What does my child support actually pay for?

July 30, 2012

I currently pay Child Support direct from my salary per month. I have been asked by my son’s mother to assist with additional maths lessons, and now been asked to contribute towards a school trip for my son.

In his mothers words, ‘my money situation has changed’ can you help out?. Whilst i dont want my son to mis out, this is causing arguements between my wife and i. The 2 issues i have; What does my Child support pay for??, also on the birth certificate the father is shown as unknown.

In addition i was not invited to my son’s christening.

Please any help or advice would be hugely welcomed.


  • Alice says:

    Once you give your ex the CS then it is up to her what she spends it on.The CS you give your ex is supposed to cover all aspects of your child.If she wants to put the child in school camps,dancing lessons,horse riding then this should be covered with CS.Just remember she is getting money from Child Benefit and Child Tax.Also if she is in work could be also claiming Working Tax and could be getting help with Poll Tax and Rent .If you want to give your child pocket money then that is entirely upto you.In the future if you take on a second family things will get worse for you but better for your ex if she takes on a second family.You should be looking at how this will affect you and if you start dishing out more money now you could be making a rod for your own back if you both move on.I would only pay the CS for the time been.

  • jay. says:

    I’m with Alice on this, your cs should be covering these things that your child needs, you shouldn’t be expected to start paying more, and csa will tell you this….I’m afraid to say this, but, your ex is being greedy, and if I was your current partner, I’d be pretty pissed too…if your ex is living way beyond her means that’s her problem jot yours, like Alice said she would be getting all the above benefits on top of your payments.

  • chall says:


    Child support is a financial contribution towards a child’s daily living costs.

    It is completely your choice whether you assist financially with additional maths lessons or contribute towards a school trip.

    How old is your son? Obviously, maths is an important subject. Is it something you could assist him with?

    chall ~ afairercsaforall

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