Why are lying mothers allowed to get away with things?
Where to begin!
Split up from my wife 10 years ago our son is 11 this november. Been paying child maintenance all this time. I used to pay her cash with no problem for years untill she decided to tell csa I had not payed her. After a phonecall to police she soon retracted her statement but stopped me having my son 3 nights to 2. I have currently used csa for many years with no problem. Now the csa has changed and they are starting a new claim my lying ex has told them there is no shared care even tho I still have my son from Sunday to Tuesday!
So as U can imagine the csa has doubled. I have a new family with 3 other children. This is totally wrong on so many levels im basically been asked to pay for a lie! While I still have my son and I provide everything for him here while in my care and holidays etc as U would I love my son! Why is she allowed to do this and the child maintence let her it’s demanding money through menaces and its theft fraud all rolled into one! I will never stop paying for my son but I will not be robbed by a money grabber who may I add left me with over 30 thousand pounds of debt when she walked out into her new life set up behind my back! I think ive been more than fair! Hate liars and the mums that give other mums a bad name shame on you!
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Ex wife lies and manipulates CSA to her will. I have been paying child support without the help of CSA for 6 years. My ex thought that it was best to go contact CSA in case of any complications. We have always discussed everything and agreed things amicabilly. Over the last year my circumstances changed and I told my Ex Wife. Last year was a though time financially and with family stresses of the dreaded C I took a couple of months off for stress and obviously wasn’t paid for the privilege. My ex wife and my children also moved 60 miles away from my home back in May 2017. I moved in with my girlfriend who has three children too.
Due to the stress the changed in location me supporting another family when I changed the maintenance accordingly (reduction for travel expenses and supporting another family) my ex decides to lie to CSA and tell them I haven’t paid her. Even after speaking to CSA and telling the contrary to what they’ve been told they decide to send me a Collect & Pay notification for all of last year’s maintenance + collection fees + new maintenance + new fees.. this will leave me with about 60% of my take home to live on which is outrageous.
The point that my ex has lied is at best fraudulent and criminal theft. For CSA to condone her actions by rewarding her my money is aiding and abetting. For CSA to ignore my calls and not call me to discuss is negligence. How frustrating.
I would like to say though that the CSA and child maintenance was set up for father’s who don’t pay. Those who don’t pay need to be found and made to pay. Those who do pay need leniency and I think it’s outrageous that the number of days you regularly see your child don’t take into account the weeks or fortnight fathers spend with their children to help their ex-wifes out. Also my wages have come down from last year but my CSA payments go up because of my last year’s wage. It is a shambles. I am considering handing my notice in at work because it’s ridiculous.
It’s a joke it has to be???