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What legal right do I have to see my children?
My ex wife kicked me out 2 and a half years ago and moved her new partner in 2 weeks after. I have been left homeless and can only see my children as and when she says.
The children are currently being used as weapons and I haven’t seen them in 2 and a half months although I am paying £420 per month and I am still not aloud regular access. I am now living in a room in a shared house and I am left with no wages at the end of each week after my rent and CSA is paid. How do I stand legally to see my children?
As I can’t afford a solicitor and I am hoping yourselves can help me with my situation. Many thanks, Neil Robinson.
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When will the CSA realise that a lot of pwc’s do this!In the USA it would come under’ Parental Alienation ‘which I think we should follow here in the UK. We are having a lot of problems with this ourselves & the CSA believe everything the pwc says. I hope someone will come on & give you the help you need.. I don’t know enough about it myself to offer any useful advice. No father should be treated like that & you need somewhere to bring them & let them stay with you- when will the CSA play fair?!
Thinking of you & All the best.
Access and maintenance are separate issues so the csa cannot assist on getting access to your children. If access cannot be agreed privately between parents then this needs to go to the family courts. If you are on a low income you may be entitled to legal aid, you could also speak to CAB and see if they are able to help you.
Good luck in getting to see your children
Alice
Access and maintenance are related so long as the amount requested by the CSA is increased by a reduction in contact.
No access should mean no money, each parent has a right to be in there childs life, the CSA alienate parents by lying to them each time they contact the agency and pushes a wedge further between parents, the csa are immoral in everything they do
Michael, access is not a right only if you pay maintenance, equally not paying maintenance should not be restricted due to non-payment. There is a reduction if overnight care is provided by the NRP so in that way there is a link – however the csa still cannot intervene on access issues.
In general there can be many reasons for access being denied, some are genuine reasons and others not so – but no access should not mean no payment, if an NRP is not seeing their child for the safety or well being of the child then this should not negate their financial responsibility for the child
A child deserves both parents, regardless of whats happened, You people who work for CSA are nothing but trained robots going off scripts each time, telling the PWC what she wants to hear whether it be true or not, your suppost to be the CHILD support agency, the title of your organisation speaks for itself, your not there to turn parents against each other by lies and other crap, your suppost to work with each of them to make there own arrangements together with regards to thier children,
The law needs to change and soon, No ACCESS NO MONEY SIMPLES
lisa:- Do you mean reading from a script or going off script?
They sit at a computer reading from a script, they give you details that they can see from there computers but other stuff is either there in front of them you know the scripts “what to say if NRP, PWC asks this or that answers” and lies, as well as we all know, i knew somebody that worked at CSA she said nobody knew how to work the computer systems and when she left she felt like she had a massive weight lifted off her, she was also told to ignore the nrp unless he made a payment, not to take advice from NRP about anything other than payments, the prime objective is collecting money end of!
Alice
When the PWC is financially incentivised by the CSA to restrict overnight stays to fewer than 52 and, in many cases, to stop access altogether then there is more than a ‘link’ between the two.
The CSA is actively participating in fathers being stopped from seeing their children by greedy mothers simply looking for more money, which the CSA promises.
goto court get a c100 form then apply for access once you have a court order she will have to follow
also it can some times help with the wankers at the csa money wise
it did for me
@ Michael, Well said, its about time ” Alice the troll” was put in her place, your right they dont give a shit about promoting the childs well being with both parents, its sickening
lisa:- So you meant reading from a script.
As going off script would entail not following instructions from “The Management”.
Michael:- I agree all reductions for shared care could be dropped then there would be no incentive for PWCs to restrict overnight stays.
That way there would be no link at all.
@ Wilf, yeah it probably is going off instructions from management, but i also know that some case workers get carried away and tell the parents what they want to hear to get them off the phone, whether it be true or not,
Wilf
As a better idea, how about 50/50 shared care as a default? Child Benefit would then be paid equally to both parents. Both parents share the care and costs, no need for the CSA.
All the CSA has to get involved with is the dads who do a runner and don’t want anything to do with their kids. Contrary to how the CSA seems to think, there aren’t many of them.
How does that sound?
@ Wilf, do you agree men should pay if they are trapped into having a child that they dont want????
Michael:- I believe that on CS3 that will be the rule, 50/50 shared care no case.
Not sure about child benefit rules as traditionally from the days when it was family allowance it was paid to the mothers in the household.
lisa:- I am a very old man and in my youth if you got a girl pregnant you married them and took full responsibility.
Of course that was many years before the CSA was a twinkle in Margaret Thatcher’s eye.
In my eyes if you are not taking contraception (cant always be down to the man they are a bit dull sometimes) and then you get pregnant and dont consult the father on having the baby or he doesnt want it then personally you have brought the situation on yourself i would never go ahead have a baby just because it suited me, kids deserve both parents if at all possible, its shameful to run to the CSA after having the said child and expect the man to pick up the bill because having that child is the womans decision alone, old fashioned yeah you would marry the woman and do the right thing, but these days having kids and using CSA seems to be the norm at getting cash out of a man who didt want to be a father
I should point out, this post has loads of comments on the site. It’s kicked off.
I totally agree with Lisa’s post – 12 March, 10:20pm. It takes two to make a baby, which means that it is just as much womens responsibility to make sure that they don’t get pregnant as it is mens responsibility to make sure they don’t get women pregnant. If a women become pregnant, men don’t get a say in whether or not a woman should go ahead and have a baby. However, I am not condoning abortion. It would be better if unwanted children weren’t conceived in the first place.
My partner had a one night stand (before he met me) and the girl became pregnant. My partner did use a condom but when he took it off he noticed a split in it. He told the girl that it had split, and advised her that if she was not taking any contraception then she should get the morning after pill. Months later he saw her whilst out and she told him that she was pregnant by him. My partner now has to pay a ridiculous amount of money for a child he never wanted. He also has to live with the guilt of being partly responsible for bringing an unwanted child into the world. As he has said to me many a time, if he hadn’t have done what he did the child wouldn’t exist. That one night stand is the biggest regret of his life. The child’s mother is the sort of person who doesn’t want to work and expects everything to be given to her on a place. Women like her make me sick.
lisa:- I think women can be a bit dull sometimes as well.
@ Wilf, not all women are dull, i would never intentionally go with a chap just to get pregnant which some women really seem to do regardless of the consequenses, it doesnt make sense apart from the “im going to a house and money and dont ever have to work” its not the childs fault, but it just shows that by having that said child the CSA believe everything they are told and take the money regardless, makes me sick reading the posts, How many men that are actually sterile have had to pay for kids and spent years proving there innocence having money taken to get to the truth and no refund???? its shocking and nasty
lisa:- Not all men are dull.
How many sterile men pay for children and spend many years proving their innocence?
Seriously there have been a few wilf, reading on here last night, i was shocked to see that men had been named in cases where doctors evidence had been proved and sent to csa and they still had to pay, have a look back over the archives its really shocking, and the bad thing they get nothnig back at all,
All they needed is DNA evidence after their initial denial on MEF.