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Should I be paying CSA if the child lives with me?

November 29, 2014

I pay for my son’s maintenance via CSA and have done for 14 years, not a problem I’m happy to pay.

Three weeks ago I got a call from my son’s school (he’s in 6th form aged 16 1/2) saying that his mum didn’t want him back as their relationship has broken down. I agreed that he could come and live with me until things are sorted, or permanently if required.

My question is should I be paying CSA if he’s living with me (allbeit maybe temporarily – I just don’t know what’s going to happen she says she won’t have him back until the social services get involved and that seems to be taking a while)?

At the moment I’m paying his mother via CSA for his keep, but keeping him myself!

Many thanks in advance.

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Penny Wiskin-Fox says:

November 29, 2014 at 8:19 am

Absolutely not, you should not be paying your ex when your son lives with you. If anything, she should now be paying you!

Paul Akroyd says:

November 29, 2014 at 8:30 am

Snap ! Given you sons age I would be surprised if Social Services would want to be involved and if so sure it wouldn’t be a high priority for them. I’ve been mulling over the money situation for a week or so. I know it should be me who is receiving money but suspect the minute I raise this via the CSA the situation with his mum will be miraculously resolved which I don’t think is in my sons interest. Like u I’m happy to have him here permanently or temporarily

David Howie says:

November 29, 2014 at 8:55 am

Give the csa and the social sciences a call to inform them and find out what’s happening.

I’d be happy to have my daughter staying with me. After all we all want what’s best.

Andy says:

November 29, 2014 at 9:01 am

Funny that as soon as I mentioned it to his mother she wanted him back.

David Howie says:

November 29, 2014 at 9:30 am

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Steve Anderson says:

December 2, 2014 at 2:58 pm

Ye u shouldn’t be paying for him ring csa up

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