Stop working when the CSA comes calling

9 thoughts on “Stop working when the CSA comes calling”

1. You are just so pathetic its unreal, its for the children, remember that!

2. karen bedford

   its not just for the children though is it? as the money we pay to the ex is keeping her & her new bloke in holidays every year NOT THE CHILDREN !!! we dont mind paying to the children and rightly so we should ,its just that the csa take a stupid amount of money in which it leaves nrp in financial difficulties so they end up not being able to keep their homes etc while the pwc is living a life of luxury the nrp cannot keep 2 homes running and my husband as 2 other children that we pay through an agreement, but with what the csa is taking from us those 2 children are suffering i suppose you think this is fair ,so dont tell me its about the children
   and yes like the guy above my husband is thinking of ending his employment because this is the only way we get to keep OUR HOME !!!!!!!!!!

3. My ex stopped work the minute he was told by the CSA to pay for his severely dasabled child. The amount he had to pay was £42 per week. Not a great deal I don’t think considering her needs and the fact that he doesn’t even bother to see her or ask how she is. Whilst in some cases I htink the CSA is too harsh on nr parents willing to pay but I think they are absolutely useless in a case like mine.

4. angie
   i do agree with you to be honest £42 pound a week is nothing and in cases like yours i do think its awful as you will need that money to take care of your child, but not all people are like you though and they just live in luxury with the money !
   my husband does not want to stop working but our home is at risk we simply cannot afford to live !!
   i hope they do catch up with your ex because in cases like yours it will not leave him struggling .

5. lets do the math shall we

   work full time and you just get by with a bit of a life

   the csa take a large lump of your wages which knocks you below minuim wage so you cant pay bill or rent (with no proof where the money is going or hows it been spent or if you can afford it

   my personal self before csa i was making do after the csa i lost my home , a big lump my access , and now working 40 ours a week and taking home leess then minum wage which what it works out as bill unpaid bills mounting up
   cant afford a home for myself and kids to stay .the best option is to stop work so a least you can keep a roof over your head and for some where for the kids to come and stay . there would be no different in money benifit or work is the same so why work for a no standered of living or life ,for something which has never been proven.

   i have access to my girls by court order which pisses the dead beat mum off and pay me no cm when they stay with me for a week .but the csa still take over the full amount .hmmm is this double standereds answer yes it is access
   must be 50 50 or there is no point working

6. the csa wouldnt be needed if people could sort things by themselves!!! if your a dead beat that would rather give up work than feed your children because your hung up with your ex, your hardly making this country any better are you!!!just because you find any daft woman that willl isten to your blatent selfish attitude doesnt make you a man!!!! the new women are often just jealous of their new partners ex!!! and if your that into spiting them even tho it hurts your kids you should ask yourself why!!! if your obsessed and bitter over your ex you shouldnt be in any other relationship shape up!!!! and grow up…your a discrace…just pay for your responsibilities without moaning!!!!!!! if you give up work may you live in the gutter where you belong!!!!…enjoy your empty sad lives…you deserve them! xxx

7. i had the csa taking £900 a month from my wage , they said i also owe £11000. good luck getting that. i had to leave my job and give up my house. so now im not working or claiming . ive dropped off the grid untill my case is closed when my daughter leaves education next year when shes 19 or the csa close its doors.

8. The CSA “system” sucks. It is fair for those who genuinely need money from the ex-spouse to support the kids but don’t – like Angie above. I think we ALL agree that the kids should not suffer.

   However, there is a definite issue in that whoever is lucky enough to gets the kids can claim 15% for one and 20% for two kids from the ex-spouse (95% of the time this is the woman !) regardless of their financial status.

   So why would one persons kids require £10,000 per annum from the spouse to be “ok” while someone else’s kids only need £2,500 per annum to be ok ? This percentage system is stupid ! It does not make sense. If my career progresses whilst I live on my own and my earnings double, why would that mean that I pay double the payments to my ex-wife ? The answer is that this is a nonsense ! There should be a ceiling on what is “fair” and reasonable PLUS the primary carer should be means tested too !

   My ex-wife has the marital home £450k – no mortgage), earns £100k per annum and I earn £100k and live in rented accomodation. But because she has been assigned “primary career” of the kids (I wanted them but lost the case because I am a man) she takes 20% of my nett income “for the kids”.

   Now, if that was the other way round, I am sure Karen Bedford would think I am pathetic ! This is just GREED and vengeance and the law sucks ! Why can my ex have the house, earn so much, have the kids and still take money from me !?

   There’s only so much money the kids need and I want to get on with my life wthout handing over a £20k bonus to my ex !

   Matt

9. I have read what you all have said – I used to be the parent which had limited access, but am now the parent with full responsibility (legal).

   I can fully appreciate the words written here, but do not accept them.
   The child/children come first.

   Steve