Why must my children watch their dad waste away?
I’m better off on benefits. I know I have a responsibility towards my children but its not in their interest watching their dad waste away.
On my current part-time wage, I have to pay £62 child maintenance each week.
If I give up my job (on grounds of petrol) I only pay £5 on Jobseekers.
Total by total, that leaves me £29 better of on the doll.
I have £12 for food a week. No pocket money, no money for my home, outings, breaks, Birthdays, Xmas,etc. All my children get from me is a paper made birthday card
The more I earn, the more CS I pay and the less Housing Benefit I get.
My rent is the cheapest, I rent a one bed house so my children can visit at weekends (I can’t bring them to a shared house).
In under the new rules, my £5 a week Tax Credit was removed.
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I hate the CSA with a passion! I think those people who work there do not have a single shred of decency or morals. I have 2 kids to my ex and love them dearly,my job requires me to work 2 weekends on and 1 off ,my ex cannont accept me taking the kids during the week she wants her weekend . I am also married and my wife and new baby also demand my time so the 1 weekend I have off I have to try and juggle between taking my kids from my ex and also having time with my new wife and baby. Changing jobs is finacially not an option! I also take my kids a few hours a week swimming etc and return them home but it is a 60 mile round trip and is costly for fuel etc. What really gets me is my ex does not appreciate what I do and the monthly few hundred pounds maintenace money I give her does not go towards the Kids! I also have to buy them clothes and when they do come to me I take them on trips and activities etc. The kids hate their mum as she does nothing with them she doesnt work and therefore does not declare the money I give her, she also has a new partner who contributes to the household. over the last 3 weekends between me and my parents she has had the kids 1 night. yet she goes on about consistencey. The CSA does not benefit the child as all it does is support lazy,greedy and money orientated women like my ex to use a legal service as a means of Blackmail. I think that if a father has regular contact with his kids and makes a contribution to their mother as well as paying for clothes etc the CSA should not get involved unless ordered by a court. For those scumbag Fathers who do nothing for their kids they should be taken for everything as it is them to blame for the csa!
Great comment John. Agree 100% with your first and last sentence.
This is the comment that I like “The CSA does not benefit the child as all it does is support lazy,greedy and money orientated women like my ex to use a legal service as a means of Blackmail.”
What alot of women seem to forget though is when they stay at home with the kids, they get child benefit, tax credits, housing and council tax benefit and also maintenance. But what happens once the kids are grown?! As soon as a child leaves full time education they do not get all their benefits.
CSA should be scrapped and powers handed back to the Courts, that way both incomes are taken into account and maintenance paid on a fair and affordable level.
Carol its called just desserts when kids are grown….some pwcs don’t think of that and think the gravy train runs forever! It does need scrapping big time as it helps no one except the government.
Carol… The woman I had a very brief relationship with knew this. With her daughter nearing the end of full time education, she had to get pregnant and have a baby. She’s never worked, always sponged off the state (her ex partner never worked) and now she’s sponging off me. Said she was on the pill etc etc. What a mug I was.
I agree with everyone 100%!! Some women trap men for money by falling pregnant and using the CSA as the tool to do so. My partners ex works for the benefits agency (part time with ALL the school holidays off) and knows every trick in the book to get more money…. she ‘accidently’ fell pregnant after he suggested they split up (they had one child together at that point). When he found out she was pregnant, he was suicidal… but stayed with her for another year…
When I met him (3 years after he left her), he was working full time and every other weekend to make enough money to pay his mortgage bills and his ex.. he had registered to go bankrupt as he couldn’t afford to keep up with everything! His ex didn’t care that he wouldn’t have a roof over his head to look after the kids every weekend and/or a couple of evenings a week to let her do her own thing… she told him to take the kids to his mothers (who is a pensioner in a small house).
When I got involved with him, his ex turned into the she devil and claimed all sorts of nonsense (e.g. that WE had to pay HER more money because I had a job!!), she stalked us by pretending to be her daughter on social networking sites.. she would interrogate the kids to find out what we had bought for our home and then send nasty e-mails demanding more money and lied to the CSA about overnight stays….
I find her behaviour and the whole situation absolutely disgusting… she is nothing more than a money grabbing self-centred, greedy cow who thinks we owe her a living because she has two children…. if she go off her lazy, fat arse and got a full time job, she would realise how dificult it is for the rest of us!!! she puts decent mothers and women to shame!!!