Paying to fund lifestyle of partner’s ex
I have been with my partner for nearly 5 years, when i met him he advised me that his ex partner was pregnant and he didnt know if he was the father (she smokes crack, has a criminal record and has slept with a few too many). I said i would support him whatever and i respected his wishes not to see the child. Unfortunately he is just about to finish his medical degree and go to work when we get a call from the csa and a letter asking for money.
I am happy to see for us to have the child but we have good jobs and i don’t want to have to fund her crazy life style, this is a woman who has 4 kids with 3 different dads and she’s never done a days work in her life. me and my husbaand divorced 6 years ago and i’ve never asked him for a penny and i would never go through such a pathetic agency as the csa. I would love to defend the fathers out there but i am one woman alone!
I will do anything to protect my mans future and i’m really hoping one of you can help me and i don’t want her getting her hand on our savings!
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Right I’m also a woman, my advice don’t give them any details of your income and put everything in your name to protect what’s yours and your savings. Your man also needs to be 100% sure he’s the father, so don’t accept parentage until DNA is established, if she denies a DNA test the case on your man should close. Hope this helps good luck x
Hi Jay,
Thank you for the reply 🙂
can they actually touch my earnings and savings then? This is such a poor show, this woman has never done a days work in her life, she has 4 kids with different fathers, the first when she was 12, she takes drugs and is a criminal, how on earth is the Law fair in a situation like this! x
Yes, if they have him for arrears etc they can obtain deo’s, liability orders, arrest his bank account, hence why never have a joint account or savings in his name, or anything of any value to be honest….I’m sorry, I’m giving you the worse case scenario to be prepared…where csa is concerned be warned, they are not about children….I’m on both sides of the fence! My first advice is find out if he’s indeed the childs father, then take it from there. If he is, they will start taking money from when they were involved plus any arrears, keep all paperwork and never deal with csa on the phone, orrecord conversation if you do, keep a paper trail going then they can’t use anything against you. Also my advice, if he is the father try and get access and get a residency order in place, if the pwc is as bad as you say then the child least needs one loving stable parent. Be strong, good luck x
Hi Jay,
Sorry for the delay, i really think i need some legal advice, is there any possibility we can speak on the i really need some help here x