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Why don’t we focus on a child’s emotional support first?

22 July 2014 by Elfed Bartley

What pisses me off more than anything is everyone banging on about money, money, money, money. WHEN will there be a Child EMOTIONAL support agency???????

No wonder the majority of children from broken families end up at the lower end of society, they just see their split parents constantly fighting. I dont see my boys, apparently as I no longer loved her and didnt want to live with her anymore I was suddenly a phedophile, with 7 cops at the door checking my computer, phone and anything else with memory capability, and after wasting police time they were returned to me.

So just be careful guys, the girl who will do anything for you when you meet her will do anything against you if/when you split, even using the children as a lever, saddens me when one parents need for power and spite is greater than a child/children’s need for a father.

46 thoughts on “Why don’t we focus on a child’s emotional support first?”

  1. But don’t a majority of pwcs get child benefit, child tax credits and any other benefit they might be entitled to help with household costs? Why is this never recognised or counted in an arguement? Child support should be means tested from both sides then it cuts out all the crap.

    I’m a pwc with 2 children who gets no help what so ever from my ex (only seen his daughter once at 3 months old, she’s now 10!) but I’d rather have his emotional support with the children, which i know will never happen and thankfully they have a great stepdad because we’ve managed okay financially…and all I’d want realistically from him is birthday cards, xmas cards etc, I do not need him to pay my utility bills!

  2. Sarah Louise White on July 22nd, 2014 5:02 pm
    Why is it… that when a couple are together they spend there earnings ect on there kids on a daily basis as a family. unit… but soon as they separate and the other half being a man or women who’s left holding the kids when they ask for support there classed as money grabbing bints?? so if I get this right… when a parent separates with there ex again a father or mother who’s left holding the kid they should basicly say ok off u go ur kid will be fine we dnt need ur support u move on and breed more kids that u will dump again for the nxt women? and so on and so on. Why do people get cussed when the csa take money from the mother or father for the child that’s left with the other parent… surely it’s 1 support to the child they made kids ain’t free… 2 a lesson that kids can’t just be bred and left behind

    This is my view on the subject Sarah Louise white.

    When the slut of an ex WALKS out from a supporting husband/ father BECAUSE she don’t want him anymore due to her cyberwhoring with another guy and they get together and decide to push me out of the picture and take my daughter with them to all live happily ever after in their own nest. Both the slut and the prick the slut is banging now are both working. Then I say fuck them both and why the hell should I be milked of hundreds of pounds each month for a daughter taken away from me by her slut mother,to instead be brought up by her new cock.
    Why should I top up their salaries. THEY should be responsible for my daughter now. THEY both wanted her, I had NO say in the matter but is expected to pay. IF I want to spend money on my daughter for luxury items and holidays or just pocket money? That should be MY perogative given the circumstances she was taken away from me by her slut of a mother who by the way walked after being married for just 9 months
    Call me old fashioned,but when a wife and her lover goes out of their way to break up a father and daughter family life, then they should be responsible for that child’s everyday needs. it fucks me off beyond believe that all I do ( the mug of an ex) is subsidise their incomes. I am the ATM machine and my daughter is their cash cow.
    It’s as simple as that.
    Gonk
    Gonk.

  3. Sarah Louise white……MY MONEY should be spent on MY child ALL100% of it
    NOT on utiility bills. CM is for the kids, MY SKANK EX AND HER NEW COCK should pay the bills and not subsidise them with MY money intended for MY daughter
    I resent with a passion,being bled £300 each month straight into her bin and having NO FUCKING say in it. The arshole she with is laughing his cock off.
    This is one of Many reasons why this agency is not fair and should be means tested.
    Why the fuck should I prop up their household and try keeping my own house in order and all because the slut couldn’t keep her legs closed….it’s a fucking joke but only those 2 c**ts are laughting.
    Gonk

  4. Sarah…you be bloody thinking ” here’s a pissed,angry,bitter Nrp who don’t want to pay for his kid. You couldn’t be MORE wrong.
    This Nrp like most others HAVE no problems with paying for our kids. WE have every right to be angry about how it’s paid to the ex and having NO say how or even if ,it is actually spent on our kids.
    That’s what needles the vast majority of dads on here. My own personal feeling about having to pay this is made even worse by the fact my ex has another daughter whom I brought up from 18months old until she was 8 and with NO help whatsoever from her father, but my skank ex comes after ME for cm for my daughter but leaves the OTHER father alone…PMSL ….WTF is that all about….anyone care to work out why I am angry and bitter?
    Gonk

  5. Charlotte Rosevear on July 23rd, 2014 1:30 am
    Jason my son isn’t brain washed by any means. He will know the truth when he is older about his mum and dads marriage breakdown. The pwc also has bills to pay. I dont have any help as im a working class citizen. If a nrp wants more contact then people have to go to court and get that stated. David no onw said anything about the way you look after your son on here. Its about time you stopped moaning about how much you pay and get on with it. Im sure you dont moan about how much your wife and new son costs…. You have got to suppprt the child financially weather the nrp likes it or not unfortunately

    A bitter pill to swallow when you know your money is just topping up an ex’s salary on top of all the other benefits she gets and including her working partner.
    In principal you are right Charlotte, in practice you talk bollocks.
    Gonk

  6. Also easy for you Charlotte to spew garbage about us moaning about what we have to pay…very easy coming from the lips of someone not screwed for it or having no say,how it’s spent. You think it’s easy to just get on with it Charlotte? If the poor bastard on bread line or less, but then by the your anology and the CSA for that matter..neither of you give a shit.
    Gonk

  7. Charlotte….no ones a perfect mother but saying you’re a better mum than someone else, your ex’s new wife in this instance, makes you sound bitter and childish.

    We all parent differently and as long as there is no abuse with a child(ren) then what’s the issue?

    Do you want a medal for being a mother, my son is also delayed and I get on with it, he also has bad temper spats, I get on with it…you sound just like my husbands ex who only ever wanted to discuss their children to get at me, never wanted to before he met me, we’ve had it all from her until dr told us that one of the kids conditions he supposedly had wasn’t as bad as she made it out to be, never understood why she felt the need to belittle me as I never dissed her but she felt compelled to hurt me with my own children and even got her children to hurt my children.

    Stop with the games and think of the damage it does to the kids. Don’t say negative things about each other especially not on an open forum for all to see, some things are best left in private.

  8. Charlotte, also, why should any one have to go to court to apply for more contact? What gives you the right to play God?

    If you’re moaning your ex doesn’t know ‘ your’ son’s needs then surely this lies with you as you will not allow your ex more contact? He has to apply for it, why can’t he just ask you or is that too difficult? Is he abusive, an alcholic, an addict? Your son does not need to know any details of why your marriage broke down, at the end of the day that’s still his dad and if it didn’t work then it didn’t work, do not put all that onto a child…he has ended it with you, not his child but sounds to me you want to beat your ex with it!

    Then you say his share of money doesn’t cover costs….but surely it must help, how much is ever enough, doesn’t your ex need to live as well? Try having nothing, no money or no help…I would love my ex to want his children, but sadly he doesn’t and I get on with it because ultimately I made my choice in becoming a mother and do not praise in doing so.

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