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I have seen it all now, maybe you need educating in not being a greedy bitch, let the guy have a life, did you ever wonder why he has only just got back in touch with you??
Well said Lisa all they think of is money. They need to get a life
If it was me I’d be concentrating on forming a relationship with my Dad not bleeding the poor sod dry!! Must take after the pwc…
Not unless you had an OPEN case for all those years ( doubtful ) some dads will do anything ( inclding name changes ) to get out of paying, sucks but its life.
Pure greed. What makes you think your entitled to anything ?? Are you not happy that you got your dad back ?? Or is it the money you think your gonna get ??
That’s one route to lose contact with him again….
As has been said by csaworkerx, IF there was a live case opened and an assessment was in place way back then, then there will an arrears amount still owed.
Most unfortunate for the chap if there was a live case though.
The arrears can be wiped if both the PWC and SofS agree to them being wiped out.
@topper, ure right, except the bit about SofS, nowerdays we only need the pwc to agree to this.
@csaworkerx we all know the staff on the shop floor do fraud and add arrears to these people’s cases anyway, were proving it and we personally are going to be holding these individuals responsible, as we also know if the father can’t be traced as the OP said then there would have been no case to answer to, the sooner people get wise to CSA workers and there Inhumane practises and fraudulent activity to cover there own mistakes then the sooner the place gets closed down and all the staff sacked, though the staff being sent to prison under the CSA own legislation is poetic justice we should all push for this for these people trying to destroy our lives
CSAWanker If I find your IP address I will post your residential address on here and all over anti CSA sites you have been warned
@csaworkerx………..unusual reply there, so, if the case is a section 6 case, the ‘debt’ accrued (legally or illegally) is not owed to the SofS?
So a quick flash of a few pounds to the PWC with a request to close the case and wipe off any arrears or ‘debt’ is perfectly allowable? This I would like to see.
Also curious to know why you have an ‘x’ after your name yet you state “we only need the pwc to agree to this” and I am emphasising the “we” as this seems to imply that you are still a CSA worker? As I say, just curious.
@topper, the reply was wrong, sometimes from years back money might have been owed as Secretary of State arrears if the pwc was claiming benefits, this doesn’t go to the pwc as we all know, if the pwc was working she will be entitled to all of what’s collected, though through appeal and suchlike through the right channels were having arrears wiped to get shut of us under the legislations they use against us
To all of rhose leaving spiteful coments I was an innocent little girl when he left and never spoke to me again. He tore me apart so why would I ever want a relationship with him? He also beat my mother black and blue, smashed our home up and strapped my brother to a boiling hot radiator. I am not a money grabber. I am a care worker. Any money would have gone towards the £20,000 debt he left my mum in before he ran off with a 16 year old girl. Wankers!
To all of rhose leaving spiteful coments I was an innocent little girl when he left and never spoke to me again. He tore me apart so why would I ever want a relationship with him? He also beat my mother black and blue, smashed our home up and strapped my brother to a boiling hot radiator and I am not a money grabber. I am a care worker. Any money would have gone towards the £20,000 debt he left my mum in before he ran off with a 16 year old girl. Wankers!
I was “daddy’s little girl” but unfortunately my poor mother was a punch bag… You guys know no nothing!
He Walked back into my life when I was 12 then left AGAIN 2 days before my 13th birthday…. Money means nothing to me!!! I just hate watching my poor mother strugling to pay off his debt!!! I earn my own mother and want nothing from him!!! It’s my loving, caring, hardworking mother I am concerned about!!!
OMG – this is quite unbelievable obviously has been poisoned by the PWC. You Should be ashamed of yourself.
Seeing as your mum is paying off the debt it’s obviously debt she helped incur, no company would make her pay off debt she didn’t owe, sounds to me like your dad has come back and you both thought we will get him through CSA if your mum was claiming benefits then she wouldn’t have been entitled to anything anyway, there is probably no case to even answer so your post was pointless, they won’t chase him even now seeing as your age 22 and working full time, why not build bridges with him while you still can
@ csaworkerx, If i do find your IP address,. believe me the rewards for you will be
outstanding, Now i will leave your imagination to that thought process, Now fuck off you low life scum sucking leech fraudulant parasite,And kindly pass this on to all your other parasite scum as well,
No name ie Roxanne duff, why go under another name when we know you posted??
Wrong place to come for sympathy regarding the CSA!
They are scumbags.
