Partner’s ex won’t pay and CMS aren’t helping the matter

June 21, 2018

I’m writing in desperation to seek your help in regards to a huge outstanding Child Maintenance Service case between my partner and her ex.

Around 5 year ago they parted company, and ever since, the payments he has been expected to make for the wellbeing of his children have been sporadic at best.

My partner and I have been together for 18 months now and in that time he has been absent from the boys life for lengthy periods of time and has contributed very little. When he has contributed it’s been in cash and less than the already reduced amount agreed between mother and father.

The CMS are aware and there is a case number outstand. The last outstanding debt amount communicated was circa £11,000. I count an additional £2,500 has been missed since that amount was provided to him and my partner.

The CMS recently took him to court where he lied, telling the court he was paying my partner directly and regularly. Previous to this he told my partner that he wasn’t earning even though we have seen many pictures on social media showing him enjoying nights out with friends and highlighting his new clothing purchases. As a further example, he was recently at Park Life festival yet still failed to provide any payment for his children.

Luckily for my partner I earn a good salary. At the moment I’m footing the bill to ensure their two children do not go without and to make sure our own daughter (7 months old) also gets the best we can possibly afford. Once my partner has completed her maternity leave, she will seek out a new role and go back into full time work. Until then though, the CMS payments that should be made, would be providing my partner with additional income so she doesn’t feel like she has to ask me all the time for money to pay for the boys school trips, football clubs etc.

To add insult to injury, there have been times when he turned up to our property and threatened my partner not to mention the numerous text and voicemails of the same malicious content when she prompts him that his children need income from their father too. Raising this again only today, my partner was met with more shouting down the phone saying he wasn’t paying for swimming lessons for his kids (I had advised her to speak to him about paying directly for the children’s needs rather than into her bank as a way of compromise).

This cannot go on. The CMS have already had over 24 months on this case. If my partner had remained a single mum she would have more than likely lost her home, car and job, all through ensuring their children were fed, clothed and had a roof over their head. Like many single mothers in the same position, she would have then been forced into claiming benefits, something she has never done and never intends to do.

I’m not sure what I expect you to do, but as stated this is now an act of desperation. I do not want my daughter, my home, my partner or my ‘step’ children having to go through this constant upset and torment because someone at the CMS isn’t moving fast enough and the Police are unwilling to ‘stop’ him from coming round here until he actually COMMITS an act of crime.

Where is the safety of good innocent people? People that pay taxes? Where is the justice for a mother who is constantly threatened when she tries to do the right and just thing by her boys?

I look forward to your reply. I hope you can at least provide some comfort or guidance as a minimum to help us get things moving.


  • David Joseph says:

    Morning Andy

    Do you have empirical evidence the ex-partner is working? What were the issues that were dealt with at court and the outcome? It would be good to have a full consultation with you or your partner about this. Please email me in the first instance at [email protected].


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