We are getting into difficulty with bills because of the CSA demands
My partner has 2 children by his ex wife. His ex wife and both children live with an other man and taken his surname, both children are over the age of 16 and there is a growing suspision that ex wife works.
We still have to pay child maintanance, not only do we have to pay for them but we are in arrears because of a dispute. I do not have a job myself, never have, i am a home maker for 25 years. Now because of the csa i have to find a job, as you can inmagine is very difficult, because i am myself from holland i am not intitled to job seekers allowance, so we are depending on my partners wages. He earns 1600 per month and we have to pay 549 to csa.
I have children of my own still living in holland and now we cant pay for them to visit buy birtday presents and christmas presents,we are getting in to difficulty with paying bills we allready had to move out of our house we bought because we cant afford the mortgage,we cant pay of the loan we took to buy a car so he could go to work……i cant see any positive outcome in the near future,if the would deduct 150 pound a month we would be ok,but they are unwilling to do so,they give us the impression that we should go our separate ways just so he can pay them.we do not know where to turn,why do we have to pay for children above the age of 16 and why do we have to pay a high amount every month for arrears,a nd why is she getting child maintance while working and living with someone else, and why do we need to pay for 2 children who do not even want my partners surname?
We do not see them we never hear from them and why am i not taken in to acoount when they made the calculations? sureley it wouldnt be fair that a man who has to pay to the csa isnt aloud a new realtionship,we are together for 10 years,sureley it wouldnt be fair on the both of us that we have to end our relationship so they can live in comfertable wealth?we had enough trouble financaly paying her share of debts? csa does not care about that little detail,and to an exstend we understand,but it would be nice if we could have some understanding for our situation aswell?,thank you for listening,i hope maybe someone knows or has any advise for us .
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the fact is that your partner has 2 children and he has a legal and moral responsibility to pay towards their upbringing – his ex is also entitled to move on and have a new relationship but this does not mean your partner should not pay towards his kids. Nor does the issue of whether or not his ex is now working, he still has to pay towards their upbringing.
The calculation is based on your partner’s income and for 2 children his maintenance will be 20% of his take home pay – on the figures you quote this is £320.67 per calendar month. If he is being asked to pay £549 he must have arrears that will be being collected over and above his regular maintenance. Once he has paid off his child support debt the monthly payments will reduce to the £320.67 but your wish to pay £150 per month does not even cover his regular maintenance.
As to whether his children use a different surname, that is their choice and again this does not absolve your partner of his responsibility towards them.
You have chosen to leave your own country and family and move to the UK to live with a man who has children and as such you have to accept that he has a financial responsibility to his children so he will not be able to support you fully and as such you will need to start earning yourself