What’s to stop all mothers behaving like my ex?
February 13, 2014
I have been separated from my ex for nearly 4 years. She moved out of the family home with our two children. I got regular contact and paid her a monthly sum via the CSA which I was happy to do. I continued to live in the former family home (jointly owned by us). It has been for sale for 4 years but no buyers as yet. To speed up a possible sale, the ex moved back in with the kids in January this year.
Ex and I sleep in separate rooms but the kids are with us both every night and the house is shared by us all except for her and my bedrooms. All costs (and I mean ALL costs) for the house and kids are split 50/50. We agreed this before she moved back. She gets all the Child Benefit paid to her and always has done. She runs her own business and gets a good salary from this – probably £15K to £20K per annum. I earn £27K per annum. Yet she is still using the CSA to hassle me, claiming we are two households, not one, and demanding I still pay her the same monthly CSA amount (£230 per month) on top of our agreement. CSA keep asking the same personal questions even though I have told them all of the above. I thought the criteria for Child Maintenance was based on the Non Resident Parent’s (NRP) earnings with a deduction based upon the number of nights the children spent at the NRPs house.
If the CSA side with her on this matter, what is preventing every mother in the land who lives in the same house as the Father of her children going to the CSA (or Child Maintenance Service as it is now known) and making a claim against the Father?
That is just evil… most women through and through. Seeing as the kids are living with you, and you are essentially living as a family unit, any claim through csa should be null and void.
On the other hand, what’s good for the gander… contact the csa with as much evidence you can of the kids living with you, then counter claim.
If your currently paying 50/50 then decrease the amount your paying by the CSA payments. Stand up to her, if she gets away with this then she will continue to for ever
at the end of the day you are getting half your bill paid for you so your prob better off than before!!
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Get a grip! It’s worked out on nights spent with the parent who doesn’t have custody! The children are in his home with him every night! Hence there should be no claim for any child maintenance! And if she receives the child benefit and he’s paying 50% of all costs then he’s already paying too much! You stupid woman Cathy!
What ever you do don’t move out .
Counter claim as well if your in the same house it’s pure greed.
Be warned if she’s doing this now she capable of anything. The woman has no shame .
record everything you agree on as if it goes to court they will side with the woman.
surely if shes moved back in you’re payments should stop as she’ll be living out you’re pocket at the same time.
Maybe you could apply to the family court for joint residency/custody whilst they are living in the same house, that way the csa have no claim, just a thought. The kids reside at your post code address therefore you are no longer a NRP!
Alli and Mike…I shall make enquiries about joint residency / custody. Sally and Andrew, I shall make a counter claim. I was not convinced I could do that but it is worth a go.
Del, Simon and Lothian… thanks for the support. It is good to know I am not alone in this.
To Cathy, it is true, this situation has left me a little better off, but my ex is also better off as well. Our net incomes are about the same and if we lived in separate homes, I would start payments again tomorrow. Implying that I should just accept this situation and keep paying her is not OK with me. It is abuse of a system that is there to help PWC where the NRP is not supportive or where mediation between separating parents on child support costs has not worked.. It is not a gravy train!!
I don’t see any case here at all, surely she does not have one? You are NOT an absent parent, she is NOT a pwc. You both pay 50/50. The kids are neither with him or her but both of you.
I can’t see how or what the hell it’s got to do with the CSA at all.
I’d say null and void
Gonk
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