So annoyed at CSA

September 9, 2014

Me and the ex have been apart a good 2 years or so, my son is 4 on Monday and she’s refusing to let me see him. 🙁

His always come first in my life even when we was together she would go town and leave him with me , 2 months ago csa are now making me pay £60 a week , up untill September last year my son was with me 4 to 5 nights a week but me and the ex agreed Becase I work n son’s best interest he stopped at hers Monday to Friday becase of school and see me weekends, plus any holidays he would be at mine to , last year we went on 3 holidays a week at a time.

Iv spoke to csa and there not bothered what my outgoings are and I have to pay £60 a week , I kicked her out my house for cheating on me 2 months after buying the place so left me strugling I had my son for months wile she got her self strait , she married a waist of space husband who is violent and has a drink problem 4 to 6 months after me kicking her out.

Now I’m left strugling and slowly going into debt missing my son like mad wile paying csa £60 a week I know full well won’t go on him and she’s refusing to let me see , I was always willing to give money to my ex for my son as long as She got recept.

I’m now seeing a girl who has 4 amazing kids , if I moved in ill have to support them and still pay my csa but she sed it will come down to £50 a week :/!!! Wow Feeling so low and feel I’m working so hard for nothing all the signs point to me quitting work and selling the house but I’m keeping strong for my son when or if I get to see him.

Really annoyed at the system no wonder ppl have kids and claim bennifits

Comments

10 Responses to “So annoyed at CSA”

  1. Charlotte Rosevear on September 9th, 2014 3:51 pm

    Dont want to be rude but csa has nothing to do with contactm unfortunately you have to pay csa if you see your child or not. Maybe try and see him at the weekend and spend some time with him that way x

  2. Ben Wiskin on September 9th, 2014 3:57 pm

    The csa are not there to support children, despite their name.
    They are a brutal government supported debt collection agency capable of ignoring national laws to tear money from people (generally men) even if it makes you homeless, jobless and suicidal. To assume they will take your outgoings into account is folly, they do not care, they want your wages, not 15%, however much they like and they’ll take it, by any means necessary.

  3. Alan Gaming on September 9th, 2014 4:58 pm

    Take her to court to see your kid and ya csa dont care

  4. Amanda Johnson on September 9th, 2014 5:14 pm

    Go via court for access

  5. Peter Anderson on September 9th, 2014 5:48 pm

    Before you rush off to solicitors and Courts, get yourself down a local Families Need Fathers meeting and discuss with others in the same position the ways of getting contact. It has nothing to do with the Csa. NB the longer you leave it the more difficult it becomes.

  6. Fadela Seddini on September 9th, 2014 5:48 pm

    She has no right whatsoever not to let you see him, don’t go to court you will waste a lot of time, energy and money. Don’t you have a family member or friend who can stand in between?

  7. Christina Shields on September 9th, 2014 6:47 pm

    Court won’t entertain you until you try mediation. If ex refuses then you get a form but can’t go to court without one but they are only valid for 3 months

  8. Nathan janes on September 10th, 2014 7:31 am

    I agree and disagree with all the above. TAKE HER TO COURT……BUT DO IT PROPERLY. I am in the middle of the same kind of situation and I have my first hearing yesterday, and, it was a positive out come. CSA DONT CARE…..PLEASE REMEMBER THAT.
    It’s up to you to fight it, but do it in the right way. The courts are not interested in the finances, they are only interested in the child’s well fair, which is all you should be interested in, this is about a father and child relationship and NOT money.
    I would call the CSA and tell them that this case is in dispute, they won’t be that interested, but TELL THEM ANYWAY.
    Then contact a mediation service, get some quotes as they all chard different fees, if you have a local RELATE service then try these, there quite cheap. If your EX refuses, regardless of excuse, file with the courts.
    You will need to get a C100 form, fill it out and return it to the courts, this will cost you about £220, but it’s the best money you will spend. YOU DONT NEED A SOLICITOR AND SHE CANT GET LEGAL AID so it’s now a level playing field, the courts want both parents to have contact with the child. Call CAFCASS, get them involved, I have had mix reviews about them, but for me they were ace.
    When filing your paperwork do not, under any circumstance make it personal, this is about your relationship with your child and not about attacking your ex regardless of what she has done.
    Before you go to court make it clear in your head what it is you want, once you have submitted your paperwork you can’t change it, do not accept anything less then what you want, but be reasonable and flexible.
    When you have all your paperwork send copy’s of everything to CSA, this is your proof that it’s in dispute.
    I guarantee that your ex will not be expecting you to do this so she will be in shock, if she is resistant to your contact or request then she will shoot her self in the foot.
    I had a small victory yesterday, I’m still at the beginning of my journey and I will keep you posted. So far it has cost me £337.50. If you do this then the rest will follow.
    BUT REMEMBER, THIS IS ABOUT YOUR CONTACT AND NOT THE CSA….

  9. Nathan Janes on September 10th, 2014 7:31 am

    I agree and disagree with all the above. TAKE HER TO COURT……BUT DO IT PROPERLY. I am in the middle of the same kind of situation and I have my first hearing yesterday, and, it was a positive out come. CSA DONT CARE…..PLEASE REMEMBER THAT.
    It’s up to you to fight it, but do it in the right way. The courts are not interested in the finances, they are only interested in the child’s well fair, which is all you should be interested in, this is about a father and child relationship and NOT money.
    I would call the CSA and tell them that this case is in dispute, they won’t be that interested, but TELL THEM ANYWAY.
    Then contact a mediation service, get some quotes as they all chard different fees, if you have a local RELATE service then try these, there quite cheap. If your EX refuses, regardless of excuse, file with the courts.
    You will need to get a C100 form, fill it out and return it to the courts, this will cost you about £220, but it’s the best money you will spend. YOU DONT NEED A SOLICITOR AND SHE CANT GET LEGAL AID so it’s now a level playing field, the courts want both parents to have contact with the child. Call CAFCASS, get them involved, I have had mix reviews about them, but for me they were ace.
    When filing your paperwork do not, under any circumstance make it personal, this is about your relationship with your child and not about attacking your ex regardless of what she has done.
    Before you go to court make it clear in your head what it is you want, once you have submitted your paperwork you can’t change it, do not accept anything less then what you want, but be reasonable and flexible.
    When you have all your paperwork send copy’s of everything to CSA, this is your proof that it’s in dispute.
    I guarantee that your ex will not be expecting you to do this so she will be in shock, if she is resistant to your contact or request then she will shoot her self in the foot.
    I had a small victory yesterday, I’m still at the beginning of my journey and I will keep you posted. So far it has cost me £337.50. If you do this then the rest will follow.
    BUT REMEMBER, THIS IS ABOUT YOUR CONTACT AND NOT THE CSA….

  10. Andrew T. Llewellyn on September 10th, 2014 10:22 am

    Unless it involves more money, CSA don’t give a shit.

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