Screwed up ex lied to the courts to get more money out of me!
God where do i start with this one !! i had a child with my ex who told me she couldn’t have children at all . She was an alcoholic and self harmer / and tried to top herself over 40 times . One day i had a call from social services to collect my son as she wasn’t capable- drowning herself in vodka on a daily basis prefering to do that than bring up her kids .
Whilst he was with his mum i brought a house for them to live in and paid £600 a month in child maintenance , if i didnt have the money they would pounce and take it if i had a better month .They crippled me . She moved a boyfriend into the house and managed to get pregnant again ( another miracle ) . after living with me for 5 years ,She then moved nearer to where we lived and moved his half brother into the same school although she actually claimed it would hurt my son seeing his half brother going off with his mum whilst waiting for me to pick him up as i work .
She has hardly ever worked and knows every trick in the book , she continually lied in court to get as much benefits as she can muster , during the 6 years he was living with me we never asked her for a penny ,.
Since moving closer she has manipulated him and hurt him to the point he now lives with her as he doesnt want to see his mum upset !!! .She systematically played games to get what she wanted despite any psychological impact it would have on my son , Now she has got the csa on to me and refuses to let him stay over as it means the payments would be affected !!! what a bitch , so guess what i am going self employed and f–k her .
I will give my son anything he needs , when we went to mediaTION IT WAS AGREED she give my son £60 a month out of the maintenance to teach him the value of money and how to save , she kept it all herself , she continually attacks verbally and by texts myself and my partner about everything we do and had a harassment order because of it , she lied in mediation, she lied to the courts and is a piece of shit , i just prey he doesn’t end up like a screwed up vindictive parasite like her , she gets my son to do the lying saying they are going away or getting some friend to sleep over to stop him from staying at mine so she can claim more money .
She has a picture on facebook with a picture of skeletons around a dinner table proclaiming thats what her parents will end up before she ever gets married – they’ve been dead over 3 years , thats the sort of screw up she is , one day my son will realise what a twat she is , my worry is he ends up a low life looser like her !!
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I’m in a similar situation.
With regards to going self employed it’s important to pay out through the company. Don’t personally pay expenses then reimburse the expenses to yourself.
CSA take that figure and add it to your salary.
Decide what you want. And then go for it.
Hire an accountant
Hire a solicitor for residence order.
Speak to Cafcas
Also possible to have her parental rights removed.
Before you go self employed buddy get some cash together, hide it in a credit union and sign on the dole.
While you are on the dole apply for joint custody of the child and apply for her child tax credits and housing executive payments. This will stop all her payments until it is sorted out.
There is a very good chance you will get the payments too as she has another child and gets other payments.
While she has nothing, then negotiate with her for a fair amount of money and she can have the benefits back.
With the limited company pay yourself a low wage 1200 quid for the first few months, the CSA will want three payslips before they make a decision. After that pay a director salary and the rest in divi’s 🙂
But really push for the personal agreement wth her while she has no money. You cant the hide the limited company income for ever. 18 months at the most depending on tax year.