My partner and his ex had a mutual agreement – now she’s denying it all
I wonder if anyone has any practical advice for us?
My partner and his ex had a mutually agreed sum of money he would pay her on a weekly basis. He worked agency and would frequently be out of work for long periods but we have always back paid her when he started working again. She would constanly prevent him from seeing his son whenever he was out of work, or whenever it took her fancy.
She has lied to the CSA and said that he hasn’t paid for about a year. Which is untrue as we back paid all moneys owed when he eventually got a full time job. However stupidly we did this by putting cash straight into her bank account and raised her money.
Months went by without a glitch then we receive out of the blue a final warning type letter from the CSA saying it wants over £3k off him in back payments?! We have sent off his bank statements showing this but they are still taking £200 a week from his wae slip PLUS £81 a week via direct debit. This leaves him with about £300 a week. Quite a lot you might think? Not when at least £120 of it goes into his dig and petrol money for working away from home. Which leaves £180 to eat, pay rent, bills and food. It barely covers the rent!
He is not a well man and this stress and anxiety is causing his health to worsen rapidly. On top of that he is left with no money to travel to see his son with.How is this benefitting the child?
We feel we only have one option left and that is for him to go on full time sick and live solely off my income. Which unfortunately would mean the the ex wouldn’t get any money nor would be afford to be able to see the child. Lose lose for everyone.
How are they able to blindly and without reason, trust one parent without listening to and damning the other. Listen to the facts! look at the bank accounts of both involved and make a legal and informed decision! Why is this draconian bullying operation in place in this ‘fair’ society?
We need advise because my partner and I are at breaking point.
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So the 281 per week he is paying. Is this 40% of his net ??
My advice is go and see your mp, take all your paperwork with you.
Also write a letter demanding a breakdown on the account and get data prints which cost 10.00
It seems the ex kept the csa claim going whilst taking money from your partner.
Good luck
unfortunatly its now a known fact th at the main aim of csa is to leave the NRP with the basic minimum to live off, I do believe giving up work is the only way forward, once csa get there nasty claws into you, you will never have any life money and more importantly access to the child,
Unless you have proof of payments you are buggered
We are in similar position.There was a case open from when they split up when she went on Income support ,it was a requirement then -it was compulsory that the CSA were involved to recover the money back to the state(since april 2010,i think ,there is total benefit disregard) Fast forward 8 years,despite paying the pwc every month by direct debit ,of which we have every bank statement, CSA aren’t interested in looking at our proof .My husband had to agree to pay by SO or they would have gone for the DEO.After telling him we could pay all the ‘arrears’ on his credit card (they seemed to have access to all his credit file by computer in front of them on a computer screen!They wanted over 33% of his wage because we are in an ‘arrears’ situation (Don’t forget we hadn’t missed a payment in all those years direct to the pwc!!) We have a young son too and they seemed very uncaring about his welfare over the 2 children(one an adult, one in late teens !)who live with the pwc who -don’t forget -was receiving money already from us. We didn’t hear from CSA until a year ago when, 14 months prior to that ,pwc raised a reassessment .She didn’t tell us, just took the money ,none of which counts!! They gave us £50 consolatory for taking so long to reassess us.( while we still kept paying the pwc-as we didn’t know there was a problem)We had to have a tribunal found in our favour for the children we didn’t know we could claim for & don’t forget the CSA knew we didn’t know about the pwc contacting them so we didn’t know to claim for them. It was a bit ‘off’ the amount we ‘owed’ to her but still have to pay rest of the money !Shocking how they wont listen to genuine NRP’s-tarring them all with the same brush !! We have our data file ,been to MP & the CSA just gave him a long letter ‘explaining ‘their’ decision………..to no avail.
Tell the Csa that you want them to take you to court and let a judge decide! Oh and tell them you want to be present at any court hearing regarding your case as I think the Csa just go to court and get orders without anyone being able to defend them selfs or have their say so they can say what they like to get the court order
Doesn’t matter if your at court or not you will still get shafted, the government has gave the CSA to much power and has taken it away from the judges at court, trust me. Have been down that road
Also I have a private agreement done by a solicitor and they only last for a year seemingly
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