Single fathers are treated unfairly
My son came to live with me in July 2007.
I contacted the CSA about a month after he had been with me telling them my ex was working for cash they said that they would look into it? after a few months they said my ex had told them she was not working, and that they had to belive she was telling the truth.
I have since contacted them on numerous occasions telling them she is and has been working since i contacted them in 2007 at one stage they told me to contact the inland revenue fraud dept as there was nothing they could do? This i did and a very uninterested lady told me they would pass it on.
I have also told them my son has been going to this work place and earning £20 for the day with her as he goes to her every other weekend although she doesnt seem to want him during school hol periods i have been told by him when he comes back from a weekend with her he has been bored as he had to go to work!!!!! with her?
All this i have told the CSA but they really dont care because they have to belive what she tells them not me. I know all these jobs are cash and have offered names and addresses but they will not help me.
You need to realise that my son could be in deep trouble if she finds out he has told me thi.
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Okay, so the CSA would make a £0 assessment based on net pay.
You therefore need to request a variation based upon her lifestyle being inconsistant with her income.
I'm in Australia, and let me tell you it is no different here. I had evidence in the form of "payslips" proving my ex was getting paid cash in hand and they did nothing, they said there wasn't evidence. My ex hasn't put in a taxation return since 1999 and they do nothing, but harass me for my tax returns. The system is so unfair, it makes you wonder why you even try!
ive had the same problem.the csa expected me to go out and give them the proof and they would then TRY to deal with the case..when the ex isnt claiming any sort of state benfits and also not payin any sort of tax how do they think these people survive!..of course theyre working cash in hand yet the csa and even as you say the inland revenue do not seem bothered enough to chase them!..its ridiculous..
hang on if that was a father they would assess him with a default rate until he proved his income – why is it different for mothers?
I thought that Duncan, isnt it £40?
It's different because you're not on benefit. If you were, they might chase her, although as a woman, unlikely. Because they would then have an incentive to collect the money and keep it. Try losing your job and going on benefit (must be Income Support – not Job Seekers) and then they might do something. I'm joking. Just stay as you are, you are damn lucky because the CSA are not involved. And you have your son! Keep it like that, and if your son is getting bored because he has to go to her work, then tell him to come home. Its up to him!
What a joke…!! So if the PWC is working they dont do much to trace this back yet if the non residential parent changes his job and the evil ex rings the CSA saying I believe my ex's circumstances have changed…hey presto there is a letter sent out straight away demanding information….that company are a total bag of s**t and to say they hold so many mens (normally) lives in their hands because one decision from them idiots can change the non residential parents life for good…If avoiding the CSA is possible then thats a very good way of doing things…
This is NOTHING TO DO with single DADS. Some deadbeat dads do the same to their single mother ex's. This has nothing to do with race. Both male and female deadbeat parents do this.
My ex recently told CSA about change in his circumstances and we STOPPED getting child support for a while now. And knowing these useless idiots they will take MONTHS to recalculate and reschedule the child support. How ridiculous. Anyway, this a-hole thinks he is punishing me? Huh, he is punishing his own child, not me. Stupid.
Sorry, sex I meant to say, not race. lol
Your right they will take months because thats how useless the CSA are but my husband is wise to them now and while his calculations are done he still pays the amount that was set last time….the whole place wants knocking down.
You are lucky. My ex never wanted to contribute. He only bought my daughter a pack of Tommee Tippee plastic spoons, a Boots plastic bowl with lid and spoon, a moses basket and 3 tiny milk cartons. He never bought any clothes, nappies or wipes. If I had waited for him, my daughter would have never had a breathing detector, a cotbed, nappies, later as she got older: more clothes, toys, activity games, highchair, blankets, etc etc. We agreed to pay everything half-half, he promised to give me 40quid as half of the breathing detector (costing 80quid) and everything. And he only used to give me every now and then 50 pounds. I asked him countless times to negotiate with me about visitation and child support. I wanted CSA to calculate how much he was meant to pay and I wanted him to pay directly to us without CSA being involved. He refused to cooperate, he didnt care when my daughter was seriously ill, he didnt care when i was pregnant and i nearly miscarried bleeding ,he said he'd take me to hospital and i was alone at home bleeding like a dog. He never bothered to come see his baby even on a scan. I was literally begging him but he didnt care. He changed his address and phone number and only wanted to communicate in emails. He never wished my daughter happy birthday when she turned one. He is a bully, a control freak sexing around. He expected me to go over to his place with a new born baby in freezing cold when the baby was ill having high fever so he could see her. That's how selfish he was. He kept demanding to see her but he didnt care when she had birthday, he didnt care when she was ill ,he didnt ask how she was doing. He never asked from me if she needed anything. He was violent towards me and then he reported me to police with domestic voilence when it was him who was violent. He also didnt tell police he refused to give my daughter back to me after he was violent and I decided to dress up my daughter and leave for both of us' safety. He hasnt seen her since and guess what, he never calls us although he knows my number. He changed his number and his address. Is this a loving, caring NRP who wants to step up as a father and contribute towards this beautiful child's upbringing?
Duncan Edwards – its not different for mothers!! My ex has been assessed 4 times over 5 years and was never made to pay the default rate let alone anything else. He now owes his sons £20k+. They wont get it…the csa are too busy harrassing fathers who are PAYE and sitting ducks.
Oh and he used to say he didnt have money to pay child support or buy our daughter anything yet he had the money buy a new car, a big @ss LCD TV (new one), new all-in-one printer, all these within like 2 months' time. But he "didnt have money", and he couldnt even afford to go to ASDA and buy 7 body suits for 3.5 pounds, etc….
Blimey Sylvia… you really have been hard done by!!!!Luckily my child has my support while CSA are still scratching to attempt getting any money out of me!!!! Not a chance!!!!!I will not allow CSA to rip off my child!!!!!!
Your child is lucky to have your support. My daughter's "father" is just a sperm donor in my eyes to be honest. He is everything but not a father. A father calls to ask how his kid is doing, wishing the child happy birthday etc…. You can buy cheap gifts even when you are broke, including clothes. There are so many sales, reductions, promotions, baby events etc to buy stuff cheap.