Over payments to the CSA
I am a father, have a 15 year old child (son) though his mum has full custody of him since he was born. I see him one evening a week and have him stay over from every other week end. In between I take him swim occationally.
My csa payments are regular by directdebit to the csa.
My concern are two fold.
a)Since july 2010 I made a request to update and reasses my monthly payments. Since then to present date I have made several phone calls, each time requesting hard copy of our conversation, each time I have had nothing sent to me. Each time they say they are waiting to hear from my employer for various forms of info, each time I have contacted my employer and they always say they have sent all that was requested.
I have been calling the csa every month at least three times each month. Still they have not updated me ?? What should I do?
my second concern is b)
My ex partner, I know is on benefits, a fully qualified supply teacher, that has a passion for entertaiment and longs to live in India. She somehow seems to afford to go to India at least three or four timesevery year each time leaving my son with his grandfather.
My concern is that she uses the money I am giving her to fund these trips.
The additional monies I an spending on my son when I have him stay with me cannot be confirmed as his mum refuses to acknowledge my extra spend.
What can I do to make sure the money I am sending for the upkeep of my son is actually going to him?
And advice would be much appreciated.
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If you feel csa are ignoring your requests then you need to write a letter of complaint and send it recorded, personally I would give up ringing then as it wastes your time and money. Have you informed the agency with the contact you have with your son?, keep receipts for any items spent on your boy and send them in, but keep copies. If all else fails see you mp asap
It’s none of your business what she spends the money on. Think of it as a pot. You pay into the pot, she uses some of the pot for her own things. Perhaps for every ten pounds you give her, you free up ten pounds of her own money (that she would otherwise be spending on her child) for her to pursue her own interests.
Its a difficult one this, the CSA are only a collection service and will not get involved. As far as I am aware there is nothing you can do about your fears but I will stand corrected. I have no idea how much you are paying but I assume its quite a lot if you are suggesting she is using the money to travel to India 3 times a year. Best case scenario the money for the trips is coming from elsewhere. Worst case, your ex is confusing child maintenance with alimony. Perhaps a little detective work and careful conversation with your son would help. If he is happy and appears well provided for then maybe you are wrong