Why should ex get away without paying for child when I have to?

November 8, 2012

I have my child full time, im in full time education plus working. I barely get a full day with my child but I have to do it for my own and child’s future and keep thinking it will be worth it and work as my child’s father doesn’t! He only see my son for a couple of hours on a Saturday and that couple of hours he passes my son on to his parents.

He’s not paid for my son for over a year, when he eventually got a job he had to pay the same amount per week not month… week… Summed up to just over £300 a month in total.

So obviously my son was taking a big chunk of his wage per week.

When this was arranged with him and csa. Csa told myself IF he doesn’t pay the right amount or anything 40% of his wage will be deducted. Fair enough? So I thought…

I don’t check my bank statement or what’s in my account but I think I should start… This was my fault but csa are still at fault as they advised me what happened I didn’t tell them what will happen. I was getting regular payments for about 5 weeks until In October I got my bank statement I just check it out of curiosity – no payments since September! Was 40% of his wage deducted ? Was it hell! he should have paid 3 more payments before he decided to chuck his work. I checked back around the time payments had stopped and it was around the same time me and his father had a disagreement – where I said if u don’t want to see my son again ill stop csa just tell me instead he stopped it without telling me.

I work all the hours I can so my son can get the best toys, clothes and things he needs. Plus keep a roof over his head and fund for our future. Now my son has trips coming up and I don’t want him missing out so I need to work an extra couple of shifts so I can pay for that plus give him spending money – and I will be penalised for doing this.

When csa contacted him to ask about 3 missed payments he advised he wasn’t paid wages funnily I’ve heard that excuse 6 times before! Hes even refusing to sign on!! Why should he get away with not paying for a child when I have to do it 24/7!!!

I’ve already contacted my mp before and intend to do it again


6 Responses to “Why should ex get away without paying for child when I have to?”

  1. sarah Briers on November 8th, 2012 8:28 am

    Theres more to life than toys best clothes n trips!! How would u manage loosing 40%of your money trust me its impossible to live my kids go without while we pay my husbands ex s benifits so all the kids go without n yes I was a single mum n never got anything from my ex wouldnt want it anyway,

  2. hornbeamfairy on November 8th, 2012 8:28 am

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  3. chall on November 8th, 2012 10:20 am

    Quote Starz29; ‘..he should have paid 3 more payments before he decided to chuck his work.’
    ‘Hes even refusing to sign on’

    If your ex voluntarily left employment without just cause, he may be subject to a sanction of between 1 week and 26 weeks. The actual period in each case is at the discretion of the Adjudication Officer who makes the decision.

    If he is unable to claim benefits, it would be interesting to learn how he is managing to survive.

    Also, if the CSA consider he has left employment in order to escape paying CS, the CSA calculation could still stand.

    chall ~ afairercsaforall

  4. Alice on November 8th, 2012 10:41 am

    If after a DEO is imposed an NRP leaves that job the employer will no longer be able to take deductions and as such all payments will cease. There is a responsibility on the PWC to check their payments and advise the agency that they have not received the expected amount and the agency will then investigate. There is also a responsibility on the NRP to report any changes in their circumstances to the CSA. The system will flag up missed payments, but in reality it can take months for a case to be investigated and this is simply down to the sheer number of cases which need looked at.

    If a PWC reports a lower payment, or no payment which was to be collected by DEO then they will contact the NRP’s employer to establish the reason for this. If the NRP’s employer tells the CSA that the NRP is no longer working there they will start trace action to establish his current circumstances and do a re-assessment.

    If an NRP leaves a job he may not be entitled to benefits, and may rely on family and friends to support them whilst they have no income. If an NRP has left their employment to avoid paying CM then the CSA do indeed have the right to refuse to revise the maintenance calculation, the problem arises in proving this was the reason that the NPR left their employment.

    Sadly the CSA cannot guarantee any payments for Child Maintenance, they can only pay out to the PWC any money collected from the NRP.

  5. karen bedford on November 10th, 2012 6:19 am

    Good advice above. Would like to join the facebook groups set up for help/support/advice child support agencies failings and other groups?

  6. chall on November 10th, 2012 10:33 am

    ~ it doesn’t appear from what Starz29 has written that the CSA had imposed on DEO on he NRP.


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