My Father Owes My Mother Money

September 11, 2011

I am a 16 year old and will be starting further education in upper sixth form. My father from 2005 to 2009 was not even supporting me, my mother had to support me by herself on her wage.

In 2009 my mother contacted CSA and they told her that my father owes her between £2000 – £3000. My mother knowing that my father is on quite a low wage decided to drop the outstanding payments (she was encouraged to take the money but still refused cause she knew it would put my dad in a bad financial state) as long as my father agreed from then on to pay £25 a week into my mothers account without it going to CSA first they agreed to set up a standing order.

This agreement was going fine until october last year when my dad got married. He cancelled the standing order without my mam knowing i told her as i overheard a conversation then when her bank statement come through it showed that he had cancelled the standing order. My mam was furious as she had made the agreement with my dad.

She rung him up that day saying why had he stopped the payments and he said to her “____ is my family now”. My mam had then contacted CSA and told them what had happened they said it would take 3 months to review the case.

Still no payment has been made to my mother and my father has now quit his job so he does not have to pay. CSA IS A JOKE!!


18 Responses to “My Father Owes My Mother Money”

  1. John on September 11th, 2011 2:20 pm

    My wife ripped me off for £177,000 and kidnapped two of the children, and held them hostage for more money!

    CSA is a money making machine for the government, it doesn’t give a damn about, Mothers. Fathers or children!

  2. sarah briers on September 11th, 2011 3:13 pm

    And even if csa took money off him u wouldn’t get any money especially if your on benifits as what u get in one hand u loose from the other! ! I have never had a penny from my ex and wouldn’t want anything but now my husband is having money taken from his wages and we have no money for any of the kids. So who is it helping getting CSA involved?

  3. martin dell on September 11th, 2011 7:47 pm

    you father owes your mother nothing she should get of her arse and earn her own bloody more instead of stealing from person person who does 40plus hours a week

  4. martin dell on September 11th, 2011 7:48 pm

    if the csa steal the money you wont see it fact

  5. Vic on September 11th, 2011 8:50 pm

    Your father owes your mother nothing , the money is owed to you, it’s Child support for gods sake. It’s owed to your mother because she is your legal guardian and the theory is she is responsible enough to use that money for your best interests.In fact, how on earth did child support become dependent on the absent parents earnings as i now pay a small fortune to my ex to support an extravagant lifestyle in which i get asked to contribute for other items I am truly sick of it . I reckon it costs, at most, £40 per week to feed and clothe a child. I pay for 2 so £80 per week or £320pcm is reasonable to me. I would say that it should be capped at that because the resident parent gets child benefit, tax credits and if on benefits the list is endless it is so one sided it staggers belief. I pay £880.16 pcm for 2 children I do not see conceived when I was a street alcoholic living in a squat 17 years ago – I had no clue what I was doing. I managed to turn my life around and started to rebuild a life for myself until THE FUCKING CSA. I now live in absolute poverty because I have a reasonable income and made many mistakes all those booze befuddled years ago by a woman that plays the system like a violin.Having vented that I feel better maybe the trick is personal growth after all that’s all there is. When do you stop paying for a mistake exactly?

  6. Karl Garrett on September 11th, 2011 11:40 pm

    typical.. fathers are just viewed as a walking cash machine..only useful when dispensing money…it’s shit being bloke…..

  7. nic on September 12th, 2011 5:48 pm

    Vic, if you didn’t know what you were doing, you certainly managed to do it twice!..there is and was back then, contraception.
    ..And Karl, mothers pay too!

  8. emma on September 12th, 2011 10:58 pm

    Martin dell how dare you !! My mother is a civil servant she does get of her arse and earn money and every penny she has goes on me all the time. We recieved a letter last week say that he’ll pay 2.50 a week. That covers just one days dinner cause have 12.50 a week to cover my dinner money its a joke. She also pays money into a account for me so that when i go to uni I got money instead of taking out loans. I am number 1 to my mother making sure that i am fed clothed and happy, that ain’t the case with my father he said to my mother over the phone he has a family now. Well what am i? If men don’t want or can’t support kids don’t f***ing sleeping around simple as. It’s split responsability mother and father should both support the child! I’m just making a point that the csa system is a joke they rob the guys who go out work hard and their kids mean the world to them, then there’s men who carnt be bothered to get of their arse go out and get a job and actualy carnt be bothered to care about their kids and they are the ones who get away with not paying anything! Respond to that all of you!

