No money from ex and CSA doesn’t know his address

March 31, 2013

I was just wondering if anyone could help me. My situation is that i have a 8 month old daughter which her father does not want, doesnt see her or ask about her and says he cringes at the thought of her. He has a child with someone else which he lives with but doesnt tell the csa that!

I have informed the csa and they told me to go tell fraud or whatever but as i dont know the address i currently can not. He phoned me up saying that hes taken his other son now through the csa which i think is right, but also said on the phone that the csa money his girlfriend is going to get, she is going to give him back, how stupid of her.

I wouldnt mind if the money was being spent on his other child but its not! why should my daughter miss out and he have his luxuries! anyone got any advice on what to do? thanks x


13 Responses to “No money from ex and CSA doesn’t know his address”

  1. Daniel Claridge on March 31st, 2013 2:09 pm

    My guess is that he told you that he wanted nothing to do with your child from when you was pregnant if so then I am sorry your child is your responsibility. Women have the rights to keep of get rid of the child while pregnant so my opinion a man should have the rights to say if he wants to be part of the child’s life or not and if he doesn’t and the woman decides to keep then its the woman’s responsibility to provide for her child not the blokes.

  2. Duncan Smith on March 31st, 2013 2:31 pm

    Money grabbing skanks on this page, hate them all

  3. Paul on March 31st, 2013 3:05 pm

    First, how do you know what he spends his money on? And secondly what business is it of yours? Stop trying for what you haven’t got and concentrate on what you have. Sadly a child without a father. You are going to have enough to worry about without trying to compare your child’s life to somebody elses. Do your best with what you have. Worry about things you control. If you can’t do anything about it then no point wasting negative thoughts on it. Make your daughter proud of what you’ve done for her…not resent you because you feel life has done you a raw deal…..And on that note…..the very best of luck.

  4. Author Chris Jones on March 31st, 2013 4:59 pm

    csa shud not say to fraud cos he aint committed any fraud . using the csa will just make things worse and chances are u wont get the money they rob n over charge the ex after they make up unknown arrears that are way over the top then the arguments start and the csa love it wen u rip each other apart then uv got years of hassle, the csa means constant stupid arguments with no results so best thing is try n get money from him thst he can afford or see a solicitor avoid the csa at all costs

  5. lisa on March 31st, 2013 5:27 pm

    Unfortunatly seems the guy who you claim to be father to your baby obviously didt want her, and this happens a lot, cant force him to be a father, best thing maybe speak to him and see what he can afford, its not all about the money, as you can probs see from other stories on here women do go out of there way to trap the guy into either being a da or just wanting the money, my guess is your not going to get very far with him being there for the baby, but do speak to him, not using the CSA is best all round

  6. GirlyGlamMUA on March 31st, 2013 6:45 pm

    @CSAHell find him yourself, using whatever means necessary! Works for me, my ex is a serial mover – house & job,always find him in the end!

  7. Melinda Bas on March 31st, 2013 10:11 pm

    If the “father” wants nothing to do with his child, then move on….. forget the money, it’s not what this is about. No money in this world will make up for the fact that he is absent from her life and refuses to be there for her. I am raising 2 sons on my own and receive no maintenance (well, £5 a week lol which i don’t even touch). As i said previously, just move on with your life, if he’s heartless enough to have abandoned his own flesh and blood then you know what to do….. forget him altogether.

  8. Amanda Johnson on April 1st, 2013 1:52 am

    its your choice you and only you will know whats best for you and your child do what you think is just and right

  9. lisa on April 1st, 2013 6:05 pm

    @ GirlyglamMUA

    We dont all lead sad lives by following our ex,s around to gain information for him to line your pockets, get a grip you sad cow, where your ex lives/works etc is no business of yours, im sure you would not take kindly to your ex doing that to you,

  10. karen on April 1st, 2013 7:08 pm

    You wont get any sympathy on here – but 2 make a child and 2 should support the child – join the fb groups child support agencies failings be careful about some groups as there are some not nice people around. Good luck

  11. Amanda Johnson on April 3rd, 2013 3:48 am try this site for advice instead of abuse

  12. karen on April 13th, 2013 10:58 am

    Makes me laugh – takes 2 to make a baby and 2 should be supporting that child so stop being selfish and support your children – both parents!

  13. karen on April 13th, 2013 11:00 am

    Wel done Amanda as you can see no one wants to police this to stop the bullying and biased bitter twisted people.

    I could be like you lot doing that but you know Im better than that and I know it, I did everything the correct way and maybe thats why I got further than what you have and that seems to be your problem.

    Join the facebook group child support agencies failings as you will be advice and support and not bitter and twisted people.
    Thats why the children grow up and continue the same pattern.

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