God you make me angry . I would love my daughter to meet her dad after 25 years,she doesnt want hes money she jst wants to know him. If your dad has any sense he will run like hell!!
What the hell? Wow this made me angry. Greedy, selfish little bleep!
My husbands so. 19 just contacted via fb n is now claiming bk from 1994 bleeding us dry although assesments have quashed a lot of it but the kid had a row wiv my oldest daughter on fb n revealed all he was after was 19 years of muny no contact no questions as to y hes not in our life just wants massive pay out hubby has nuffin to do wiv him but is bring used as a dash cow……….obs takes after the muny grabbing bitch of an ex ……….kids bin brainwashed to the max………she ran off with another bloke to wales we day no were they was still dont just wales. This is her fault she has bred hatred n greed in to her son…..disgusting
Yr a muny grabbin 22 year old shit…….you shud be ashamed of yrself u only hav yr mums angry version of events ……..focus on gettin to no yr dad n c were it goes or he will disapear again…..
Obviously none of you are single Parents… Seem as you are all judging me without even knowing 0.1% of the story peeps all of you should be aShamed of yourselves. I’m merely sticking up for myself due to all of you parasites posting spiteful messages.
Should a parent who leaves his children not contribute then towards their upbringing?
Anyone who runs off and leaves his kids, disappears off tge face of the earth etc is scum!
To be fair @ Ms No Name, this probably is not (as you have by now gathered) the right place for sympathy unless you happen to be the NRP (this much I have noticed on this group, page, forum or whatever else you would like to call it) but there have been a couple of comments that have erred in your favour.
The internet is a wonderful tool and forums such as this are frequented by many a varied group of individuals, some will understand your plight and some will vent their anger, the problem is finding the group that best suits your needs.
I wish you luck in your venture.
The reason you got abusive posts mrs no name was because its women like you who give good mums a bad name such as gold diggers money grabbers etc, this is exactly what you made yourself out to be a money grabber, I feel sorry for your dad only just coming back into your life to be seen as a walking cash point, your a disgrace you make me sick
@ no name
Ok mrs no name…how bout your reply to this : should a father who was pushed out of his daughters life through no fault of his own by a wife whom only married him 9 months before and moves to Germany with his daughter to live with the idiot her husband caught her cyberwhoring with. Then be expected to be bled for hundreds of pounds each month for the privilege AND on top of the idiot she now living with working a full time job AND her also claiming all the other benefits under the sun AND if all that’s a fucking bitter pill to swallow the Nrp is NOT entitled to even ask let alone have assurance from the CSA that the money he’s robbed of each month is even spent on his daughter. You see mrs no name,this is why so many of us posting on here are sooooo pissed off, it’s a system that’s unfair and biased towards the pwc.we Nrp’ s have NO RIGHTS,NO SAY IN ANYTHING. We are just used as ATM machines to line the ex’s pocket along with the partners. The kids are just used as cash cows. The scum CSA DO NOT give a shit about the kids welfare. This agency is a stealth tax disguised as a caring agency trying to pull children out of poverty….BOLLOCKS!!…..it’s a stealth tax designed to exploits parent break up’s by screwing the the Nrp for cash it has paid out to the pwc on benefits. It’s a ” rob Peter and pay the treasury ” outfit.
So what would you like to say about that mrs no name ?
Or maybe this c**t csaworkerx might like to say a few words on how he,she or it thinks this is all fair ? But I guess not as my posting has no advise you can offer by way of how to successfully bleed a Nrp of as much cash as possible.
Gonk
I was a single parent and can tell you it was a doddle compared to being an nrp’s wife! My ex was violent etc and because of this I am better off without him and need no ties to his money for him to have a hold on us!! But if I could change it, I’d rather the kids have a dad for emotional support
instead of a financial one!
Believe me everything I have I have paid out of my own pocket and have done since the age of 16. I do not want anything from anyone and never do!!! I don’t want his money, neither does my mother who I have actually spoken too… I just wanted advice that’s all. I would never bleed him dry, I just think seem as he is 50% responsible for my birth that perhaps he should have contributed towards the debts he incured before he disappeared on Me (twice). I’m not a leech thank you, everything I have I have because I earned it myself thank you very much! I only use my mobile as I do not have a computer and do not know this website.
None of you know me. You are simply judgmental idiots.
Clearly you all gave nothing better to do than judge the world and it’s uncle.
Perhaps you should all take a look at yourselves.
Nasty people….
