Stopped from seeing my child by my own mum
I have a 12 year old son who I haven’t seen or be able to see since he was one as my Mum decided I was an unfit parent.
I was suffering from severe post natal depression at the time and foumdfound myself walking away from my son. Mother made it clear that I was not allowed contact with her or my son. I was on my own and it took me a long time to come to terms with my depression.
Fast foward 11 years and she is now asking for CSA payments. The CSA contacted me and advised that I had to pay arrears going back to when my son was one. I am now paying 30% of my wage to her every month.
I have begged her to discuss this with me privatly as I now have two 6 year old step children and a partner. I want to contribute to my sons upbringing but I can’t afford what the CSA have said I can.
We don’t go out partying ever, my partner works little hours to support his children and we have little savings. I have now fallen behind in payments again as I have missed a month and I have no idaidea what to do. Help!
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Csa starts from when your mam started csa thats only from then u owe money from and as for your son csa dont care about u as long as your paying money if i was u going get legal help so u can at least see your son
I would file for custody if I were you. He’s your son, not hers. Your rights are stronger. Where’s the child’s father in all of this?
Your best bet is to go to citizens advice ,they can advise u on how it works regarding your personal situation and even help start the ball rolling and tell you your legal rights.it helps first if u know what your rights are as the mother to your son . If u want your son go and fight for him and get him back. As already stated u need to find out when your mum first made a claim as they can only start it from that date . I doubt it’s took eleven years to get a letter from the Csa which can only mean she didn’t apply for it back then she must have applied within the last year which means u will only owe money from that point x