nearly 20 years of hell with the CSA

November 23, 2010

I have been involved with the CSA since my boys were young, nearly 20 years…

I left there dad back in 1992, since then i have had CSA in my life… My ex, didnt want to be a dad, and hasnt paid anything unless you think the odd payment of £10 one month to 5p for a year for 2 growing boys, anyway, as my ex told them he was self emplyed it has been hard to get a penny from him, well, as like some, you seem to lose faith in the csa, and as i have brought my boys up myself

I had a letter last year telling me i was owed nearl 3k, so i thought ok, lets see if we can get some back once an for all.. as i married last year my husband pays regular for his daughter and well, i thought i feel that my ex should pay what he owes… and as my eldest is nearly 20, yes 20yrs old…. he will have children of his own and my ex will still be paying… after countless phone calls… and not sending me any letters to tell me what is or going to happen, a kind lad finally brought my case to a case worker, who is looking into my case… and has told me that it will go to enforcement… now i think is this the waiting game or is something final going to happen…..

Comments

  • Michael Hallett says:

    there may be those parents out there that use their children as weapons to bash the other parent with.Far too many !! as it's far too easy to tempt Eve, corrupt her and encourage her to betray Adam. Nothing changes !!

  • Michael Hallett says:

    Laura Maybey didnt realise this was a place to verbally bash eachother, thought it was a place to support one another. No it's a place where we come together to realise the tragedy of the CSA, that causes and encourages us to bash each other. and subject our children to long term emotional abuse. Of course I'm going to attack those who nievely and or selfishly adopt the divisive ideologies of the root causes of these family problems.I apologise to any whom I offend personaly, cuz most have already been subjected to emotional harm, but I will brutally attack the deceptions, and those false destructive divisive ideologies that you may hold or embrace.

  • Michael Hallett says:

    Allan Morrell If I remember rightly… my childs first words was dadda!!!! not NO!!!Now aint that true. YES. How is it the father becomes the focus of attention, or is dad eaiser to say than mom ? 🙂 usually a lot easier to get along with 🙂 hiss scratch 🙂

  • Michael Hallett says:

    Alan; I am awaiting for the time my 2 youngest find out for themselves what an arrogant selfish greedy malicious argumentative lazy bitch their mother is!!!! problem with that is it reflects on you. I still find Her behaviours and activities very embarrasing. People and via legals, tell me what she says and does and I feel so shamed that i want the earth to swallow me.My 5yr old daughter said mommy is a liar she lies about everything, believe me there's no joy in that, it's so sad that she has that perception of her main protector !! PWC ? yeah right.

  • Michael Hallett says:

    Originals I objected to.1) He didn't want to be a father, coerced? false promises?2) already agreed what to do when separate!! well that's a good start, plan for the inevitable breakup WTF.3) Hostility towards the father of your children! and make sure they know he's a deadbeat! nice responsible attitude!4) actually think it's F***** funny, and go for him with glee.definately not endearing qualities, and suspect letter was a CSA submitted wind up anyway.

  • Michael Hallett says:

    a kind lad finally brought my case to a case worker, sickening init;;;Now what springs to mind here? a grovelling mangina new soviet male? who's hidden agenda is to … yep, cuz no real woman would consider him as breeding material 🙂 sad sychophanitic little shits will be the first up the wall if I get my way 🙂 wher's the puke bucket ?p.s. my gf has had a very hard time, but she aint got victim mentality about it, is very anti feminist and 110% woman, and would swallow the average snivelling treacherous entitlement chasing pathetic excuse for womanhood whole. She got pride and I'm proud of her.

  • Allan Morrell says:

    I dont hold my childs comments about his mother at all endearing… I find it just as embarrassing but I teach my child how he should behave rather than think about her activities which are being non conducive to his best interests… I provide the following answer… Now you understand why it never worked out…. I understand him for what he has to put up with!!! I clearly couldnt take any more…. That's why I went… and I hold my hands up…. hetotally understands!!!!He knows my door is open to him anytime… I will always accept him in my life……. He can be cheeky… but so can I…lol….I just do my best for him!!! support, warmth, shelter, electricity for TV and Games console, mobile charging, PC charging, internet access, clothing and footwear… food and drink go without saying also… but do we ever ask PWC if she could meet at least half way to the costs?????!!!!!! treats!!!!! He's nearly 14 now… I choose to make sure that he learns the correct way to live…. He knows his mother.. sometimes he's actually scared of her…. I'v told him if he ever needs to get away!!!! my door is always open…. that's all he needs to know and that I'm there for him no matter what!!!

  • Michael Hallett says:

    Get yer own life and get on with it.

  • Allan Morrell says:

    Nice 1 micheal…… thats the best type of woman there is….. shame on the PWC who uses CSA for the sake of revenge… those PWC's have no idea what it takes to be a real woman… funnily, the NRP who ends up with a real woman who knows how to be a real woman is clearly gonna be happier relationship than when he was with his vengeful caniving excuse of an ex….lol

  • Allan Morrell says:

    U let it out lad!!!!! It all feels better when it's all aired.. I know…works for me 2…..lol

  • Maxine Knowles says:

    Michael – did I see you on Jeremy Kyle recently? The one who never saw his kids and wouldn't support them that was it. Weren't you asking for a paternity test to try to wrigle out of it? Buying booze instead of paying for school trips? I would advise you if you ever have the opportunity to have any more kids to "put something on the end of it" as Jeremy Kyle says 🙂 Alan, thank God you aren't in a position of power in the country with your extreme views – god help anyone who upset you, they would all be wished dead…HMRC, the Bank Manager, the woman in Tesco who ran out of till roll!