Goodbye!
@no name
if we are nasty people then guess what ? women like you and money grabbing ex’s with full support of the csa…made us that way.
In real life tho we are just hard working people who are being screwed by a system that works on one way. You think we are nasty people when nrp HAVE NO RIGHTS,NO SAY. I do hope your good bye is a final one no name ?
all nrp’s want is a system that’s fair where both pwc and nrp PAY EQUALLY. You said yourself its 50% responsibility for your birth….so why is it 100% the nrp responsibility to pay for the kids if parents split up. I am not saying you don’t have a fare good reason to gripe on here,but you seem to miss the point that many a nrp and nrpp’s are trying to get across to you.
“do not want anything from anyone and never do!!! I don’t want his money, neither does my mother”
and what the hell is above remark all about when you clearly asked the question “can we claim back the money owed” where the hell do you think the csa are going to get that money from ?? HIM. so much for you or your mother not wanting his money, and clearly your intention is to give his address to the csa, why else would you tell us you have his address.
gonk
@ No name, you dont want his money, but you came here posting for advice asking if you could get it, Can we claim back previous years you said, that means you wanted his money and now you know what a slmy bitch you sound you deny wanting anything, i would tell the guy to disappear again before he gets trapped by the both of you again, i would!!!!!!!
I do not agree with bleeding people dry and I certainly don’t think it is fair that fathers have less rights etc… But I do agree that their should be a contribution.
Well my mother has never claimed benefits. She has three jobs, works minimum wage, brought up three kids on her own and struggled putting food on the table. She is under weight and living on the poverty line.
What do you think of that then guys?
I don’t want his money! I was asking for my mum… Birch.
I asked for advice on here and THEN I spoke to my mother who said she wanted nothing to do with him…. You guys gave got this all all wrong!
Why would I want anything from him!? ? ? ? I wouldn’t touch his money with a stick let alone spend it! I worry for my mother who is working her arse off doing 60 hours a week to pay off 50% of his debt he left her in.. She’s working herself to death and making herself ill. She only found put yesterday he got in contact with me.
and actually I have no intentions if giving his address to the CSA thank you very much as my mum has said she would rather struggle. She has considered going bankrupt.
You are spiteful actually because none of you even know me. You all asumed that I wanted the money but I don’t… You all feel sorry for a “man” who walked put on his wife and kids…. We had a lucky excape. He is scum!
For the record I think it is extautionate some of the money guys pay by way of CSA especially when they ate only allowed access once or twice a week, but they should CONTRIBUTE something instead of changing their name and running away like a coward and not as much as giving a single penny, giving a single birthday card, Christmas card etc. So sorry for being a little bit bitter! Ohh and good for you if YOU found being a single parent a doddle, but my mother is struggling like f***.
And he has never been trapped… Far from it!! How the he’ll have j trapped him? J was a toddler when he walked the first time.
I moved out at 16, work full time, Pay my own way and pay my own bills so f**** you to anyone who calls me a money grabber.
But your 22? You’re not a child anymore so why is it your dad’s fault that your mum is struggling now?
You sound very bitter, and my children’s dad echoes all that’s in your dad, but I would never discuss that with them….at the end of the day that’s still their dad and whatever fault we had as a couple lies between us.
@ no name
You do understand and sympathise with some of the treated NRP’s get after reading your last comments,and I for 1 appreciate you for that, but I still don’t get why you came on here in the first place if you want nothing to do with his money and neither your mother wanting it. But you did ask about claiming it back. The CSA won’t give you anything unless they get anything from your dad,so the money would come from him.
If they did track him down and start getting money out of him? Would you take it?
My guess is yes you would, so much for some of your comments above then if you did?
Oh and my mother struggled hard all her life with a dead beat father that was always on the piss, me and the rest of my brothers and sisters are all well and healthy ….all 9 of us AND there was no free hand outs for mothers back then as an awful lot of mothers expect today.
Gonk
My case is similar to yours, my sons are 19 and 21 now, i claimed in 2002 so it was the old csa scheme so if your mother claimed before that and has been working she should be entitled to child maintenance for you but if she wasnt working even if he has paid, its the secretary of state gets the payment, if your dad hasnt paid a penny, im afraid they dont pay your mum then, they can only pay whats been paid and in many cases my own included i have seen letters that my ex has paid thousands and i have only received 3 £10 payments so with the csa and it being so slow to sort cases out sometimes it just isnt worth the hassle xx