My ex told my son that I was dead
Hiya,
Ive 2 children by 2 diff mothers , one mother i have a good relationship with which i pay through standing order , and the other left the country when we split up when the child was 2 , hes now 10 only found out they were back in the country when the csa letter arrived 🙁
Now ive no quarms paying aslong as its all correct and the ammounts are correct. i earn 300 a week on average ive used your calculator it comes out 42.86 yet the csa have said its 61.00 , anyway i can question this ?? also there wanting me to do a application for the mother who i pay direct to but there confusing me with seperate applications and wanting my wage slips yet they had them through work 3 weeks ago. i feel lost with them, ive spoke to like 6 different people there , how can £61 be arrived at?
I have my daughter 3 nights a week but my son who ive not seen in 8 years she wont let me see him as she said it may affect how much she gets , id love to see him but im getting threatened with police etc… ive heard from her own sister she told him i was dead 🙁 hope i’ve given enough info for as little or as much help u can give.
thanks dean 🙂
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DeanMldd0,
The mother you pay via standing order, is that case through the CSA or a private arrangement?
If it’s through the CSA; have you entered all your income in the calculator, ie working tax credits etc OR has there been a delay between the CSA informing you of your second case and the calculation being completed that may have caused arrears outstanding on your account ?
If it’s not through the CSA; you may need to have both cases dealt with via the agency to have the amount for your other child taken into account.
you need to make a written request for your payments to be reassessed/reviewed, make sure you keep copies and log of everything you send out to csa. I would no longer waste time with telephone conversations, have it all in writing, then you have proof in case you need to make an appeal. Get hold of the manager’s details and forward any correspondence to that person, you rightly stated that you have now spoken to 6 different people, that too is a waste of time, they will always come up with a different answer. Go to the top instead.
Jesus how low can a woman stoop to keep a father away from his child by claiming he is dead!!!!! , personally i would offer payments privatley away from CSA, anybody that uses them knowing they dont care about families is crazy,