  • Allan Morrell says:

    Oh I see Maxine has the opportunity to watch Jeremy Kyle and pass judgement without first having all facts……. about individual persons…. yet rather than states a suspicion by accusation!!!!!!!!!!…Maxine, during her lazy moments watching Jeremy Kyle every day… demands payments to fund her spending…(RETAIL THERAPY) from NRP….. how often did you demand money while he was with you?????????Maxine… to have any more kids, surely that would be were nothing was put on the end of it…. the logic behind your comment is impractical… the comment to have no further kids is to put summat on the end of it!!!!!!!!!!May I comment my suspicions or preferably ask????….. Has your NRP left you because of your selfish arrogant greed as clearly displayed by yourself responding to my extreme comments against arrogant selfish greedy PWC's/ women ????????As for Maxines comments towards myself… It would take more than your comments to upset me,Maxine!!!!!!, although clearly by your response….. it appears that my comments upset you!!!!!!!!!!!Also…… Maxine implies that she is qualified to make comments due to professional psycological studies and assessments of my state of mind….. about and with myself???????Extreme views????? do you mean my extreme views on PWC's who spend NRP's payments (via CSA or private arrangement)…..on retail therapy.?????……. or my extreme views on the children are actually supposed to be the ones that benefit from NRP's donations (via CSA or private arrangement)…. rather than the selfish arrogant greedy PWC who spends those monies on retail therapy?????…which of those extreme views do you refer to?????????Still you provide no answer as to what you would call a woman who recieves or expects to recieve monetory payments from a man for the result of a sex act with each other!!!!!!!I do beleive that it is a prostitute that recieves or expects to recieve monetory payments for result of a sex act!!!!!!! I should know… I'v known a few prostitutes in my lifetime!!!!!!Hey maxine… maybe I'd be the type to wish any offending bitch or punk dead….. Maybe I'm the person who has put someone to death because I did not agree with their actions, intentions or just the possibility they did not agree with my opinions….. Maybe it would be wiser of you to try judging your own actions before judging anyone elses!!!!!!!!!!!!!..As Jesus spoke… (Seeing as we are coming towards Xmas celebration of the saviour of people by the bringing of love , compassion, understanding….. and rebuking arrogance, greed and selfishness!!!!!) Let they without sin cast the first stone!!!!!!!Does Maxine claim herself to be without sin????????

  • Allan Morrell says:

    Maybe Maxine… I am in a position of power… you have no idea but choose to be irresponsible with your directions of comments… what if I was the type to take certain actions where I was able to do my dirty work for me?????Luckily for yourself that I am nothing like you may assume… If I was, maybe you would advise yourself to be much more carefull with your arrogance!!!!!!

  • Allan Morrell says:

    My extreme view is this Maxine!!!! It's called child maintenance for the maintenance of the Child… not maintenance of the PWC…Since when has the CSA called it PWC maintenance??????????

  • Allan Morrell says:

    Maxine.. I suggest……a further education in literacy is required by yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Maxine Knowles says:

    Actually having a full time senior management role in a global well known company and getting up at 5.50am everyday, and arriving home at 6pm and paying for all the childcare costs and other costs for my daughter, and doing all her homework with her, taking her on all her holidays, putting money in her trust fund each month, and paying for the mortgage I would say I am very well qualified to make views on here as a 'not at all lazy' PWC. I have always worked hard and think that is important, but I dont feel that there is anything wrong with being a stay at home mum to young kids – it's a very busy job for those who do it!My daughter (my only child) is loved very much by me and I will admit to mollycoddling her, but as her daddy isnt that interested I think she needs a bit of extra love, cuddles etc… Being a single mum not through choice, but because her father ran up huge debts without telling me and continually lied, I decided to leave rather than have my daughter in an unhappy environment without a good role model. Yes I love Jeremy Kyle by the way, I like seeing the idiots on there as it is quite amusing but speaking with you Alan is equally amusing. I am sure there are lots of other parents with care (men and women) who are in the same boat as me, who are parents with care who had the intention when they had children of being a family unit forever, but circumstances made that not possible. There are others like me who are normal, who have a work ethic, who want the best for their children and who are having problems with the CSA. I joined this site to share advice, help support others who are going through the same thing, and talk about experiences – to me, thats the value of this site. Not extreme views and stereotyping parents with care – who are sometimes men too! There are some great mums and great dads on here, with care and without care, so probably best not to spoil it Alan.

  • Jayne Bushell says:

    this site was set up to support each other and give support and guidence to desparate parents who want justice for their children !! some people on here need to realise this, its not about scoring points, we should all work as a team

  • Maxine Knowles says:

    Absolutely 🙂 x

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