Spiteful ex went to the CSA to get more money
I split from my ex 3 years ago and ever since we had our own aggreement with regards to child maintenance which my ex informed the csa that we had. I live only along the street from my ex and i see my kids every other day.
I have never missed any payments and im 100% up to date with every payment we have agreed. Our agreement was i gave her x amount of money every week and when the kids needed new clothes, shoes, school uniforms or any other costs i.e after school clubs etc we split the cost straight down the middle.
A few weeks ago my ex rang me and asked if i could give her some extra money each week so i agreed i would give her as much as i could afford as my wages can vary from week to week. Now my spiteful ex has went to the csa. I told the csa i cant afford to have 20% of my wages took every week as i have over £900 a month in out goings which my ex knew all about as thats why we had our own aggreement. Now im worried how im going to manage to pay my debts etc without going under financially.
I’m single and so is my ex. I told the csa im willing to pay what i can afford which is what i was doing in the first place. If i pay 20% of my wages each week it will be a choice of keeping the wolves away from the door or eating!
Can i go to court and get our agreement enforced or to at least look at it fairly? I dont mind if i have to pay a bit extra as its my kids and my ex knows ive been there from day one and always done my best to support her and my kids even after we split. Now i wont even speak to my ex as i just get all wound up.
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The CSA will take 20% of your income,they are not bothered if you say you cant afford it.It would be better for you to come to a private agreement with your ex wife.If you are paying anything from today get her to sign for it ,if allowed put it through her bank,anything to prove you have paid.Unfortunatly to the CSA you are a reference not a person.they will not care if you cant afford to live ie. feed yourself,heat your room,get to work or have a social life.Solicitors will not be able to help you much except take your money with no result at the end of it.If the PWC has already informed the CSA then start putting money aside now because they will start to incur arrears on your case,sorry to say but your life is on hold till your youngest child is 19 years old.
Going on from Alice said, the gifts, school uniform etc has to stop, this is what cm covers and your ex will soon realise that she can’t have it her own way. Keep all the paperwork that is sent and never talk with them on the phone, request it all has to be done in writing, send letters recorded and make copies, also send emails as they have a duty to reply. If your ex moans that csa has ducked up her payments then tough, her choice to involve the csa. Start fighting back and not giving into her demands….I know its hard where kids are involved, but now the csa are on your back its going to get tougher to get anywhere with them. Good luck.