My granddaughter’s father refuses to pay and the CSA don’t care
Hi. I just wanted to let you know about the trouble I am having due to the c.s.a.
I am now the carer for my granddaughter she is 15 and have been caring for her practically all her life but just after Christmas she came to live with me permanently as her mother no longer wanted her and her father has never had anything to do with her. We put in for her csa money as her mother had stopped claiming for her this was on the 28 of December 2012 we were supposed to have had money from them and as yet still not had any money whatsoever. While I appreciate lots of fathers do pay for their children there are lots that just don’t care.
We have tried on numerous occasions to contact them each time they say money has been sent out by cheques they don’t arrive and then they say they don’t know anything about the cheques then they said they could not put the money into the bank as one of the digits on the account number was wrong this was put right and then still no money we have been waiting for phone calls which they never seem to get and then we have to ring again then we are told the fathers circumstances have again changed then they are changed again we were supposed to have £216 paid from march this year and as yet we have still no money from them he seems to just phone up when he wants to he owes may be thousands of pounds as my granddaughter is 15 and has been fighting for money all the way through her life . they say they will send letters out letting us know what we are going to receive and the payment schedules but this has yet to arrive how can they know who they are speaking to they say it’s his firm but I don’t believe it their story changes from one phone call to another they are not working for the child we have not got a very high income and my husband is 66 and I an nearly 60 how can this man get away with this if he does not want to pay one month he just does not phone and they don’t do anything about it.
I am at the end of my tether please can some one help us I am not having a go at other men as my own two brothers paid for their children so I don’t see why this one should get away with it I only want what my granddaughter is due after he lives in a big private house is married with two other children younger than my granddaughter she should still be cared for it was bad enough having no father but she has no mother either please tell me where I can get him back in court he is just pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes
kind regards
Mrs E Stephenson
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Is the mother also making payments of her maintenance via csa, or is there an agreement between you both?
Are you in receipt of child benefit and tax credits for your granddaughter?
After reading your story I feel so much for your granddaughter – mother doesn’t want her and father doesn’t want to know. Unfortunately for father he is having to pay and deal with the Agency for a child he does not know.
Stories like this make you realise CSA is used as a weapon time and time again.
I am sorry to hear your plight, firstly can I say, I hope you are really proud of your Daughter, what a piece of filth she is, “No longer wanted her Daughter” what a disgusting piece of shit she is. It seems to me that the CSA should be chasing both the Mother and the Father of this child, but I hope that they pay special attention to the Mother, God, this makes me so angry, a Mother not wanting a 15 Year old girl and just dumping her on her Grandparents Grrrrrrrrrr. Does this piece of human shite know what psychological damage she has done to this young girl?
What about the mum are you not chasing her for Csa money or does she not count because she is a woman and she can pick and chose if she wants the child or not
Firstly I would just like to say that I could have £5.00 a week from my daughter but she is not working and has another child she has never wanted her daughter and I did want to adopt her when she was just first born, but her mother changed her mind they have never got on as for her so called father he was given the opportunity to be involved with his child and said he did not want her and even told his mother that she would probably not survive as she had spina bifida I think that’s how you spell it I am sorry if it is not I think that was the lowest of the low when there are children who are actually suffering from this, just shows what a low life he is. Even when my daughter did have her she had to fight tooth and nail to get money from him and I do know there are a lot of men torn apart because they pay for their children and cant see them it’s not the men I am getting at or the women I just want the csa to deal with these very delicate situations and keep on top believe me if and when my daughter does get a job she will be paying for and I am totally ashamed to think she could do this to her own daughter, but all this does not help the c.s.a are not doing what the name of the agency say they do they not helping my granddaughter and I take my hat off to the fathers who do pay for their children and in some of the cases I have read about on this web site I feel for each and every one of them
Thank you Elizabeth. Makes a change to read a magnanimous contribution on this site.
Unfortunaltly it works both ways, you cant chase one without the other regardless of whether your daughter works or not, the csa don’t care about destroying peoples lives as you have probably read on this forum, You cant reasonably expect a man to pay for an unwanted child when the mum also didt want the child, its either maintaiance from both or none, I sympathise with you, its hard looking after a child with disabilities, hopefully your problem will be resolved soon,