The system is letting my kids down

September 3, 2013

so, my ex partner and I split in aug of 2004 leaving 3 children distraught. after contacting the csa ,it originally took nearly 4 months before I even heard back at which I was told he hadn’t provided any information. fast forward another 6 months and I finally start getting £5 a week…o big whoop…that will really help out my 3 children wont it.

I was informed this money was coming out his benefits. I received 6 payments, then it stopped. yet again he was working off the books for someone, but I couldn’t prove who it was for , so , yet again payments stopped.

around 18 months later I started getting the odd £5 a week again. yet again this only lasted a month or 2 then nothing. repeated phone calls were made on my end and all I kept being told was we will get back to you. about a year later I had a letter through the door stating an enforcement officer had obtained a payment of over £1000 in arrears. we were gob smacked, and I was told if he didn’t pay again they would become envolved again and take him to court and get deductions of earnings.

After this one off payment we received nothing for about 2 years despite my constant calls. all I kept being told was he wasn’t responding to letters and wasn’t willingly providing information.

long story cut short, it has taken from aug 2004 to march 2012 to get a deductions from earnings in place. that’s 7 1/2 years…ridiculous. they had plenty of time to do this before, yet clearly never bothered. in the mean time I had been a single mum struggling to work and bring my children up. but really, its bad enough that my children’s dad would not face up to his responsibilities and provide for his kids, but, for the system to then also let them down! its disgraceful.

Comments

  • karen says:

    You could complain to the ICE and your MP. Good luck.

  • Gonk says:

    This proves consistently Karen Bedford that you have an axe to grind with fathers ( NRP’s) EVERY pwc posting…you pop up. You should be ashamed of yourself..you bang on about the other side that will offer unbiased help but you only, quite obviously offer help and support to women. You tar all us men as you see us in your little evil mind..as low life scum even tho we did not choose to walk away from our responsibility of being a father and supporting our kids….woman’s parogative I guess, if she wants to fuck the man over sobeit,he has to accept it and pay for the privilege.I will be branded a troll by this woman…that I am not…I stick up and defend the hard working Nrp whom you DO NOT. I do not support the Nrp scum that avoid at all cost to support or help their kids,these people are the cause of the CSA hounding the dads on the paye system.
    Gonk
    Gonk

  • brett says:

    The CSA are on targets and bonuses, hence they spend most of their time and resources going after the PAYE NRP.

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