There has to be a fairer way

January 4, 2014

Way back Last Feb in a post on another site I said I was worried about what was going to happen about me losing my job and the downward spiral of trying to see my kids on less and less money. In two weeks I will find out if I still have a job and for how long. It is inevitable however that my kids will lose their current home(yes it is their home with their daddy, they also have a home with their mummy ), and I am so sorry that I could not keep it for them. I will no longer be the father I so desparately want to be, relegated to the once a fortnight, one night only daddy, and only then if I can afford to house, heat and feed them, which I will not be able to do if £10 is taken from jobseekers allowance.

No-one will listen, but there has to be a fairer way, dads like me are screaming out to have our kids, we do not want to be absent parents.

Someone in Government, please please please help us.


3 Responses to “There has to be a fairer way”

  1. Charlotte Rosevear on January 4th, 2014 10:41 am

    Hope it’s not bad news for you. X

  2. Jason Spurgeon on January 4th, 2014 11:38 am

    Have faith, It is possible. I got made redundant 9 months ago, and rent a two bedroom flat (specifically so I have a room for my two boys when they stay). The result being I have to contribute over £80 a month of my dole money towards my rent, and also lose £10 a fortnight to CSA to. It’s horrible, as I cannot be the Dad I want to be. It does not help also when you have a vindictive ex, who I was literally fighting against for custody of our children in courts just 2 weeks ago (Lost that as expected. Family courts do not give a crap about children and fathers). Despite having had 9 job interviews, I’ve still not been able to secure work. If you lose your job, just try and get another one ASAP, maybe you’ll be more fortunate than me. I’m fortunate to have good friends to assist me in the collection of my children, and like wise the occasional food parcel. But my children are only 5 & 6 and they always have a good time with me, even though I am virtually broke. We do parks, walks, reading, puzzles, games etc, and that Is something I do not need money for. I even twice in December cycled 27 mile round trips to see my children in their school plays. You just have to try and make the best of a bad situation. Chin up.

  3. hidefromexwife on January 5th, 2014 5:39 pm

    How do u afford £80 a month out of £60JSA/wk when there’s electric/food/heat to pay for?
    I was thinking exactly along the same lines of a 2 bedroom flat, but they all cost more than the dole will pay for a single person, and you are right, no-one cares a jot about NRP fathers, except to rip their hearts out while demanding the CMEC payment.

    Which brings me to another point, this site will have to change it’s name to CMECHell, and notice how the new name doesn’t mention anything about Child Support, so the absent father / non absent father no longers figures in anything, they’ve finally renamed it to be what it was all about in the first place.

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