Struggling to support my children with no CSA support
I left my husband in 2000 and moved back to london. The child support agency down south were in contact with my husband straight away. We come to an arrangement and my husband paid £50 aweek for both children. In 2001 the communcation between my exhusband broke down. He cancelled the direct debt for my child support.
I return to scotland in april 2001. I filled in several forms for c.s.a support and never heard any thing. I even called falkirk and the england branch who delt with my case down south. still no communication. My son got custody of my son during the diviorce process.
But He still never paid any maintence for my daughter. In 2005 or 2006 my son who had stayed with me two weeks out the four returned to me full time after hiring his own lawyer. i have still never received a penny from my exhusband or c.s.a my son is still at college and still carry the burden by my self and have done since the day i left him.
I have ended in finacial trouble supporting my children who i love dearly.
But i am sick of hearing about the hard done by fathers what about as hard working single parents.
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I applaud the fact that you are a working single mother. Pity i am no longer in contact with my idle slob of an ex wife as i would forward this email onto her. I am sorry for you that the CSA and the father of your kids have let you down so badly. But dont trash us working NRP either. Until now my ex wife has led the life of reilly as the saying goes. Money being thrown at her from all directions for doing absolutely bugger all to earn any of it! 2 kids by different dads ( me being father to the oldest ) So 2 lots of child benefit, 2 lots of maintenance, income support for herself, so no pressure on her to actually go get a job, rent and council tax paid for her plus 2 lots of child tax credit. All of this tax free! Using various websites i worked it out that my ex was receiving around £450 a week at least in direct and indirect benefits. Only £50 a week less than i earn nett per week for the job i do full time. For that she doesnt even have to get out of bed for. Nice little cottage industry for my ex there. Sit at home and get paid for it.
I too ended up in financial turmoil thanks to the CSA over charging me for over 4 years. Thankfully now my daughter has turned 18 and because of the incompetence of the CSA i no longer have to pay any more maintenance even though my daughter is still in full time education. They cant take any more from me as they over charged me that much. So i get to stop paying a year sooner than i should. Only now can i knock any serious holes in the debt i was left straddled with. So once again, i take my hat off to you for having the ethic to work and raise your kids. Respect!
You didnt mention why you left your husband,if it was your chioce because you didnt love him or want him around any more ? then I say get on with it and leave him alone,you made the chocie not to have him around anymore so deal with it.I hope you not one of these women that expect ex husbands to keep you and your new lover and your new lifestyles ? whilst he can no longer have a life at all because of you and the bloody idiots at the csa.If you left him because he was an asshole and beat you ? then as the gentleman above says “respect” at least you work,agin like the gentlemans above ex….mine is a lazy good for nothing cow that probably works the benefits system so well ,she gets more in hand outs than I have to work for,including her rent paid,council tax paid etc etc…she left me after just 9 months of marriage,we had been together 7yrs,did she go into the marriage very seriously?? after 9 months and leaving me for a german she was cyberwhoring with…..NO….I dont think so….she wanted nothing more to do with me but sure as hell still happy to take £320 a month from me for one child that I never see.she has little self respect,call me old fashioned…but if a woman wants nothing to do with her husband who only ever cared and supported his family in favour of another bloke then I say go…go away and be happy and let HIM support you now and the kids you took from me….why should I still have to pay????
yes im bitter and its made worse by the fact I brought up her daughter from a previous relationship since she was 18 months old and with out a single penny of help from the father,she never filed a claim with him with the csa in all the time I was with her,but i accepted his daughter as my responcibility and got on with it.but she was on a mission to get money out of me after she left,and I was good to her unlike the asshole before…wheres the fairness in that??….some women are bitches and work the csa to their advantage…my daughter is used as a money cow..pure and simple…theres no way that the bitch is spending £73 a week on my daughter,its subsidising her lifestyle along with her new bloke.
So yes….us NRP’s usually the fathers ARE HARD DONE BY….I am sick and tired of women bleeting on about useless fathers…alot and I mean alot of us are kind respectful caring fathers but are being slowly grinded down by their past called “the ex wife” and these incompetent assholes called the csa.Once these scumbags bag you that its…your life is ruined.
Haha loving ur flippant posts guys I’m sure your children would love to read ur opinion on they’re mothers get a grip and support ur children !