Some parents make me mad with their selfish greed
I am a mother of two, I work and also qualify for tax credits etc (which keeps us going til my babies start full time school.) It makes me mad how some parents can be when it involves their children. My Dad has just won his case of 20 years after constant battling with the CSA. He and his first wife had 4 sons in the 70′s/80′s and as part of their divorce settlement my dad offered to sign over the house (which had been paid for and equated to MORE than what would cost to keep the boys til 16 years old or whatever age!!!) in return for not having to pay CSA each month, his wife agreed (at the time she mustv’e just seen pound signs before her eyes) and so they went to the solicitors and legally bound everything.
After a while she mustv’e thought ‘Hmm, wonder what else I can get from him/??’ so then the CSA have been chasing my dad for around £63,000 the greedy mare!!!! Unbelievable!!
My Dad finally won this case last year and is now left alone! I myself have chosen not to persue the father of my children for monies and am sure that, out of pride, if he chose not to see the kids I wouldn’t want anything from him either (his loss in my mind). I feel that I am lucky that he is involved with his kids so agreeably and in time him and I have developed a nice bond where the only people that come first before any slight bickering about who is having who at xmas etc is the kids. Now we have a laugh and a joke sometimes too. This is my opinion and far more important to me as a mother than having extra money in my purse. As far as finances go, if your able-bodied all you need to do is get off your backside and work, tax credits can even contribute to nursery places too til your babies are at school etc.
There are some seriously greedy people out there, and I maybe judgemental, but I wonder how many parents ensure taht the money from ex-partners is actually used for the childs maintenance? P.s don’t give up, if you have a right against ex’s who want the shirt of your back keep at it! It took my Dad 20 years of his life disputing every few months when letters received, but he’s said at least its not taken over 60,000 from his bank. Victoria. P.s my Dad has always been there for his sons and we all meet up regularly too.
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Totally agree with you, I feel really sorry for those who pursue their ex’s for money, it just screams either bitter ex wanting revenge or someone who cannot cope alone. In my opinion doing it on my own was far more satisfying than having to rely financially on someone I no longer wanted in my life.
I’m glad your dad finally won his case and shame on the women who see their children as little £ signs.
My Ex had the benefit of my inheritance from my parents. It was used to put a deposit on the house, furnish it and pay for for a family car, and family holidays.
I paid her £77,000 in divorce, plus I have paid £27,000 in child maintenance to date and I give my non resident kids money if I have any spare.
She has had £40,000 inheritance from her deceased mother and £30,000 from her deceased uncle. She hides money in her mothers old bank acccount, by adding one of my sons name on to it. I have told the CSA they do nothing.
She has been caught out over-claiming £7,000 in tax credits and has to pay it back. Ha!
She can work full time, but tailors her hours to suit claiming what she can.
She worships money more than her eldest son whom she left behind with me when she got caught out by me, having her fling.
I’m glad your dad won his case and I am a great believer in ‘what comes around goes around’ My ex will get hers eventually, and I will enjoy the moment!
i totally agree!!!
it is dispicable how people use kids as a meal ticket!!!
Some good news on this website!
Unfortunately, my ex partner could not take the harrassment and threats that he gave in and just handed over his house to them. He fell to pieces and it wore him out.
He always paid child maintenance but greedy Mammy wanted more and told him that she would sort him out and get everything he had. She loves money more than the kids too and will not allow us to get on with our lives.
She gets benefits and scams everything but the CSA dont care. They have destroyed my ex partners life.
His ex wife wont have any luck with the money from his property. Imagine smiling and being happy about making someone homeless