  9. martin dell on September 13th, 2011 2:43 pm

    looks like i hit a nerve there lol
    shame realy i dont sleep around
    well done your mother works that 1 out of 1000
    i do surpport my kids
    how dare i quite easly thank you
    70p in every pound to collect cm
    so kids recive 30pence in every pound how to the children benfits from this hmmmm
    my xwife does not work so i pay equal to a babysitter
    it should be the workers who get the children because they are the 1s who work to keep them off benfits ,
    your clearly a man hater or your dads fucked off for another women i dont know there 2 side to every story and you will learn in time on here every case is diffenert what the csa scum dont understand
    99 percent of case if you read on these type of site are the father working
    getting screwed by the csa
    restricted access to there children by the mother
    but the csa and mothers (not all) say you must take responabilty ,
    how the fuck can we do that when csa take more then you can afford
    only 1 person pay for cm the other can claim everything under the sun

    i work full time and take home 11.500 a year after the csa rapists
    my council office which i have in writing stating it takes 15.500 a YEAR TO RUN A BASIC HOME
    over the six week hoilday i had them for 3 weeks did i get cm like fuck i did
    so i payed for my children when i had them roof ,clothes food ,etc ,blah blah blah ,
    and at the same time payed my xwifecm not to have the kids for3 weeks
    so peeps like me pay twice
    i also had to get a court odred which helps against the csa scum and that way she cant stop me seeing my children
    wake the fuck up ive got 3.432 storys of all kinds on here when you have been fighting as long as some of us you might learn a thing or 2

  10. Emma on September 13th, 2011 4:00 pm

    aw grow up for god sake your arguing with a frigging 16 year old shows your not doing much with your life haha!
    quite easily isir? well get your facts straight first before you go writing saying for my mam to get of her arse and work when she clearly does from half 8 till half 4 monday to friday.
    im not a man hater and yer my dad is with a different women have been for about 5 years but thats not the point when people have kids they are responsible for making sure them kids are clothed fed and happy till the age of 18 no matter what woman they got present at the time. my mother is the worker and she is the one who looks after me so dunno what your on about! yer exactly every case is different so why write on mine when you clearly didn’t know anything just the basic facts that csa are a joke and messing my mam around but then you go ranting for her to get off her arse and work, there’s a saying ‘think before you speak’ you clearly havent grasped that yet! i dont need to wake the fuck up thankyou i dont care how many stories you got because it has nothing to do with me!

  11. Emma's fan-club on September 14th, 2011 11:29 pm

    The CSA give all of the child maintenance to the PWC these days, and it’s been like this for a while. The cost to run the CSA for the Government is approx 40p in every £1 collected, that doesn’t mean that they only send on 60p! They send on £1 to the PWC, and the costs are paid for by the Govt, just the same way that the Government pay DWP staff working at the JobCentre.

  12. tom on September 15th, 2011 1:25 pm

    Emma, its a real shame for you, your father’s not present within your life………….He may have been able to help you with your appalling grammer!!!

  13. ellier on September 15th, 2011 4:17 pm

    is it any wonder u lot have problems with the ex.pickin on a 16 year old.she has every right to be aggrieved by her father.she knows fair well that its not just up to her mother to be the only one doin the supportin.but oops i forgot its only you bunch thats hard done to isnt it.

  14. Wil on September 15th, 2011 5:15 pm

    Emma – I hope you succeed in getting proper financial support from your father and that you progress through college and higher education if you want to. You put your point of view very well and if anyone complains about your “grammer” they have made an idiot of thenselves, Good luck.

  15. Michael - staff on September 15th, 2011 6:29 pm

    Tom, it’s grammar, not grammer. Important word to spell correctly when slating someone for their grammar.

  16. martin dell on September 15th, 2011 6:50 pm

    would be intresting to hear the fathers side on this case

  17. tom on September 16th, 2011 12:51 pm staff…….I was being ironic in my spelling of ‘Grammer- Grammar’, but you would have realised that by reading Emma’s GRAMMAR !!!

  18. Emma on September 16th, 2011 4:00 pm

    Tom yer my grammar is crap on here i havent put in my proper punctuation(full stops, apostrophes, capital letters and commas in the right places) because im not wasting my time on making my writing all nice just to have an argument with that martin dell and im here to show how the csa have treated me and my mother not for you to test me on my english. if i wernt very good i wouldnt be in the sixth form and furthering my education on to uni to become a teacher!! thanks to michael, wil and ellier who have not made a pathetic remarks to me, the ones who are not seeing my point of few are probably the ones who are not supporting their kids either!! martin dell are you really that sad that you have to keep commenting to make a argument go pester some other 16 year old who justs wants the CSA to do their job properly!!

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