Why should I bother paying CSA?

March 30, 2015

I pay csa though work and never seen my daughter for 5 years.

Then out of the blo i was seening her every 2 weeks for 3-4 months and don`t want anything to do with me now.

Why should i pay csa at all?


9 Responses to “Why should I bother paying CSA?”

  1. Alan Pearson on March 30th, 2015 7:45 am

    U still pay csa don’t care if U see them or not

  2. Tony Thomas on March 30th, 2015 8:58 am

    There should be a law that says if you’ve paid for 5 yrs and still not seen the child you pay for because the mother won’t let you, then you should just stop paying

  3. Cheryl Smith on March 30th, 2015 9:35 am

    Because your paying for your daughter and not your ex. Yes it’s unfair if you don’t see your daughter but your paying your bit towards her and when she’s older shel know that. Too many men think it’s money for their exs to go out spending… A shitty 30 (sometimes less) is nothing compared to an expense of bringing up a child. Although I don’t think any child should be stopped from seeing the father UNLESS there is a suitable reason as to why not ie (violence, drugs etc)

  4. Sheryl Heidi Quinn on March 30th, 2015 9:48 am

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  5. Monta Mikelsone Casey on March 30th, 2015 10:13 am

    She can’t just don’t let u there must be a reason or vort order?

  6. Tony Thomas on March 30th, 2015 1:22 pm

    So you pay for a child you don’t get to see for 16 -17 yrs then get a knock on the door off the child saying hi. Your my dad. And then what. Are we supposed to go Disney and play happily ever after!!?? Sorry but it doesn’t work like that. A lot of women on here haven’t got a clue have they. Muppets or what!!!!

  7. Cheryl Smith on March 30th, 2015 3:33 pm

    No.. Because if you were stopped seeing your child. You’d sort it out by taken them to court for access. Nobody would ever stop me seeing my daughter and Id fight all the way through courts! Money isn’t an object when it comes to your child. Some dads on here think that money is the be all or end all… It’s not! children come first and like I said,I don’t agree on women stopping their exs from seeing their children unless it’s for a valid reason. Courts don’t stop dads from being a dad unless there’s a reason. Some men are total losers on here. Instead of whinging I couldn’t see my kid on facebook.. Id be fighting through courts and getting my rights

  8. Nigel Rowden on March 30th, 2015 8:31 pm

    take your ex to court get full time custody and demand CSA from her and not let her see her children.
    firstly before doing that. just wait and see the reaction of opposite sex when the shoe is on the other foot. wait, wait, oh that’s a surprise you hear nothing as a reply.as the only reply should be “WHY ISNT THE MOTHER PAYING UP CSA”. on reflection it don’t happen that way around. 🙂

  9. gonk on March 31st, 2015 7:02 pm

    Cheryl Smith
    talking total bollocks as usual. get off your fucking moral high horse and shut up. Courts are a fucking joke where the csa/cms are involved in a the nrp’s (usually the father) life, we all know the scum are a law to themselves and court orders seem to be a pointless exercise. The mother still screws the dad for cash and still stops him seeing his kids. And why cm payments are not means tested is beyond me. typically…how the hell is it fair that a father is paying an ex hundreds of pounds each month and struggling because of it, to make ends meet for his new family, when the ex has a partner earning a very very healthy salary where she and her kid/kids want for nothing. hows that fair? He should pay a fair amount taking into account his new families needs and her payments should be dependent on what is fair considering her wealthy partners income. WTF…CSA even use the nrp’s new partners child tax credits (if they have dependents) when assessing his cm. how the fuck is that right ??
    And what if the dad cant afford to take the bitch ex to court ?
    you really do see the csa through rose tinted spectacles. and your comment, money no object…pmsl…easy said I guess, IF you have money, and it certainly the be all and end all if its the reason you cant see your kids because of how much the csa bleeds a dad for. And YES we pay for the EX and not our kids. And why, because the law says we have to hand the money other to the mother…OPEN to abuse and pissed up the wall as she sees fit. It should be handed over in the form of food and/or clothes vouchers..THEN dad sees that his money is spent as it should be and then theres no reason for him suggesting the ex is spending it on herself…Theres no way my ex spends every penny of the £300 I have to pay, solely on my daughter..every penny…no ifs no buts, it should go to my daughter, all of it. And don’t bring up the old utility bill chestnut. Bollocks as well, because the ex would still have to pay her gas and lecky whether my daughter was there or not. and besides, why should my money for my daughter subsidies my ex’s bills? her and her partner should be paying them…not the ex.

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