Where’s justice?

September 5, 2008

10 years ago my ex and I divorced, he won custody of his step-son, I won custody of our two children. After our divorce i was homeless for 2 years with the children whilst i started work and earnt enough for a deposit on a house.

My ex then gave up his well-paid job so as not to pay me CSA payments. I went to work and supported the two children living with me. My ex allegedly started a business paying a friend in USA to purchase houses, do them up then sell them on and this is how he made his living. He refused to declare his earnings to the CSA, so he didn’t have to pay me any monies – my earnings were not enough and I was given tax credit. Over the years, I have worked hard to further my career to now not have to gain support from the government.  As I was working, 3 years ago our youngest child, living with me, moved in with my ex.  As the ex was home all day he was able to take him to after-school clubs which I was not able to. (His step son was now over 18 years old and whom has to pay his step father rent each month.)

During this time the CSA closed the account for my ex as the absent parent and following a tribunal and an appeal from my ex, they closed the account for me as the absent parent as the ex wouldn’t declare his earnings (under the old legislation).

Now my child living with me left college earlier this year and I receive a phone call from the CSA advising under the new legislation, my ex was entitled to 15% of my net earnings.

How is this fair? He has never supported our children, I have paid for all activities/clothing etc, he is better off then me (he kept the house in our divorce), has 4 holidays a year, just had the garden landscaped and his driveway rebuilt with, i presume, the proceeds he has earnt from USA.

Is there anything I can do to keep the money i have worked so hard to build from nothing?


5 Responses to “Where’s justice?”

  1. CSA Victim on September 6th, 2008 9:10 am

    It appears that you are in the same position as he was a few years ago. He found a way to keep the money he had earned!
    He is now looking after your child and is perhaps expecting you to help support the child. in the same way that you expected him to. Then again it maybe revenge for the time he had to spend fighting the CSA.
    Both Parents are equally reponsible for supporting their children, It must never come down to an arguement of who has more or feels they have done more.

  2. christine on September 6th, 2008 12:17 pm

    i think its time the government read some of our complaints, the csa is not working for the people its supposed to be helping. isnt that why it was set up in the first place?

  3. chall1964 on September 8th, 2008 2:36 pm

    There are a lot of issues with the CSA that need addressing for both PWC and NRP.

    Google afairercsaforall and go to the Campaign section.

    At present we are in the throws of drafting a reply back to a letter from James Plaskitt, via Edward Leigh – For those of you that are not aware, Edward Leigh is the chairman of the Public Accounts Committee. He is a barrister specialising in arbitration and criminal law – and also hugely critical of the CSA. He also agrees with alot we say in the the Red letter.

    We also have other MP’s lined up to approach.

    ALL parents, PWC & NRP’s need to find their voices and unite – the opportunity is there, join with us and lets see if we can make it work for us !!

  4. darkzog on September 15th, 2008 11:16 pm

    Only when more females get a taste of the intimidation and brutality of the CSA will things start to change.

  5. SB on January 2nd, 2009 11:28 am

    My ex then gave up his well-paid job so as not to pay me CSA payments. Key issue here is the payments may be PAID to you the PWC, but the money is for the children!
    Is there anything I can do to keep the money i have worked so hard to build from nothing? How many times has a father said this and been absolutely persecuted and told he is a dead beat dad?!!!!!
    Whilst i can sympathise to a point with your situation there is still the other side to consider, no PWC knows what this agency is like and how they drive the ” PAYING” parent into the ground until YOU are on the receiving end,, welcome to the real world, this happens every day, every week, every year to the fathers that DO pay.
    There are lots of other sites and organisations and campaigns that you could join and get your voice heard, although fathers have been doing this for years and no one listens, maybe if a female shouts loud enough she thinks she’s in with a better chance of getting heard, who knows, the way the government run up the ass of every lone parent i’m sure your life will be made a lot easier whilst the genuine dads will continue to suffer.

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