Shared Care Hell
I had a shared care deduction in 2011 having had my kids over 52 nights on previous years.
My ex agreed to this. In March this year she disputed my number of days (stating 48 in 2011, which I dispute), but agreed that I would have them about 70 this year.
I split from my current partner in April and got to a new house. My ex went back to the CSA in May asking for the shared care element to be withdrawn, (which they have done) until I have them 52 nights this year.
She insists I have them sat 10 till sun 7pm and do all the driving (200 miles a weekend).
Without the deduction I cannot afford to see them. Cutting my budget back to the bones I am short £10 a month.
She has confirmed to CSA that I will have them 70 nights a year this year but they have still cancelled the discount!
I get nothing for having them- just like a dad who abandons his kids.
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Shared care is a con.
How can you prove your children have stayed with you?
The onus is on the mother not the father to prove the dates etc.
The mother is hardly going to agree then receive a drop in CSA payments!
Another example of anti-father CSA bias.
Long may they rot.
Best of luck Phil 18, you are not alone but one of many.
Your ex sounds very demanding, and I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but you’re going to have to put your foot down! If you have your children for this amount of time, why don’t you get your ex to sign a diary with times and dates…start getting some proof and stop her calling the shots. You can’t go on like this, it will depress you and how can you move forward?? If this fails, I’m afraid you might have to go legal route and set contact out in a proper agreement, I’m just sorry that your poor kids are used as weapons because the mother think she deserves more! Also see your mp with getting payments reduced if csa are not listening….make sure you have any relevant paperwork. Wish you good luck.