.why give her credence for anything you dont even know that a child actually exists call her bluff ask for her to go through
the csa if there is a child then challenge paternity and put the ball back in her court
You should tell the CSA you are mistaken and you don’t know who she is and never had sex with her. What can they prove?
If you used a condom I would ? paternity, how many other men has she used in this way? Are csa actually involved?, if they are ask for a DNA test. 1 in 7 men are raising kids that turned out not to be theirs, figure is quite alarming.
If you used a condom as you say you did, the baby, if it exists at all isnt yours. it cant be can it! How do you even know this baby exists if you havent even seen it? Demand a DNA test, CSA cant take anything from you until paternity is confirmed. If however you are unlucky enough to have fathered a child with this woman, you are going to have to face the music im afraid. Children dont ask to be born after all do they!