The only one getting hurt is my daughter
Good morning, I am expericing difficulty with my ex parter who I have a daughter with who is 5 years old.
The mother has never made it easy for me to see my daughters using her as a pawn or reason to get her own way, The mother 3years ago decided to move to jersey uk to live with her partner which has stopped me from getting access because of the locality and extreme difficulty to get to Jersey it was costing a fortune which got me into extreme financially difficulties.
I have now settled in Ireland with my wife and have a little boy, but I am trying to come to agreement on access and payment for my daughter but her mum will not meet me half way on this and wants me to pay for all flights to the uk this is not possible is there anyway to get this agreement in place without the courts as this is costly for both parties hope you can help also she travels back to the uk 2times a year to see her mother who lives in Manchester.
I recommended that she contact me with prior notice so I can arrange flight to bring her to Ireland but she is not agreeing to this and want everything her way. This is a mess and the only person getting hurt is my daughter. I just don’t know what to do for the future.
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in one word NO if you want it to be sorted out and be 50-50 then unless you both agree on it then the only way is to go to court and get it agreed there in black and white
Have you tried formal mediation?
It doesnt sound like it would be much help if your ex is being obstructive but you should check it out.
Perhaps the mediators could remind your ex that contact is the right of the child and something you should work together to maintain?
Sorry about your situation.
Good luck
sorry to hear that your ex is using the child in such a way and being obstructive in allowing you to see your daughter. From a CSA point access is not an issue they deal with – but if your maintenance was being assessed via CSA and you had an access arrangement which involved high costs attached – flights/accommodation etc – you would be able to apply for a variation in respect of contact costs.