My fiance’s ex has stopped paying – how are we going to cope?
Hi
My fiancee has been receiving a regular CSA payment of £297 a month from her ex husband which we relied upon heavily for the 3 children we have (my step children). We received a phonecall last week from the CSA informing us that we are no longer receiving a penny as the ex is no longer working. My fiancee was so upset as this will now take us close to the breadline and I just don’t know how we’re going to cope.
It turns out that the ex is setting up his own business but I don’t know where we stand with this. How do I prove to the CSA that he is now self employed and how long will we have to wait before we receive any money again?
We really need this money to feed and clothe the children and we have had to explain to them that the next few months are going to be a struggle.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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Some one needs a job
I was thinking the same.
You seem to be laboring under the misapprehension that the CSA give a fuck about anyone’s children…
They don’t. (No need to thank me…)
if you cannot afford to keep the children let him have them, and you pay the csa to help him..
This is a wind-up, right?
Now u no how fathers n their wives n kids feel u should not b relying on this money fathers are not a means of income….fir u you get a job n support yr own dam kids
People like this mek me sik…….get a job n support yr iw dam kids……now she knows how millions of fathers feel……fathers are not a source of income so u can sit on yr bum…….many fathers n their families are below the breadline because of women like u using csa n bring greedy. N expecting hundreds a month u should not be relying on this money…….get a job n support yr own dam kids…..breadline problem solved……..
Have you given any thought to the father, who has been working to pay for his children, while a cuckoo like you has been living off his hard work? How about you providing for them. If I was to pull up a chair eat your food and give you the bill? Would you like it I doubt it Will you invite the father to your table he has lost his job that’s 100% loss
Err suggestion, get a fucking job you moron! Hells teeth!
Where does it say they don’t work ???
If he’s setting up his business then he has a year to establish his income so csa are right until he puts his accounts in to establish what he is earning. Are you claiming everything your entitled to as this should give you enough to live on, maintenance should not be used a regular income.
You took the kids on too. So do wot the father would do and look after them not beg for free handouts. The father has to work for the kids so y cant you.. If you dont want to support the kids y are you there. They are part of the mother not just the mother.. You take on the kids so get a job like us all. I pay 330 a month for my 2 kids that i cant c. So you think you have it hard.. Try not being there for your kids and paying the ex partner money for them and c how you will feel… Hard isnit bringing some fathers kids up without money so get on your high horse and work for the kids to have a nice christmas.. Goodluck..
Andrew, sorry to hear that you don’t see your children.
Well Andrea, this turd seems to think it’s his “income” as well! if the ex has gone self employed (and good luck to him, as I just have again) he won’t have any accounts for at least a year, so will pay a token amount, good news for the parasite who put this ridiculous post on : ) Looks like looking through rubbish bins for 12 months : )
Maintenance is a bonus that you shouldn’t rely on what would happen if the father was sick and couldn’t work would you phone the Csa and demand an independent doctor asses him to see if he is fit for work while you sit on your arse the short of the story is if you take on a partner with 3 kids you have to be able to support the 4 of them and maintenance is a bonus !
It does t say anywhere that they aren’t working firstly , I am in same boat more or less .
I work fulltime and my husband is in forces , my ex has decided that he misses his gf and he doesn’t want to work away anymore . He told Csa he won’t be claiming benefits and won’t be working , he’s leaving a £50,000 a year job , he has a £1000 pm mortgage and 3 cars one being a Porsche ! How can you just leave a job and manage to pay for all this still , especially as his gf has been made redundant this last few months .
You cannot say to people to support the kids themselves £297 pm is a lot of money to lose their father should be paying for them their his kids and as should any woman . The thing people forget is it’s not just a man thing , women also pay Csa and if a child is born between 2 people it is their responsibility to raise that child until that child is of age . I will be losing £400 pm but it’s not mine it’s the kids money , I see it as extra but it will still be a miss as little treats are just as I say treats for the girls now if your on the breadline how do you explain that to your kids ??? We are ok but some people arent .
It’s always easy to say you provide for them because youve got an ex who has been a dick at some point but it’s time people realised making kids has responsibilities .
my husband provides for us no questions , their his stepchildren and if their biological father or mother in some cases don’t care enough to financially support their children then it shows them as the people they are.
get on with it and support them yourselfs like millions of other couples do WITHOUT having the luxury of maintenance. Stop relying on an ex as a means of income. That said, this arsehole of an ex should be helping to contribute towards his kids and its the likes of him why the csa hound hard working fathers like me on paye system and give all nrp’s a bad name. Problem is far too many mothers with new partners just cash in on the ex’s cm and use it to just supplement their holidays,new cars,nights out etc,they use the kids as cash cows and the father of those kids as a ATM machine…that’s what fucks me off beyond believe is we have no say on how or even if ALL the money forced out of us by this scum agency is actually spent on the kids. We AINT allowed to know neither do the csa care which begs the question…they don’t care one little shit about bringing kids out of poverty.
Gonk