Why am I paying if the CSA details are wrong?

April 22, 2015

My Ex walked out on me 9 years ago and took my 7yr old with her she got married 12 months later, I was approached by the CSA to say they will be taking £300 a month out of my wages direct and I have no say in it.

Then approx 2 years later I noticed that she had not informed them of her martial status I informed them straight away and still to this date her surname has changed but not her title. In my eyes I shouldn’t be paying them a thing if their details are incorrect??

Also I live in cornwall she lives in Birmingham and still have him for all the holidays well the ones she says are ok now I drive all the way to Birmingham and back same day to collect him which I don’t mind but is now crippiling me as its costing me £60 each way in petrol so £240 each time I have him and I have been doing this for the last 2 years but CSA are insisting that I still have to pay them the money on top so basically I have to pay out £520 a month.

I only take home £1000 so the maths don’t add up and now they say im in arrears… please help as they wont listen and I don’t want to lose my contact with my son but its now getting to the point where im going to have to give up my job as I cant afford to keep working and pay them.

I forgot that this year the ex and her husband have been to Dubai 2 and stayed at the atlantis hotel and been to spain so my money is been used not for my son directly but to pay for luxury holidays, I wouldn’t moan and begrudge anybody having a holiday but I havnt been able to afford to take my family abroad and have the guts to claim im struggling to the CSA for a top up.

The CSA is wrong we all know it they can take money direct from source as they please and I wouldn’t mind if I had no contact what so ever but I do go out of my way to maintain the contact with him even to the point I have no money left to support myself as long as I get to see him.

The ex has refused me joint parental consent I constantly have to jump through hoops to keep seeing him, but am getting a little tied of it now, I have asked if she would meet me somewhere local but the answer I got back was you collect him from here and drop him back here and no one but you can collect him not even my father or mother.


7 Responses to “Why am I paying if the CSA details are wrong?”

  1. Dave on April 22nd, 2015 8:16 am

    So what if she’s re-married?
    You seem to have an issue in paying child maintenance and from what I read, all you are concerned about is money.

  2. Alan Pearson on April 22nd, 2015 8:48 am

    Csa dont care about you or your kid aslong as u pay and it dont matter that your x and new man or surname its still your kid so u have to pay and by the looks of your x if u drop payments shes going to stop u seeing your kid

  3. Simon Scott on April 22nd, 2015 9:10 am

    The CSA priority is not the care and welfare of the child! Their mandate is to ensure the % of income is retrieved regardless if the parent is using this money is being used to support someone’s lifestyle and the child is living in poverty! I can’t see this changing as today’s society is all about punishing the Father cos he is a man regardless of being fair and proper and the effects on the child!

  4. Karen Todd on April 22nd, 2015 9:36 am

    U should be able to have travel costs taken into account. I would speak to them again

  5. Laura Hudson on April 22nd, 2015 10:23 am

    They can only take 40% max of your salary. If you get no reduction for overnight stays ask for an allowance for contact. Also consider court action to establish regular contact. You can represent yourself although a lot of PWC do not abide by it and don’t get sanctioned 🙁

  6. Simon on April 22nd, 2015 1:33 pm

    Dave I think that you misunderstand I have no problem in paying for my son but I disagree when I have each month payed for clothes ie school uniform for him on top of csa as well maintaining contact 10 hr round trip at at a cost of £120 there and back x 2 so how you come up with the idea I’m concerned about money is sheer madness.
    She remarried and hasn’t informed them they chase non resident parents for correct info so the door should swing both ways..

  7. Simon on April 22nd, 2015 8:40 pm

    Thanks to all for their advice, Laura I went to mediation twice and she never showed and I did think about court but was told the same it isn’t enforceable so didn’t see the point I’ll just keep jumping through hoops to see him.

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